1 comments/ 33985 views/ 21 favorites The 'Ler guide By: ticklechambers Introductions Dear readers, I've searched google many times to find out information about our little fetish. It is certainly a challenge, let me tell you this. To explore this whole new world of tickling is no easy task, when the information is scattered about forums, and blogs. I thought to myself, heck I'm a writer. I can read. Why not write a bloody information thingy myself? So here it is. Hopefully it's as helpful to you as I wish for it to be. Enjoy your tickles. To The 'Lers So there could be a million reasons why you are reading this little how-to-guide. You may be a 'ler looking for some interesting new info. Hoping that something new will pop up in this booklet. In which case I do hope I provide some interesting new insights. You might be a regular person who has just found out their partner has a tickling fetish. If this is the case then you are in luck! :) This guide will take you through everything :) It might interest you to know that throughout the human race, tickling has been a social bonding activity and is considered the highest grade of social play. To different degrees for each individual- tickling can be pleasurable socially, intimately, or playfully. In this sense it is very much like any other intimate interaction. Consider massages for example: some people find them relaxing and share this activity between friends, while others find it arousing and include it within foreplay. Nibbling on the ears: Some people find this completely intoxicating and they lose all ability to think, while others find it uncomfortable and invasive. Tickling may sound like an odd thing to be aroused by, but it's really quite a simple sensation pleasure which just so happens to be less commonly enjoyed than others. Normality and Violation. Ok, don't freak out when you read the words ' physiology' and ' scientific fact'. This is a very simple guide, however, I have delved into the science behind tickling a little bit. If you just want to get to the juicy bits- skip this section. However, it may prove helpful to understand how and why people are ticklish, scientifically. This is an important little fact to know. The physiology of laughter and tickling tells us that the response (laugher and squirming) is a combination of touch that is a violation and touch that is perceived as normal. Many people who are not ticklish, are only so as they sense no violation in the contact they are feeling. For many people, they need to perceive some kind of playful threat/ or attack, in order to feel the violation/normal touch combo. Tickling itself is a combination of feeling 'touch' and 'pain' together. The body reacts in a way that tells your subconscious- "get away or you might get bruised". Hence the squirming and struggling response. However, when a person truly believes there is no threat within this kind of contact- then they only feel it as "normal" touch. Without the crucial combination of the two, a person would not be ticklish. Now before we get ahead of ourselves, the paragraphs above only apply to one kind of tickling. Gargalesis: refers to harder, laughter-inducing tickling, and involves the repeated application of high pressure to sensitive areas (1) The type of tickling needed to satisfy a 'Lee will depend on each individual. Play around with your 'lee and you will discover if they need high pressure tickling- or light touches. Also remember that this is a grey area. Some 'lees will want light and hard tickling in different places on their bodies. Some will want you to alternate between these touches in the same place. Experiment. On another note, is it considered that we as humans began squirming from tickling, as a way of teaching our bodies where our weak points will be in combat. Once again- this scientific fact brings us to the notion of violation/violence. After all, there is a reason people call it- "tickle torture". ;) This in itself explains why some people find tickling to be painful though. Everyone is different. And for some people they do not feel any normality in this kind of touch- they only feel the violation and the pain. So for those of you who are too ticklish for your own liking... the sad news it that overexposure is key to getting less ticklish. Overexposure gets a person used to that sort of touch. Eventually it is viewed as normal... and the more a person is tickled the more normal it becomes. This is also why a lot of people experience becoming less ticklish as they get older. The 'touch' sensation becomes normal. They feel less of a threat. However, this is not true for everyone. How you 'perceive' the tickling touch (normal/violation) is completely a mental thing. You're mentality can be altered based on past experiences affecting your perception, mental training/ alteration of thought patterns... and some would even suggest hypnosis. Now all this information