17 comments/ 23787 views/ 10 favorites Chronicles of the Unpretty By: c8er2u Author's note: This is for a dear friend of mine, you know who you are so I don't gotta call you out. To everyone else, I hope you enjoy this quick story as it unfolds, comment comment comment! Thanks in advance for the love! C8ER2U * Wednesday February 06th 2008 So this is my first time keeping a journal, and I've decided to pull an Anne Frank and name you, my journal. I'm naming you because I don't want to feel like I'm having a one way conversation here. I would like to feel like I'm talking to an old friend. So, journal of mine, I dub thee Isabella. Why Isabella you ask? Because that's the name I've always wished I could have had. Ever since I was a child I would fantasize about the name I'd have if I had a regular girl name; the name I'd have if my parents weren't cheapskates. Instead I was named Ryan. Ryan Lynn Shein. Yes, Isabella I'm aware that I have a man's name, and to answer your question before you ask, I loathe it. See, when my mom got pregnant, she was living in Arizona. She was a travelling nurse and my father was a lawyer who'd just passed the bar. Neither was in a position to afford hospital expenses, so they did the only thing they could do: move back to Canada for a bit. On account of the free health care and stuff. Both of my parents are Canadian, and well, if you really wanna get technical, so am I, but I like to think if myself as a child of the world. I lived in so many damn places I really don't know where to call home. I'm getting off topic here though, so back to what I was saying. Well, they'd done one ultrasound before they left, and it was only because my mom talked her friend into doing the ultrasound for her, and she hadn't quite graduated ultrasound school or whatever, so they were taking a chance, but who's complaining when it's free? Anyway, they do the ultrasound and there I am in the womb, except this dumbass mistakes the umbilical cord for a penis, and tells 'em I'm a boy. So they go runnin round town, tellin everyone who'll listen about their son, and how they've picked out a name for him and everything. Ryan James Shein; James for my paternal grandfather and Ryan for my mom's younger brother who died at the age of seven from small pox, or rickets, or the German measles or something along those lines. They tell everyone the name, they start receiving gifts with the name Ryan monogrammed into them. I even got a sterling silver rattle with the name "Ryan" engraved into it. I just want you to understand just how committed my parents were to my name. And I was lucky too! Because my father was pushing for some Jewish name like Ishmael, or Habakkuk. I thank GOD my mom put her foot down on that one. I mean Ryan's bad, but Habakkuk is a bully magnet. I'm pretty sure it literally translates to "Kick my ass" in Hebrew. Well you can imagine the surprise, in a hospital room in Nova Scotia when they pull me out and instead of dangly bits between my legs; they find the old hot dog bun. You know, without the wiener? Well my dad almost fainted, especially when he went in the waiting room and saw the barrage of gifts, all with the name Ryan covering everything. My uncle even set up a trust fund for his nephew. They had my passport information already filled out, all kinds of plans set up for me. Only problem was the fact that I was in fact female. And instead of coming to their senses and renaming me, they just switched the middle name around and kept the Ryan. Why they didn't switch the first name is completely beyond me, I secretly think it's because they had my mom on some pretty heavy drugs when she delivered and I think she was too high to notice I was female. Who really knows? Anyway, I really want to start us off on the right foot okay? I don't want any false pretenses with us Isabella; I really want us to be completely honest with each other. So I have to tell you now, right up front who and what I am okay? I don't want you to think I'm something I'm not. I'll start off first with what I am not. And that is pretty. I am painfully average in every way. Nothing special about my looks at all. I've got regular eyes, not especially light eyes or anything, no really long lashes, no special shape or anything, just ordinary eyeballs. My nose, is just plain, not too big, not too small, or pointy, just a regular old nose. It wouldn't be called a button nose or anything, it's not particularly cute; it's just a nose. Plain and simple. My lips, should be my saving grace, my father has nicely shaped, full lips but me? My lips, like the rest of me, are painfully ordinary. Not full, not thin, just lips. That's it. Also, just so you know, it doesn't get any better. It's not like I'm a buttaface or anything. I happen to think I carry my