Why Toddlers Like Poopy Diapers
By BabyInDiapers
Written on 03/25/2003


Disclaimer & Purpose

This is a phenomena that I've discovered through my reading of various 
materials both off and on the Internet. Let me first say that this is not meant to 
entertain, this is literally information just to prove a point that I have. This 
document deals with toddlers in general and in no way does it constitute any 
sexual activities between kids and adults. I thought I should clear that up since 
this article will be published on a site that contains many fictional stories for 
entertainment reasons. This is just an informative document to inform anyone 
who reads it of the data I've gathered.

I should also say, that being an Adult Baby myself, I even now, in my 
twenties, still find enjoyment and comfort from wetting and messing my 
diapers. It is true that many of us find a portion of sexual stimulation from 
this, but for the Adult Babies, most of it is an emotional security and 
regression feeling. I am choosing to keep the sexuality out of this article since 
toddlers aren't sexual developed beings. So no that I've laid this groundwork, 
I will  proceed.


Introduction

I noticed long ago from being around mothers with kids that children between 
the ages of 18 months and 4 years old seemed to have something in common. 
They enjoyed being in wet and messy diapers. I also noticed that infants (from 
birth till 18 months) seemed to not like this at all. They would cry for there 
mothers to change them. But, toddlers on the other hand, would go hide and 
do there business and then go back to playing. Also they would just keep on 
playing and only pause momentarily to go in their diapers. 


Mommy's Thoughts and Ideas

When I began to notice this behavior difference from the infants to the 
toddlers, I began to ask myself questions. I started to wonder if Adult Babies 
got some of there first desires for diapers, during this stage in their lives. I 
talked to a couple open-minded mothers with toddlers that were close friends 
of mine. They knew that I was an active Adult Baby. I began to ask them if 
they had noticed the same behavior patterns I had noticed, regarding enjoying 
wet and messy diapers. The two mothers I talked to shared many stories with 
me about countless times when there children wouldn't even let her change 
them.

She said "My little one she'll do a load in her diaper and when I tell her it's 
time to get changed she runs away. When I asked her why she didn't want to 
be changed she bluntly said she liked going poo-poo in the diaper." She also 
told me that she tried making a deal with her daughter to help the potty 
training process. She would tell her daughter that if she could go number 1 in 
the potty all day, that when she had to go number two her mom would change 
her into a diaper and let her go in it and spend a few minutes in it. Now to 
many this seems like an insane approach to potty training, but compromise 
goes a long way, even with toddlers.

Then after she got her daughter to go number one, then she worked with her 
on going number two in the potty. She said that she would reward her 
daughter's efforts of making it to the potty for the whole week by letting her 
spend Saturday's in diapers. On her special one-day diaper time, she was 
allowed to go number 1 and 2, and her mom wouldn't change her until she 
asked to be changed.  Surprisingly, this didn't last more then 1 month and she 
didn't even want to wear them any more. Her mom said that it was the best 
method she'd ever used. Her daughter was fully trained at age three!

As for the other mother I talked to her approach was to train her daughter to 
do 1 and 2 by standard potty training methods. But on weeks when she 
showed improvement she was allowed to have 1 diaper day to go 1 and 2 if 
she so desired. Although similar, this method required more work on the 
child's part, and less reward then the earlier method.
And again, to my surprise, they both worked within the same amount of time.

Now looking back, I realize that each of those kids were different personality 
types and that if those method's had been swapped, the results probably 
wouldn't have worked as well as they did. So this says a lot to parents about 
the personalities of different children.
As parents it's very important to observe and to understand your child's 
personality traits, and emotional development.


Potty Training

There are four parts to a child's readiness to be potty trained. These are:
1.)    Emotional Development
2.)    Physical Development
3.)    Personality Traits
4.)    Sense of Security

For the remainder of this section I will elaborate on these four aspects of a 
child's readiness for potty training. When all these are at the proper stage, 
then your results are assured. Take some time to evaluate your child's 
readiness based on these criteria.

Emotional Development is essential to your child's progress in getting out of 
diapers.
You have to evaluate weather he or she is able to understand the concepts of 
using the potty verses just going in your pants, so to speak. If a child does not 
understand the reasoning behind this transition then it is useless to engage in 
the training process.

