****** Your First Enema by Ben Dover ******
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Your First Enema

Ever wonder what it's like to have at least couple of quarts of water inside
you? Sounds painful, doesn't it. Read this FAQ to find out how to receive,
give...or just to explore whether or not enemas are for you or your partner.


TABLE OF CONTENTS

Section 1: Introduction
Section 2: Receiving Your First Enema
Section 3: Notes For The Giver


Section 1: Introduction

It's embarrassing, isn't it? You have this interest. You may be a girl in her
20's, a man in his 60's or anyone else at all in between--the thing that makes
you different from "other people" is that you have an interest in enemas. It's
not just the idea that a "clean colon is the best way to a healthy body" (a
good motto, by the way); it's a desire to experience the anorectal and colonic
stimulation provided by a skillfully given enema. You may have lurked in this
newsgroup (a. s. e.) for months, and yet you're still afraid to post or to
email any of the contributors. Maybe you even went so far as to get an "anon"
number. You may have even talked to your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or
wife about enemas in a tentative way--and been rebuffed. Or maybe you don't
have the ability to discuss this issue. You're just too shy.

If any of the above describes you, I have some suggestions that may help you
satisfy the longings you feel.

The first thing I want to tell you is that you are not alone, whether you are
male or female. Many people have a strong interest in enemas, both for
cleansing and for erotic purposes. I have personally corresponded with many
folks, both male and female, who share what they often call "the kink"--an
interest in receiving or giving enemas. Some (me included) like both giving and
receiving; others like only to receive (typically they are submissives), while
some also like only to give (typically they are dominants). There are probably
hundreds of thousands of people who enjoy enemas, but for whom it is a "dirty
secret;" after all, it's "unnatural" (so they think). I wish to say to all of
you who fear to reveal your interests, THERE ARE OTHERS LIKE YOU.

The paper that follows is an effort to help you find a way (or two) to express
your desires / needs in the context of your own life, or to find a partner who
has the same interests. I have been interested in enemas for almost as long as
I can remember. They always have seemed to me to have an erotic component, and
I remember that when I was still a teenager I fantasized about giving them to
my girlfriends. I also always enjoyed receiving them. I gave them to myself
from time to time when the house was empty (parents and siblings gone), and
felt a combination of things from them: first, they actually felt good to me--
the rectal stimulation, the filling, the pressure, even the cramps, felt good.
All the preceding were components of a very erotic experience for me. Then, I
felt good when I was finished. Lighter. Empty. Cleansed. Until my first *real*
girlfriend, I was too shy to discuss enemas at all. I thought nobody else in
the WORLD was like me--then I found that my girlfriend (we were both still in
our teens) had been given enemas by her mother--and she wanted me to repeat the
process for her. With her (as with so many "klismos"), the enema was a love-
hate thing. She wanted enemas (and, I'm sure, fantasized about them), but she
also feared them because of the pain/humiliation but wanted them because of the
rectal/anal pleasure, the stimulation and domination and... If you're a klismo,
you're acquainted with many of these emotions. Eventually we developed a
routine--I would ask her "how she was feeling;" I could always tell if she
wanted/needed an enema (or two) by her response. First, she would look down.
Then she would get a bit tongue-tied; then she would tell me she "wasn't
feeling good;" and, of course, that made me ask the questions leading up to the
conclusion: "Well, I think I need to give you an enema." She typically
concurred with my judgment, especially after we got the preceding routine set
up and began to understand each other's body language and verbal responses a
bit better. She wanted to receive, I wanted to give. Strangely enough, I was
too shy to tell her that I also would like to receive. To this day, I don't
understand my own shyness about this. Anyway, time went by and we broke up, and
both of us found other partners--and I discovered the great (and disgusting)
truth that there were also many women who did NOT like or wish to receive
enemas. This was a real blow. Now I felt like I had before. Nobody else was
like me. I actually believed that until the late 1970's, when I began to see
publications appear in the adult bookstores dealing with enemas. They were
usually fake (the pictorials, anyway)--but at least I now knew I was not the
only one.