beautifully challenged nature with grace actually. I don't wear makeup, not because I don't know how to use it, but because I don't want to be one of those women who rely on makeup to make them pretty. Because at some point, you gotta wash it all off and I'd rather not try and fool someone into thinking I'm something I'm not. So make up is reserved for those few occasions when there is no avoiding its application. Like weddings, funerals, and all other expensive events in between. Another thing about me is I'm tall. Not freakishly tall, where my arms are like twice as long as my legs, but I'm tall. I have no clue how tall, because I've stopped measuring; I just know I'm not 5'5. My body itself is another topic. Oh, by the way, I'm currently sitting on my back deck, looking up at about a billion gorgeous stars, drinking some fantastic white wine and listening to George Benson. Just thought you'd like to know that. So one morning I'm getting in the shower, and I'm soaping up a bit and I look down between my tits and I realize I can't see my vag anymore. I'm completely baffled by this because I'm sure it was there yesterday, but sure enough I poke this thing that has taken up residence on my midsection and I realize that it is a firmly attached layer of fat that has obstructed my view of what used to live below. I'm shocked and appalled. I slap it, which was a horrible idea because I'm in the shower, and I'm wet, and it fucking hurt! But you know what I think hurt more was the fact that like poking jello, it jiggled. For a long fucking time, it wiggled and shook and I think it even sent shocks down my thighs because I'm pretty sure they shook too. I decided that it was time to evict my unwanted guests from my body. I got out of the shower, and dressed in my black pencil skirt and black silk blouse with the tailored black jacket. I'm usually not this dark in my wardrobe, but when one comes to the realization that they are fat, who wants to wear anything colorfull? Even at the age of 32 I'm still worried about being called kool-aid. So that very day on my lunch break I went downstairs to the 5th floor in my building, which just so happened to have a gym. As soon as I walked in though, I thought about leaving. I looked around at all the people sweating and grunting and I turned tail. I looked over at the reception desk and saw the twin supermodel bots, batteries sold separately, behind it looking like blond, spray tanned barbies and I decided that I didn't care what anyone thought about me being here. Fuck em! I walked directly up behind the reception desk and between the two of them. They look at me like I'm crazy, but like I said, fuck em! So I undo my jacket and grab a hold of the offending layer of fat and I say, "I want this gone! Yesterday!" They look disgusted, but at the risk of sounding repetitive, fuck em! $250.00 and a three year contract later, I had a membership and a personal trainer that I will be meeting tomorrow at six pm. I've decided to change my life; to be a different person from now on. I've decided to stop giving a fuck about what other people think of me, and worry about what I think of me. Because apparently, I haven't thought much of myself. I'm hoping Isabella, that with time and effort we can change that. Thursday February 07th 2008 I hate that gym. Who the fuck told me to join a fucking gym in the first fucking place? First of all Isabella, it's all stuffy office types in there. I am without a doubt the fattest person to walk in there and I know I told you all that stuff just yesterday, about how I was gonna say "fuck it!" and just do my own thing but it's a different story when you're there! And you're fat! And everyone else is just flying through their workout and I can barely keep myself upright on the treadmill! I hate that place! And I think the reason why I hate the place as much as I do is because my personal trainer is gorgeous. He's gorgeous. He wasn't at all bulky like I expected him to be. I actually expected him to be one of those no neck, Hercules, steroids for breakfast types. What I saw was a God. He was tall, taller than I am and that's really all that matters, lean and definitely trim but cut the hell up. I mean he had a shirt on, one of those underarmor tees but my God, it showed all his hard work. So here I am, in my four year old rocawear velor sweat suit ready to work out, trying my damnedest not to look too fat in it, and this sexy, gorgeous, beautiful specimen of a man smiles and says, "You're gonna hate me by the end of today, but hopefully you'll be back tomorrow!" And he says this, in the deepest, sexiest British accent I've ever heard which is complexly surprising because I've always been one of those women who strongly believed that the English accent is the gayest accent ever. And