Physical Development is the bottom line when it comes to training. Some 
parents are in such a hurry to get there kids out of diapers and send them off to 
daycare that they expect potty-training miracles! The muscles of the bladder 
and bowels are not strong enough at one year of age to begin training. Also 
the indication to your child that he or she has to "go" is related to the 
development of the nerve endings in and around the muscles of the bladder. 
Without indication of the fullness or the pressure on the child's bladder and 
bowels, how can they begin to "hold it" and then release at a certain time. 
There is no model of physical growth that guarantees that every child will be 
ready to engage in the potty training experience at the same time. It takes time 
for emotional and physical to come together.

If it were as simple as the emotional and physical development coming 
together, then we'd be training kid's quite easy, but there are two very 
important steps in a child's growth process that are still in need of cultivating 
before they can achieve this goal.
Personality traits are the attributes, or aspects of a child's personality which 
differentiates him or her from another child. Some children are commonly 
referred to as "Strong Willed" children and some are more easy going. This is 
due to the personality traits that make up the whole personality of the child. 
To be successful in any endeavor, not just potty training, almost any parental 
task, you need to be able to work with the child's personality. For instance if 
you see that he or she is strong wiled then you need to setup reward systems 
that will make them want to change there mind about there behaviors in order 
for them to make up there mind to be trained. This is not to say that you give 
the child anything he wants and put up with misbehavior, but that you should 
take into consideration the personality before planning your parenting 
methods and putting them into practice.

And now, my pet peeve!  Sense of Security! This is where things can either go 
wonderfully right, or horribly wrong when potty training. As an adopted child 
who spent time in an orphanage and various foster homes until age 2, I can 
attest to the importance of a sense of security and safety. This is so important 
parents! You must love your children, even when you're tearing your hair out. 
Even if your child is six years old and still wets and messes in his diaper, then 
oh well. That doesn't give you the right to get mad at the child. If you have 
older kids in diapers and it's not a physical reason, then you can rest assured 
it's an emotional reason. Lets put it this way, your kid doesn't want to wear 
pampers to kindergarten, due to peer pressure. But, if they are wearing 
pampers to kindergarten then you need to ask yourself why? Not to point the 
finger of blame at parents but these days people's priorities are mixed up. It 
takes quality time to raise your kids. They need love, affection, a sense of 
safety and security. That is getting harder to provide these days. Parents are 
working more, daycare staff can't love your baby like you can. When kids feel 
scared, or insecure, or not well cared for or attended to, prolonged diaper 
wearing can be a sign of this. It doesn't mean that it is the sole reason for your 
child's extended use of diapers, but in some cases it can be.

Here are some things that can remedy these problems. Hug your children, rock 
them if there still willing to sit in your lap. Sing to them, read to them, change 
there messy diapers even when they're five if you have to, but for the love of 
Pete, be active in your child's life and make sure they know beyond a shadow 
of a doubt that you love them, and that they are important to you. 


Other Reasons for Toddlers and older children wearing diapers.

Lots of kids have bedwetting issues, some dissipate early in childhood, some 
stop wetting around age 10, and yet some others wet the bed as teens but then 
stop after they are adults. And some, like me, still wear diapers to bed. So, 
parents, once your kid is old enough to change his or her diaper, you're off the 
hook, but if they are still fairly young and still going 1 and 2 in there diaper, 
then you'll be doing the same amount of diaper changing as a family with 
triplets! But hey, you love them, so why not pamper them!


Conclusion

Well for the ending, I guess I would say, parents, try your best to teach your 
kids right from wrong. Be patient as they make mistakes. If they never potty 
train, don't worry. It's not the end of the world. Toddlers like poopy diapers, 
just because its mushy in the tushy and that's a known fact LOL. Children at 
that age are more sensitive on there bottoms then up front by the genital area. 
This is factual information, do a search online and you'll read various 
parenting resources that do mention this.

But on a serious note, most kids will be out of diapers by the time they start 
pre-school, and many more by the time they start kindergarten. And any 
remaining in diapers, will probably be over it at some point in there 
childhood. Also a note, if you wind up having a child that wants to be a baby, 
then that doesn't mean you weren't a good parent. Some people, like myself, 
just love diapers and baby stuff. It's not a big deal really.

I hope this has helped parents to understand some issues with diapers and why 
toddlers like them so much. Some doctors and people that work with kids say 
"no kids don't like diapers they are yucky." But if you want my opinion, it's 
the daycare workers and nurses that don't want to wipe your precious little 
darling's poopy little hiney! 

Although this article used a sense of humor, a lot of the topics were serious 
and parents should take it to heart. If anyone has comments, questions, please 
email me! I'll be glad to further help anyone with there questions.


Oh, and  HAPPY DIAPER CHANGING :)