Finally, a few years ago, I began to seek out people who wished to give and
receive enemas, either for erotic or cleansing purposes (these two things often
exist together in the mind of a "klismo"), and I found that there are indeed
MANY people, both men and women, who enjoy the enema. I say all this only to
suggest that your erotic interest (or other interest) in enemas is probably
very much like that of all the rest of us. We find them pleasurable (or wish to
submit for our lover's sake, or whatever) because of the way our minds and
bodies were stimulated when we were young--or perhaps there is a differing set
of nerves in the anal areas of klismos. Whatever. You're here now, reading this
newsgroup, and you want help. Here are some suggestions to improve your chances
of finding a partner and/or enjoying this experience:

First, if you're seeking a partner, be a real person. I know this ought to go
without saying, but many of the friends I've made on the 'net have commented
that I'm "nicer" than a lot of the people they have met. If all you have in
mind is your own pleasure, and what you want to do to someone else or receive
from someone else, the people you meet will discover that soon enough--and they
will lose interest in you. If, on the other hand, your own interest in enemas
is tempered with an interest in the enjoyment of your partner, you will find
that people whom you thought would NOT be interested will be. People love
consideration. I've downloaded most of Elf's (THANKS, Elf!!) pictures in the
last few weeks, and I enjoy them immensely; and one thing you definitely can
see in his photos is his consideration of the girl to whom he is giving the
enema. She is being treated like a real human being, not a piece of meat.
That's probably why she was willing to try this with him in the first place.
Enemas can take some getting used to if you've never given or received before,
and many potentially wonderful experiences are ruined because the giver forgets
that anal tissues are tender, and filling the colon the first time can bring a
lot of apprehension and discomfort. Be considerate.

You should also have an understanding of the other person's total sexuality.
Enemas are one part of a much larger picture. If your partner is a woman, what
really turns her on (assuming your interest is more than cleansing)? How can
you bring her pleasure? If she wants to give (and you're a guy), is she turned
on by the dominance and control she feels? Are you willing to relinquish that
part of yourself? What does she want to do AFTER the enema? Have sex? Be
caressed? Spank you? If you're a guy, and you wish to introduce this to your
girlfriend, think of *her* first. How does she react to anal stimulation? Is
she opposed to any "backdoor" play? If so, an attempt to introduce her to
enemas is probably bound to fail. An enema is quite embarrassing, unless you're
used to it. You expose a very private part of your anatomy and passively
receive what your partner wishes to give. It can also be scary. What if he
won't stop when I'm full? What if I leak all over? What about the cramping? All
sorts of questions crowd into the mind, and make it hard to say "Yes" to your
lover when he comes and proposes an enema as part of your sex life. There are
also some people who really DO NOT like anal stimulation. Those people are not
good candidates for enemas. So broach the subject in the general context of
anal stimulation and pleasure, if that turns her on. If the control and
domination aspects of your sex life are something she wishes to explore, an
enema is a tremendous way to show that you are "in control" of your lover. She
has to submit--to bare her bottom and LET you do this to her, which means you
have control. By the way, after you get started, and you've given her a few
enemas (if control is your "bag"), it's a great idea for her to come home and
find the bag lying on the bed with written instructions as to the temperature,
amount and type of solution, so that she can fill the bag and get everything
ready for you to give to her--and a set of orders regarding how she's to
position herself for your arrival.

If you are looking for a partner: I have found a number of female friends on
the 'net; most of them are scattered all over the country, so if you find
somebody close to you, you're lucky. You might try looking for a "submissive"
girl (if you're dominant) or a dominant (if you're submissive). Many
submissives will receive enemas, and also give them, if it's approached in the
context of their overall D&S and B&D lifestyle. Same thing for dominants. If
you're a woman, and looking for a man, look for someone who's interested in
more than your bottom end. Obviously, this particular "kink" drew you together,
but you should always feel a certain level of trust and confidence in the
person who gives to you. There are quite a few nice men ready to fulfill (or is
that fill full?) your needs. Most of the time you will find them advertising,
lurking, or posting to groups like a.s.e. Get to know the person if you can
first, and make clear what your expectations are (no sex? Tell him.)


Section 2: Receiving Your First Enema

Most people I've talked to tell me that enemas take a certain amount of
"getting used to" before they actually provide the turn-on that I've described.
So be patient. Most folks also tell me that their first enema was not all that
pleasant. Here are some pointers to help you enjoy receiving from the very
first moment.