I'm still trying to figure out what his nationality is. I mean he looks almost middle eastern, but between you and me, I always had this sort of stereotypical image of them being extremely hairy, and generally unattractive. I mean, that just sounds bad, now that I'm reading it back, but I've never been attracted to anyone other than a black dude before and this kinda caught me off guard to be honest. Anyway, back to the workout from hell. The first thing he wants to do is gage my fitness level, and although I've already informed everyone of my sedentary lifestyle, I guess he needed to see it all for himself. Now Isabella my dear friend I want you to picture an overweight, maybe a bit more than slightly unattractive black woman trying to run on a treadmill when the farthest she's ever run is about a block. Oh, and imagine her sex on a stick trainer standing directly in front of said treadmill looking every bit disappointed. Can you see her? Can you see her pathetic attempt at running? Awkwardly slapping her feet against the revolving track? Yeah, well that's right about the time that this woman, who you've probably guessed is me, fell. And I don't mean I tripped a bit. I mean I full out, ass over tea kettle, fell, landed directly on my face. So when I came to, on the dirty floor of the gym, Mr. wonderful and his legion of barbies were standing over me. My trainer, aka Mr. wonderful, had a completely worried look on his face. The legion of barbies, however, had that familiar look of disgust. It was then that I realized that my entire nasty midsection had been exposed during my fall from grace and I was currently 'letting it all hang out.' So was that enough, you ask? Did I throw in the towel and quit? Hell fuckin naw! What I did was get my black ass up off that floor, fixed my clothing, and I gave him everything. I ran, crunched, squatted, lunged, punched, kicked, tucked and rolled. And now, I'm lying in a bed of ice praying that it will numb the pain that I feel everywhere but my eyelids. Although, I'm sure that if Mr. wonderful could've strapped weights to those too, they'd be in the same condition. Anyway, thanks for listening Isabella. I know it's not exactly what you were expecting from me, or maybe it was. Who knows right? Well, this is Ryan Shein, signing off. I'mma try not to overdose on ibuprofen, and hit the hay. Thursday February 14th 2008 Today is valentines day. The one day we all agreed to set aside and commercially celebrate our love for one another by buying edible underwear and strawberry flavoured lubricant. I am celebrating this wonderful day by working out until I can't feel anything from my ankles to my chin. It's been a week of hardcore workouts and I must say, I'm starting to get accustomed to the atmosphere at the gym. I've once again adopted the 'fuck em' standpoint, especially since everyone there has already seen the worst of me. I really have no option of shame anymore. I mean I could have left that day and never came back, but to be honest I'm a cheap, tight fisted bitch who doesn't part with money easily. I've decided to treat this foray into athleticism as an investment. So, instead of having a romantic candlelit dinner eating more calories than I could afford, drinks afterwards, and delicious passionate sex to burn off said calories, I'm settling for a salad with steamed chicken, 2 hours at the gym to burn the calories I've already long consumed, and sex with my vibrator. Sounds eventful huh? February 14th 2008 I've made a friend. And on valentines day of all days! I was only gonna do the journal thing once a day but today turned out to be a double whammy day Isabella. Aren't you glad? So I walk into the gym and it's surprisingly not empty. I fully expected tumbleweeds to blow by as I'm doing my lonely bicep curls but there were actually people there. I went directly to the elliptical machines, as I'd decided the treadmills weren't for me and began my workout. I started my mp3 player and put on my motivation music. The first song on the play list was work by Ciara. I don't know what it is about that song but it really makes me kick my ass in gear and go to work! Now, I'm just going at my own pace, trying to breathe so my muscles don't cramp up on me and I notice that the machine next to mine was about to be occupied. And I'm waiting for this guy to grab the spray bottle and wipe the machine down, but he doesn't. he just hops on and gets to it. Isabella, I know what your thinking. We're "supposed" to wipe down the machine after we use it but let's be real here, not everyone does! Now, I don't want you thinking I'm obsessive compulsive or something, but I have been known to wipe down the condiments at restaurants. I'm just saying, you don't know where they been right? Anyway he hops on and gets to work