above is facts from various websites I've researched. I've pieced certain things together and came to my own conclusions in regards to a way to become more/ less ticklish. I know for certain this is the way to become less ticklish. there is plenty of evidence to suggest that. However, by way of becoming more ticklish- note that changing your perception and thought patterns on the subject are not an overnight task. Also to substantiate my point further- a hell of a lot of people here would agree... being blindfolded enhances the experience. This is because when a person cannot see where the contact is coming from, it enhances the unpredictability of the touch and therefore the feeling of there being a 'threat'. Threat = violation. Now it's just a matter of figuring out how to change your thought patterns and create present situations to alter you perception of tickling over time. :) The mind frame Gosh where to start. This is really a job for both the 'lee and the 'ler. However i'm writing this guide for 'lers- (in the interest of all the 'lees out there) so here's a few things that the 'ler can do. Imagine I said to you: Hey I'm going to fuck you really hard tonight. Imagine I said this throughout the day. Teasingly. Sexually. Longingly. Threatening. Imagine every now and then I just slipped it into conversation. (Or that an attractive male was saying it to you) By the end of the day most people would be horny as hell- more so than if I had said it the second before doing it. Because the thought of it has been stewing and running through their minds all day. They have become worked up about it. You're ticklish. So fucken ticklish. I'm going to attack your poor little toes tonight. I'm going to squeeze and wriggle across your ribs. You're going to be tickled shitless tonight. You're inner thighs are mine, you ticklish brat. I'm going to have the soles of your feet begging for mercy. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tickle. Tease and taunt your 'lee throughout the day. Whisper threats of tickle attacks into their ear. Describe where and how you will tickle. Use the word tickle often. Slip it into regular conversation. For example: imagine you're out to dinner and your 'lee is looking through the menu- the waiter is standing by the table... there are people near by on other tables talking- people who are well in ear shot- and you look at your 'lee cheekily, with a knowing grin and say, "does the steak and veggie dish TICKLE your fancy?" Really emphasise the word tickle here. It's a neat little teasing trick to slip the word in to regular conversations. And only your 'lee will know what you are really saying. Getting a 'lee into the right mind frame will determine how much they will enjoy the session AND how ticklish they will be throughout the session. ASK QUESTIONS. Generally a 'lee will have a fantasy. They might know details like what they want to wear, how the want to be tied down, what toys they want to use... what things they want said. Before a session- dont be afraid to ask for the specifics. A person's mind frame can be set up if you say the right things in the right way. You can ask a 'lee if they have any idea about what they want specifically. Personally- here are some things i'd like to hear (as a 'lee) "Does that tickle?" (said while looking amused at the giggling 'lee) "I'm going to tickle you until you cry now" "aren't you just a cute ticklish piece of meat?" "i want to tickle your toes and watch you giggle" "if you don't stop giggling, I wont stop tickling you" "It's amusing how weak and ticklish you are" "dont make me tickle you" "I'll tickle you if you don't admit to (insert things here)" "nawww is the dirty little girl ticklish there?" "i know exactly where and how to tickle you silly, sweetie, you're mine" "I got you exactly where I want you, you ticklish bitch." "Here's a ticklish spot- right here...... feeling helpless now?" "Now someone is getting a little tired, tickling too much for you cutie?" "If you can't handle being punished, then you shouldn't moan so much and make me want to keep going" "I love watching you squirm underneath me" "keep laughing, i'm not going to stop" "Now that's funny, you are soooo ticklish" "maybe I should tickle your pussy/clit" "put your feet here sweety, and keep em still" "why should i stop when you clearly love it?" "ok sweety put your feet on my lap and try to keep them there" "I love how ticklish you are" "You're ticklish right.... HERE.. and here..." "Gottcha ribs" "I'm gonna gettcha" "Here, let me tickle that better for you" "Kootchi kootchi koo" "What's happening here? I'm not doing anything... yet you seem to be wriggling...and giggling... I'm just running my fingers over your sides...." "I'm going to tickle you shitless sweetie, you're mine." Language is one tool to get a 'lee in the right mind frame. However, there is also a visual side to tickling. Personally, I