1. A comfortable, not too-threatening position. The "Ass in the air" position
is probably not the best for a first enema. I suggest that you lie on your
side, bottom leg slightly bent, top leg drawn to your chest. This exposes the
anal area and (in women) the genitals, yet it doesn't seem quite so "out there"
as with your bottom in the air and your face on the pillow. An alternative
position (and one favored by a friend of mine) is over-the-lap. It's a bit more
difficult to relax that way, but your partner can massage your back as the
enema progresses, you can position yourself between his knees so your belly is
not compressed, and it gives your partner good access to your anus without
exposing you quite as thoroughly as some other positions. In addition, many
klismos began their interest in enemas over Mom's (or Dad's) lap, so some of
the "mystique" is re-created.

2. A well-lubricated anus. I believe that an oil-based lubricant ought to be
used for enemas, unless the nozzle or tube that you use is rubber (oils destroy
rubber); K-Y and other water-based lubes tend to make the anus sore after you
expel. I also suggest "prelubricating" the anus and rectum with generous
amounts of lubricant (vaseline, cold cream). Have your lover or partner use his
finger and massage the anal area a bit with the lubricant and work some of it
up inside. Then when he inserts the nozzle in you, your anus will relax and
admit it much easier.

3. As your partner begins to insert the nozzle, try to relax. A couple deep
breaths as the nozzle moves past the anal sphincter and into the rectum often
helps. If you're using a balloon nozzle, or other larger nozzle, your partner
should perform the insertion in several stages--first the "easy part," then let
you rest for a few seconds, then slooowwlly inserting the "bag" part of the
balloon nozzle, then let you rest again before inflating the bag inside of you.

4. When the water is turned on, mentally open yourself to receive it. Imagine
your colon and rectum relaxed and accepting, ready to be filled. I don't know
why, but the main problem with enemas seems to be panic. It may be the size of
the bag, or the idea that "this is going to hurt real good," or some such
thing; but if you will just relax and receive the water as it flows into you,
the enema will not cause nearly as much cramping, and will probably feel OK
from the very first moment. As the cramps come (and they will, especially if
you've never had an enema), massage your abdomen and do the deep breathing I
recommended for the insertion process. Don't panic. The adult colon can receive
up to 4 quarts of water, and I've given full 2-quart enemas to women who were
just barely 5 ft. tall and quite slim. I know that these women could have taken
more than I gave them without major discomfort. So don't panic. If you feel you
have to go immediately, ask your partner to stop the flow for a few moments so
that your colon can relax.

5. As the enema is finished, maintain a relaxed position and attempt to hold it
for a few minutes, if you can. Try to relax yourself by letting your belly
bulge out and continue to take some deep breaths from time to time.


Section 3: Notes For The Giver

The giver has a great deal of responsibility. He has to see that his partner
enjoys (or at least tolerates) a process that is often embarrassing and
unpleasant. Your job can be much easier if you'll do the following things:

1. As you lubricate your partner's anus: lift her upper "cheek" until the anus
is stretched open just a bit. You should be able to see the "entry point" for
your finger. Next, put the tip of your lubricated finger against the center of
your partner's "rosebud;" gently press in. Your finger should begin to slide in
(especially if you are at the right spot). Continue to press, and let your
finger enter your partner's anus slowly. Be gentle.

2. As you insert the nozzle: follow the same instructions I've given for your
finger. A properly placed nozzle does not need to be forced in. A gentle
pressure against the anal opening is all that's needed, and the nozzle should
slide right in.

3. Be sure that the bag is not hung too high (3 ft. max above your girlfriend's
anus), and that the water is very warm (you should be able to just barely hold
your hand in it).

4. Open the clamp slowly. Don't try to give her the entire enema without
stopping, and be sensitive to her needs. I always suggest that the enema be
given with her lying on her side and you seated behind her so that you can
manipulate the nozzle and the clamp that adjusts the flow. Sometimes massaging
her belly helps as the water flows in. If she is really full of fecal matter
(shit...), just give half the bag, refill after she expels, and give her the
entire bag the second time. Always remember that this is supposed to be
enjoyable for both of you, even if the "scene" you're playing is punishment,
and talk her through the hard parts. Use the clamp or a hemostat to regulate
the flow so that the enema doesn't flow in too fast. A well-given enema can
take as much as 15 minutes to inject. 5. When the enema is all in, help her up
(leave the nozzle in), and follow her into the bathroom. Then remove the nozzle
with her seated on the toilet so she can expel.

If this all intrigues you, write me care of the anon server. I give enemas in
the same way I write about them--with care and kindness (unless you've been a
bad girl...). Also, drop me a note and let me know what you think of the
preceding recommendations. I live in Southern California.

Ben Dover (my command is your wish)

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