and honestly, I'm a little grossed out but I try and return to my workout. So after a few minutes of working out side by side, I notice him looking at me. Also my elliptical decides it's time to backwards. I strongly dislike going backwards; It hurts. This fact must be written all over my face because he looks at me and says, "It'll only be for five minutes!" Now I actually look over at him, and the first thing that comes to my mind is "schmuck." Don't ask me why. He's this long, lanky, string bean of a man with really light brown hair that's beginning to go slick with sweat. He's smiling and I notice he's got his hand extended out to me. "I'm Peter, most people call me Pete," he says. I just stare at his hand. I kept seeing those green germs from the Lysol commercial swimming around on it. So I say, "I would shake your hand Pete but I'm dripping with sweat." He says it's okay and on the inside I'm sagging with relief because I've avoided contamination. So I just smile back and continue with my workout. Well over an hour later when I'm headed for the locker rooms smelling like an old sneaker, he stops me. "Hey, you never gave me your name," he says. Now with both of us standing in front of each other, I realize we're exactly the same height. I'm looking directly into his eyes. I don't know why, but it makes me uncomfortable. I mean I'm used to being the tallest woman in a crowd by now, but I just didn't like being the same height as this guy. Isn't that absurd? Anyway, completely without thinking, I reach my hand out and say, "Ryan Shein." He shakes it, and I immediately remember the green germs now writhing on both our hands. Don't worry, as soon as I left him I washed my hands with antibacterial soap. But back to my new found friendship. When I told him my name, he looked a bit confused. "Do you mean the Ryan Shein? Editor in chief at New York weekly?" he asked. And I tell him yes, we're one in the same. He actually admits that he assumed I was a man, which is refreshing because most people who find out who I am just try and pretend they knew I was female all along. So we get to talking, and I find out he's actually a fan of my magazine, reads it faithfully and enjoyed my article from a few years back on the GDP. I also find out he's an investment banker, he works on wall street, he's divorced for almost a year and had just recently lost 20 lbs. It seems I had misjudged this guy. He was definitely no schmuck. "Do you mind if I ask you a personal question?" he asked. I say go ahead, but inside I'm a little worried what he's gonna ask me. I pray to God he's not gonna ask about my treadmill incident. Instead he says, "Are you Jewish?" I breathe a sigh of relief and say, "Yeah, I am." I tell him about my parents, how my father is half Jewish and he passed the torch onto me, although I haven't been to temple since MC Hammer was hot. He tells me he's Jewish as well, and had always wanted to become a rabbi when he grew up but somehow ended up working on wall street. Isn't it funny how that happens Isabella? When I was a kid I wanted to be a cartographer. Because my parents moved around so much, I felt like a could draw a map like nothing. Instead I became a magazine editor. Anywho, Pete and I parted ways eventually but I must say it's just so frickin nice to meet someone of intellect and worth. There was definitely no sexual attraction, but the conversation was so easy. I enjoyed it so much I'm excited to get back to the gym and chat with my new friend again. Well Isabella, I hate to love you and leave you, but I have a date with my very handsome vibrator. ;) Chronicles of the Unpretty Ch. 02 March 7th 2008 So I must apologize, I've been neglecting you Isabella! It's harder than I thought to keep a journal! I assumed I'd be able to just empty the contents of my mind at the end of each day directly into word form for you but you know, a lot of the time when I get home I'm too damn tired to pick up a fork let alone a pen! Speaking of forks, after careful consideration I've ended our love affair. We've had a toxic relationship for some time now, and I just had to come to the realization that maybe we're not such a good fit for each other. Maybe I should try out the salad fork for a while, maybe we'll be a better fit right? In other related news, I've lost 7.4 pounds! And hell yeah I'm including the .4 because I worked damn hard for it! Mr. wonderful and I have a love/hate relationship. I love him before and after the workouts but during? I want to rip his face off! Yesterday, he tried to kill me. He sincerely wanted to kill me. Wanted me to stop breathing all together. He somehow swindled me into the treadmill again, (don't ask me how, just know there were dimples involved) and he had that thing up so high there were almost sparks from