know that whenever a guy wriggles his fingers in my direction threateningly- I feel a nervous shiver run over my most sensitive places. There's no harm in playing with visuals such as this. Try walking up to your 'lee and wriggling your fingers in her direction threateningly. Slowly walking closer and closer while the 'lee backs away nervously. Combine this with some verbal teasing and the 'lee will become very nervous. These two tools- verbal and visual help to heighten the anticipation of violation/threat when the sensations begin. Remember that the reaction towards tickling is caused by a combination of violation and normality within the touch sensation. Creating a better quality tickle can be as simple as heightening the 'lees perception of a threat. Obviously though, don't scare them too much or else it will become unpleasant. Tools beyond the mind Okay, so now that I've basically covered the metal ways to stimulate a good tickling... it should be said that it's not totally a mental reaction. The physical sensations play a large role in creating a good tickle. The question is: how complicated can tickling be? It may surprise you, but quite a few people don't know how to give a good tickle. Tickling someone can be easy if you want a short little giggle... but for a 'ler it's not about a tiny giggle. For a 'ler it's about really getting that poor defenceless 'lee good. Tickling them like they've never been tickled before. And in order to do that- there are a few things that should be noted. The first tool a 'ler will ever use is their fingers. It's the only tool they always have on hand. (No pun intended ;) Now there are two types of touch which cause a tickling reaction. Scientifically they are named and labelled below. Knismesis and gargalesis Two types of tickling. Gargalesis, as mentioned before, is the kind of tickling where pressure is applied to sensitive spots on the body. Knismesis is the kind of tickling which is very gentle and causes a tingling sensation across the skin. Now i've noticed generally that a lot of people are really good at one kind of tickling, and not so much the other. I am unsure of whether or not this is due to the fact that they have not been exposed to the variety of tickling techniques- or if they are just unable to produce a different touch style- but either way a good 'ler should be able to do both. Gargalesis is usually applied to the sides, hips, ribs, stomach, thighs, arse, underarms and knees. Techniques are squeezing, pinching, rough finger wriggling, poking and digging. It is important to experiment with the movements and kinds of touch you use throughout a session. So try alternating between these techniques to find what works best... and keep the 'lee guessing about how you're going to touch him/her next. Knismesis is generally applied to the feet, ankels, thighs, legs, backs of knees, back, neck, ears, sides, stomach , underarms, arse, and other more intimate regions. People use either their nails or their finger tips to gently travel across the skin. It's important to note that the more gentle you are the better the effect. Touch the skin so that the victim is barely being touch... but just enough to cause a reation. It's important also to play with speeds. Start of slow and then speed up... then start all over again. This helps to keep the victim guessing what you are going to do. If they cannot predict the movement of your fingers, they will feel more of a threat. Which stimulates the violation sensations. Another bodily tool which can be used is the mouth. Blowing raspberries, using your teeth or your tongue can be a powerful tool. It is common to lick and bite gently on the toes of a victim to cause a reaction. Scraping your teeth over the soles of their feet or blowing a raspberry on their neck can cause a very intense sensation on them. Experiment with various places and spots on people, remember that everyone is different. tools are important as they mix up the sensations. Tickling needs to be varied as much as possible as a 'lee could become less sensitive in the one spot over time. Keep it moving. Even if you need to find a new place ever two seconds. But watch the 'lee's reactions too. Sometimes the one spot can be torturous if you get the right place ;) Below is a list of commonly used tools for a good tickling session. Hairbrush
Baby oil
Toothbrush
Electric Toothbrush
Makeup brush
Electric flosser
Chopsticks (maybe)
restraints, 
ties, 
rope, 
clingfilm 
biro and a tenderiser
toothpicks
guitar finger picks
forks
fluffy pipe cleaners
paint brushes
cotton buds
pens socks moisturiser Warm damp towel feathers Now I could cover all of them and explain how they could be used, but that would take way too long. So here are a few explanations. Baby oil /moisturiser /warm wet towel. These are commonly used on the feet. Wrapping a warm wet towel over the feet can soften the skin after a few minutes and cause them to be much more sensitive. This is recommended if you plan on using your mouth on the feet later. Baby oil and moisturiser have a faster effect. Possibly a more intense effect also. The slippery wet softening of the skin causes a very very sensitive surface. Nails can be scarped along the feet after this and almost always cause a bigger reaction. Hairbrush/ toothbrush/ forks These three items, when used on the feet with baby oil are DEADLY. Some people will complain that it becomes painful when these are used. This however, is only because for some people- the 'violation sensation' becomes too high with these tools. However, if the violation sensation is not heightened too terribly- watch out poor defenceless 'lee! This is a very strong sensation indeed and can drive your victim crazy. Feathers /pens / guitar finger pics The feather may or may not work on your victim. This totally depends on what kind of stimulus they respond to. If it does work- then flutter that feather away. If not... the feather can be good to gently run over the skin anyway. Just to make the area more sensitive. If you warn the 'lee that this is what you are doing... then they will become nervous from the contact. Using the other end of the feather, using a pen or finger pics can be good on the feet also. The slightly sharp contact on the feet would send a signal to the brain warning of possible harm to the body. Warning that something could cut through the skin. But as this sensation is combined with a degree of 'normal' sensation as well, it causes the tickling response. Side note: Feathers on the clit can be a crazy tickle tease :P Positions to enhance sensations Now it is common knowledge that if the 'lee is blindfolded the sensations are heightened. This is because it enhances the 'violation sensation'. Not knowing where the 'ler is going to strike next is a threat to the body. One position which works well is to have the 'lee lying face down on their stomach. Don't be afraid to sit on their legs or on their bum to keep them down. Tickle them senseless while they can't more or can't see. Many 'lees may have a favourite position or bondage arrangement that they prefer. Whatever tickles their fancy to enhance the perfect normal/violation levels for them. Everyone is different. So ask your 'lee what they would prefer specifically. Another thing to note is that blocking other senses can heighten sensations as well. So ear plugs/muffs, blindfolds and gags may be helpful in doing this. Whatever makes the 'lee more vulnerable is generally the way to go. THE 'LER'S ROLE It's important to remember at all times that the 'ler WANTS to tickle and watch the 'lee squirm and giggle. He/she cannot be the one who is not in power. And it's important that all things said/done are driven from the desire to tickle. I want to note this because a lot of non-fetish ticklers who try to act as a 'ler for their partner mistake erotic tickling for sex. If the 'lee can see that the desire behind the tickling is stemmed from a craving for sexual pleasure- then they are less threatened by the tickling. Because they have no reason to believe the 'ler truly desires to tickle them. Think of it as a role play. Instead of wanting sex- you want to tickle this victim senseless. No ifs or buts, that is your only desire for the session. It's also important to note that some lee's will want the 'ler to be both ruthless- yet kind. Some people can perceive erotic tickle torture as a gentler form of bdsm. So perhaps play a little bit of master/ tickle slave.... Be kind- but merciless in the tickling. Or once again, depending on the person, your 'lee might want you to be all out ruthless. Below are some examples of ways to be ruthless yet kind- if you want to be totally evil and not kind at all- just use the examples below and tweak them to your liking. Ways to portray the character of the 'ler 1. Be amused at the 'lee's struggling and helplessness and giggling 2. pretend to be initially surprised that the 'lee is ticklish at all... seemingly oblivious to the torture they are causing. This gives the 'lee a thrill to think that the 'ler might actually be oblivious and might not stop. 3. act like you are enjoying the fear and utter helplessness of the lee 4. start comforting them and speaking gently to them while you torture them with your tickling. 