were the top of my thighs were rubbing together. I swear, when I got off I nearly clocked him upside his head but the man ran up and hugged me! Snatched me up, and swung me around! Told me he was proud of me, for not quitting when it got hard. If it wasn't for that accent and the sudden butterflies in my stomach he would have been struck! Have I told you how sexy that accent is? If not I'll tell you again. It's sticky panties, say that one more time even though I heard you quite clearly, star of my masturbatory fantasies, sexy. I mean it's so sexy that instead of getting angry, I smiled. I actually smiled through the cramping in both of my legs. It was worth the pain and the stink eye from the supermodel bots. So I waved him goodbye and promptly limped home. I even dragged Hector's ass down to the gym and, wait now, have I told you about Hector? I can't believe I haven't told you about him, he's only my other half! First of all, his name is pronounced Heck-tah, a true new Yorker. He was the first person I saw when I walked into the 9th school I'd attend since kindergarten and I instantly fell in love. He had curly hair, hazel eyes and dimples. Can you tell I have a thing for dimples? Anyway, I was completely enamoured with him and he knew it. From the very first time we spoke to each other, we were inseparable. He took me to Coney Island and the Brooklyn zoo, he taught me how to swear in Spanish, also taught me those key words to know if someone was talking shit about me in Spanish so I'd be able to cuss them out. We did everything together, he was my best friend, and on my 16th birthday, he gave me a red rose, (which I still have to this day) and asked me if we could go steady, as if we weren't already. At least in my mind. We were high school sweethearts; kisses between classes, holding hands in the hallway, he even carried my books when he walked me home. I was completely dumfounded, because I knew full well there were much prettier girls in that school, prettier ones that would have sold their left tit to be in my shoes. I saw them staring at us, with puzzled looks on their faces trying to understand what he saw in the dark-skinned girl with the country accent. He told me later that it was because I was like a breath of fresh air, and also because I was about the only girl who loved Janet Jackson as much as he did. And not because she was a Jackson; because we both wanted to be a part of the rhythm nation so bad it hurt. I wanted to have sex with Hector so bad it hurt. I was a teenage girl with a boyfriend who looked like he could have been Davante sway's Hispanic cousin. I wanted nothing more than to do all the freaky dirty things my teenage mind could dream up while my sexy boyfriend spoke Spanish in my ear. So I devised a plan to seduce him which consisted of me blatantly throwing myself at him. He ducked and dodged me. I didn't understand, if he was my boyfriend, and he loved me like he said he did, thought I was as beautiful as he said, why wouldn't the boy fuck me? All we ever did was kiss, and every once in a while cop a feel in a dark movie theatre. (All of which was done by me) I needed more and Hector refused to give it to me quoting Janet Jackson saying "Lets wait a while," well damnit my body WANTED to go too far! He asked me to wait. He said he wanted it to be special, and what was more special than prom? I grudgingly agreed to wait until prom. Even though it was two years away, I agreed to wait because I loved him and I wanted to respect his wishes as well as my own. He said he needed time, that he wasn't ready yet and just because I was, I didn't want to push him away. I really and truly loved him with all my heart. So when prom time finally rolled around, I scoured the city and found the perfect dress. It was sexy, in an early 90's prom kinda way. The dress itself didn't matter because I didn't plan on staying in it too long. Damn teenage hormones! It was what... 1994? Damn I'm getting old! Anyway, he comes and picks me up and tells me I look amazing. I couldn't care less about taking pictures but my parents forced me to pose for a few before we left. Prom was good, but all I remember is counting down the moments until it was over! I guess Hector was too. So when the time came, we had this hotel room that his older cousin booked for us in Jamaica Queens. It was near his house and I was gonna stay over afterwards. So I'm there, and I'm in the bathroom. Got the damn dress off and now I'm wearing my very sexy light blue French cut silk panties (that I got at JC Penny in the women's section) with the matching blue bra. You remember that Isabella? When everything was cut high up to your bellybutton? Well I was tall so it didn't quite reach my belly button. I just had a little bit of thickness to me too. Not fat or nothing, just thick! So I'm in this bathroom right? And I'm talking to myself, telling me in the mirror that I am the sexiest thing walking. In fact I'm pretty sure at one point I busted out singing 2 live crew, you know, "You ain't nothing but a hoochie mama!" So when I finally emerged from the bathroom, and tried my best to strike a pose in my sexy lingerie I was praying he wouldn't laugh. What I found was a fully dressed, right down to the shoes Hector. I remember I asked him why he still had his clothes on, while I clung to the last vestiges of my modesty. And do you know what he told me Isabella? He said, and I'm quoting him here, "Because I'm gay. Now put your clothes on and let's go home. There's a .Barbra Walters special on Dreamgirls and we're gonna miss it!" Now you know how they say, hindsight is 20/20 right? Looking back I don't know how I DIDN'T know. He loved all the same things I loved, it was always me trying my damndest to seduce him, his nails always seemed manicured, hell he was waaaaay prettier than I was, I should've seen the signs! Alas, I was just too happy that a boy that looked like he did was even interested in me; a girl that looked the way I did. So I ignored all the telltale signs and was his beard for two years. I put my dress back on that night and I went home, to my house and I cut off all contact with Hector. As much as I knew he couldn't change who he loved the betrayal still hurt me deep. Right at a crucial time in my life too, when I was still trying to validate myself as a woman. I ended up loosing my virginity a year later in college to an economics student who was so happy to see real live tits he didn't care that they belonged to the Amazon black chick on campus. It wasn't until I think, six years later? I was walking on 5th, just got finished my shift when I spotted him and his partner. They were walking hand in hand, window shopping. I didn't know how I'd feel when I saw him again. Would I be angry, jealous? I didn't expect to miss him so much! He was my best and only friend at the time and when I saw him looking up in the Saks display window I ran to him and hugged him tight. He later described it as being hit by a linebacker, but that's neither here nor there! We cried, both of us, he introduced me to his boyfriend Paolo who was an art dealer in Europe. I went back to their Upper East Side loft with them where they fed me bottle after bottle of wine. And when we were all good and drunk, Hector confessed that he still carries the guilt from that night with him. That he was so insensitive and callous. He said he lost the best friend he ever had that night and he never ever got over the emptiness. I apologized for letting my own agenda cloud my judgement. I told him I should have never pressured him into anything he didn't want to do. I knew he only went there that night for me and when he left that hotel room, he left it his whole self. Without any disguises just as his gay self. I told him I was proud of him and that I loved him, then and now. It was a real tear jerker. You should have been there! Poor Paolo probably had no idea what to do! Anyway, we were once again inseparable and to this day, I barely make a decision without my Hecah! He is my gay other half. So I had to bring him down for a complimentary workout and if he just so happened to bump into me, while I was working out with my living walking manifestation of sex trainer? Just a plus! So when I introduced him to my sexpot trainer, he leans over to me and says, "Fuck him! Fuck him right now against the exercise bikes or so help me, I will!" Let's just say Hector joined the gym later that week. March 18th 2008 I think I was just on a date. Has it really been that long since I was on one, that I wouldn't even recognize it? I mean It was harmless, a dinner with a friend. Or so I thought. Pete and I had been meeting up and working out together once or twice a week. (I'm trying to get every dollar I can out of this personal trainer thing! It's fucking expensive!) It's paying off though, I have to say. It's not necessarily showing up on the scale, but my clothes just don't fit me the way they used to and I'm starting to think I may have a waistline again. In the near future that is. So we've been working out together, sweating and stinking and at first it was just a, "Hey, you wanna go grab a protein shake after?" which then turned into, "I know this really great deli over on such and such a street," which then leaves us at, "We should grab dinner sometime, I know a great low cal restaurant!" and boom! I'm on a date without even knowing it! The thing is Pete and I have such great conversations! Intellectual conversations I haven't had in eons! It seems being Editor in Chief of a prestigious magazine at such a young age causes a