5. saying things that deliberately embarrass the 'lee without insulting them. such as- * "admit you like this" * "did you just moan?" * "oh dont tell me i found the only little girl who likes having her toes being played with" * "i will stop only when you say, "tickle me master".... " Note also that verbal teasing is very important in the role of the 'ler. They are in control of everything including the conversation. You can't really expect someone to giggle and laugh AND carry a conversation- so work under the notion that they will be doing minimal talking. The 'Ler guide Types of 'lers In my personal experience, there are three types of ticklers. Types of ticklers are a product of experience. They know what works on them, and they do it to others. But it doesn't always occur to them that tickling may be different for different people. SHY TICKLERS Ok, this isn't exactly what it sounds like. This does not mean that the tickler is shy about what he or she is doing. However, they are shy to apply pressure. They generally graze the skin with their fingertips and nails... then wriggle gently across the body... There is nothing wrong with being a shy tickler. My only advice though is to remember to mix it up if you can. Don't be afraid to apply more pressure. Remember, the brain tells us to squirm and giggle in response to tickling as a warning that one might get bruised. So sometimes being a bit rough is good. Just dig and squeeze until your lee says "ouch" and learn where the limits are. It's trial and error until you learn what works for each individual :) MONSTER TICKLERS These are the ticklers who are always rough. They struggle to get that gentle tickle touch down. It turns into a flat caress. They apply too much pressure to create a gentle tickle. And they use digging and squeezing techniques in order to get a reaction. Once again, there is not a problem with being a monster tickler. But my only advice is to practice that gentle touch. Remember that in some ways, less can be more. And if all else fails- use tools! Brushes, nails, pens.... feathers... things that can be soft and create a gentle sensation for you. SHY MONSTER TICKLERS The best ticklers ever. No, seriously. If you can be both the shy and the monster- you are totally awesome. And a person can work on becoming a mix, so don't stress if you didn't fall into this category. Not to mention that not everyone needs both types of tickle techniques to get them laughing. Tickling feet Okay, so I'm making a special section just for feet here. It's not a surprise that the foot fetish goes oh-so-well with the tickling fetish. Feet are VERY ticklish due to a concentration of nerve endings in the sole and toes of the feet. So it is common that the licking and biting gently of these areas can be both arousing and ticklish to a person. It could be said that the best sessions, are those that start of light, and then slowly become more and more unbearable. It's always good to start off with something general and soft like a feather or a brush. This makes the area more sensitive and gets the skin tingling for the torture to come. There are a few ways to tickle feet. Some people enjoy having their feet bound together. Including having their two big toes tied together. Tying the big toes together restricts movement for the 'lee. That as well as having the ankles bound would have them in a tight spot. Baby oil works wonders! It's common knowledge. Add baby oil to the feet and use either a hair brush, your own fingertips OR (my favourite) PVC dot knit gloves (grip dots). Don't forget too that the foot is not just a sole. Play around the toes, the ankles and the top of the foot too. The whole package :D And don't forget your mouth is as good a tool as any. Tickle texting You know what sexting is. But how do you go about it when it's a tickling text? It's basically sending messages or tickle threats, tickle teasing and ticklish phrases to the 'lee in order to arouse them from a distance. As covered before, the word TICKLE TICKLE TICKLE has a rather strong affect on those of us with the fetish. So tickle texts can be a really fun teasing tool to use. However there are a few things you can do to make the experience of tickle texting more.... arousing. Generally you can rely on the fact that they will be turned on simply by the word TICKLE itself. So use that as much as possible in the texts. "tickletickletickle" can have a strong affect on some 'lees. Describe EVERYTHING. Use words like digging, pinching, grazing, wriggling and poking. Say WHERE exactly. Is it across the ribs? The sides, or the hips? Is it the upper back or lower back? Front of the neck? Heel of the foot? Between the toes? Using very straight-to-the-point words like; stomach. Foot. Knee. These are ok, but be as specific as you possibly can. For example: saying "i am going to tickle the hell out of your foot" would sound less appealing than: "I am going to graze my fingertips gently up and down the soles of your feet and wriggle each of your toes until you beg me for mercy" So focusing on the HOW and the WHERE is very important. The extra detail in the text allows the imagination of the 'lee to be stirred. If they can vividly imagine every stroke, Every pinch, Every wriggle... Then it can get them really worked up! Call them names that relate to their liking of tickling.. If they are aroused by the power struggle related to tickling... use words like vulnerable, weak, helpless... playtoy, little girl and any other favoured pet name. Remember however that not everyone enjoys dirty talk. Some 'lees will like being called a ticklish piece of meat or a weak ticklish girl... and others will prefer baby talk. "Kootchi kootchi koo, aren't you ticklish? I wonder where else I can find a sensitive spot.... nawww tickle tickle tickle...." Alternatively you can mix it up! DIRTY/BABY TALK :P Erotic tickling "people who have a tickling fetish are likely to enjoy this activity to the exclusion of other pre-sex activities. For some, the focus is entirely on the tickling, with full intercourse less important or not included at all." (wikki) Tickling for most other people is playful. It's not erotic. But for us tickle fetishists it is very erotic. We can use this to our advantage when it comes to sex. Take the playful tickling to a newer level by adding things like arousing phrases, bondage, tickling tools and foreplay into a session. Erotic tickling can be used to test a 'lee's endurance. Sometimes it's a fun game to tease the 'lee about their endurance. To order them to stop giggling or else you wont stop tickling them. You may find that some 'lees will try not to laugh or giggle at first... until it becomes too much to handle. If you notice they are doing this- it's a sign they might enjoy being teased and taunted about it. Erotic tickling can also be used for the 'lers own amusement. Now this falls under an element of playing the character of the 'ler. If you are not a tickle fetishist it's important to note this 'amusement' attitude. Some 'lees will find it a turn on that the 'ler finds their struggling and giggling to be amusing. This would especially be amusing to the 'lees who enjoy the power struggle and humiliation elements of tickle torture. A way to portray that you are amused with the 'lees reactions and struggling would be simply enough to say so. "This is so amusing to watch you try and escape, especially knowing you have no hope of doing so." Note also that simple actions such as laughing at the 'lee as you watch them and keeping eye contact with them can help represent this amusement. Tickling games Role plays: Simple idea here: Pretending to be a spy tickling the victim for information. If the victim gives up and tells you the information that you need, then they can be punished with the threat of a second tickling session that will last twice as long as it has taken them to spill the beans to begin with.... You should start off the role play by telling them you need to weaken them before you even begin to ask questions- 'it's just procedure' (wink wink). That way, if the victim gives up as soon as they can, you have a decent amount of tickling time to double... Tickle them until they give up- or until you are satisfied that the 'don't have the information you need'. ;) Memory: The contestant places their feet in the host's lap. The host speaks out a serious of phrases, one at a time, which the contestant must repeat word for word. Make sure these phrases are things that are a little bit hard to remember and repeat. Now the rules are the the contestant must repeat the phrase without pause or stutter or any mistake. The minute they make a mistake they get tickled for 10 seconds! Then for each time they make a mistake, the number of seconds increases by 5. So the more they mess up, the worse the consequences are. Still In this game, you take turns picking a spot to tickle on your partner. You challenge each other on who can stay still the longest throughout the tickle- and the winner gets one wish (ei: a massage, a sexual favour, a free dinner....) Life Raft Pick a spot in the room such as the couch or the bed- this is the life raft. Call all other areas of the room as shark infested waters... and as one person is the shark and the other a sinking sailor... the shark tickles the sailor until they reach the life raft. Of course, try and hold the sailor back from the raft as long as you can. :) PS: There are plenty of tickling games online :) google them :) Safe words and safety Okay here's a short section to keep everyone safe :) Safe words are usually a good thing to have in a tickling session. Just in case the 'lee gets a little too breathless or starts to feel faint. Make sure the word is something short- but that stands out. Something like, "Elvis" or "sharks" will do the trick. Keep the 'lee hydrated. It's a lot of hard work tickling. And if done over a period of time... a person can get a dry mouth, or they could sweat quite a bit. It's important to have some water nearby and handy. Pause words are good also. It's like an alternative to the safe word, where if used, the 'lee gets a ten second break. It's fun to count down the ten seconds out loud to create some suspense. Tickling NOTES Hope this was helpful. If there is anything I missed or anything that could be helpful to you- let me know. This is a draft still, and any feedback is welcome :D