bit of intimidation to where no one really wants to disagree with you. I can't tell you how refreshing it was to talk to Pete over my grilled turkey breast which was actually very tasty, and have him disagree with me! Not only that, but offer a valid point! The thing was I was still thinking this was a casual dinner with a casual friend. I didn't pick up on the fact that Pete was wearing his "good" sweater, which brings out the green of his eyes or whatever. I just thought we were just friends! So when he walked me to my brownstone, and leaned in for the kiss on my front step, I had to pull a matrix to dodge him. "Whoa dere partner! What the hell was that?" He looked sheepish and more than a little embarrassed. He fumbled an apology, something about his stomach hurting because the shellfish was off and left. I, on the other hand, went inside and agonized over the fact that I embarrassed him. Am I doing to Peter what Hector did to me all those years ago? Did I just effectively tell him I'm gay and dream girls are on? Even though it's been decades since it's happened and we've all moved on past it, the hurt of it is still there. I know I'm probably exaggerating all this. Right? It's not like he's a teenage girl just trying to build her self esteem and I just crushed it. But. He did just go through a divorce. A fairly nasty divorce, with his battleaxe of an ex wife. If that doesn't give the old self esteem a good blow, I don't know what will. Oh God I feel terrible! I'm a horrible, mean and terrible person who doesn't deserve a man! Isabella, I'm going to go cry myself to sleep. Not even empty calories can console me! March 19th 2008 Wow. That's all I can say. First off let me just explain that I was exceptionally drunk last night, and I don't know who THAT was that wrote that deluded and psychotic journal entry, but it wasn't the woman holding the pen now! What the hell was that last part? About empty calories consoling me? I'll have you know that there used to be a pint of Ben & Jerry's in my freezer and a bottle of Belvedere hidden on my wine rack. I'll let you draw your own conclusion. Second, I called Pete first thing this morning and we sorted everything out. He's just a little lonely since ending his marriage and I happened to be there for him. He apologized for taking things too far and I apologized for being insensitive and then we decided to meet up on Tuesday to work out together. Alls well that ends well. P.S. I have a juicy tidbit for you! So I went to my morning workout with Mr. Sexy this morning and today when he put me on the treadmill, he hopped on beside me. Now, I know what you're thinking; big fucking deal. Man on a treadmill, not that significant right? Wrong! Mr. sexy trainer in all of his sexy glory, hopped on that treadmill wearing basketball shorts okay? And not just that, he must've been wearing some pretty loose boxers because his glorious... package? Shall we say? Was bouncing against his thighs in a way that almost had me trippin. Again. Now, not only was the object of my desire flopping back and forth between his thighs, I knew he knew it was flopping against his thighs. The same way a woman knows when she wore the wrong bra to the gym, them titties are gonna try and come out soon as you hit that treadmill! They're gonna wanna greet the public! So now I look up at him because I realize I've been crotch watching for longer than I realize and not only did he catch me looking, he smiled at me! Did you hear me? I said he smiled at me! What the hell does that mean? I mean it's not like he didn't see me sprawled out on the gym floor with my gut out. There's absolutely no way he's remotely close to being attracted to me either. Believe me, I know from experience; when that too good to be true guy is suddenly interested in you? He's gay! Run for cover girl, because there's nothing worse than finding out that for the entire time you thought you were in a relationship, you were just his beard! Okay, reading that last paragraph back I realize I sounded a bit cynical. Just because one guy turned out to be gay, doesn't mean that every attractive man I meet is too. I'm just trying to learn from my mistakes and make better decisions in the future. Isn't that what you're supposed to do? I mean imagine, the next super attractive guy that approaches you. (I don't know about you, but it happens to me all the time!) Aren't you supposed to go into dating with your eyes wide open? Completely aware of possible homosexual tendencies? Or should I let life happen the way it's supposed to happen, and if it turns out Mr. Sexy is gay than so be it, on to the next? Listen to me! I'm actually weighing out Mr. Sexy's sexual orientation as if it'll change something. So he smiled at me! Big fucking deal! God I hope my gym guy isn't Gay!