6 comments/ 20159 views/ 2 favorites Growing and Learning with Restraint Ch. 01 By: lauramks Her view: Lying on her back with her legs spread wide, she marveled at how much she had learned about her relationship and her partner and his needs. Pillows were stuffed under her ass to raise her off the bed and her legs were tied around the thigh with just enough cord to comfortably pull them apart and back so her cunt was comfortably on display. She appreciated the reduced strain to keep her legs apart. Between her legs was her spouse of many years nibbling on her clit. As the pleasure starts to rise she knows that she is actually the person in control here. Although she seemingly is the one tied up she knows her partner is caged and without any control over his orgasm. She gets to play on her terms. You see, through joyful experimentation she has learned of her partner's desire for her guidance in day to day sexual encounters. At first she found this confusing and it did cause some distraction in their relationship. But as time moved on she was able to find ways that pleased her and her partner. Now she is much more comfortable in deciding when and how she will enjoy the pleasure of an orgasm and it is not always tied to her partner getting "in the mood". She has learned she can enjoy orgasms in many places and times. It might be in the morning, in the shower, or even on the patio. He is somehow always ready now and she merely needs to decide she is ready. Her partner is now wonderfully attentive to her whole body and not just focused on her pussy. She spends many nights getting backrubs and having lotion spread all over her body. She appreciates the attention and sucking of her breasts. She loves the touching and attention when she is out shopping. Partner View: Kneeling on the bed between her legs he slowly circles her clit. He has found over the past few months that she likes it slow and in circles. The pleasure is in pleasing her. He has been guided to circle her thighs with a special purple cord and then tie her legs so they rest comfortably behind her. She loves to have the pillows piled so her ass is easily spread and her pussy easily licked. She enjoys feeling her pussy being stretched and open. She has a special desire to be in this position and her moaning says he is doing just fine. He feels his cock getting hard but sadly the cage keeps it out of reach. After explaining his desires a few years ago the two of them have been working on ways for him to please her. One of the first and most important ways was the introduction of the chastity devices. You see she wants to be desired and it turns out that he was being a bit selfish as many men can be. In times of stress the idea of taking the time and effort to be romantic succumbs to the desire to reduce the pressure on his cock. The sad truth was he was whacking off as a time saving measure but in reality was missing out on so much. Efficiency is not everything! Her view: As she embraces the slow building of joy she remembers how she was able to achieve this pleasure. It seems that as the pressures of life encroached on her daily life she needed cuddling and attention. Sadly it seemed that as her stress level went up she was getting a bit less of what she desired. It was only due to an interesting conversation she had with her partner that a solution seemed to be around the corner. He admitted that in a few "rare" instances he whacked himself off but that he found a device called a "cage" that would keep him from touching himself. She was a bit creeped out by this idea but as a good partner she felt she should at least try to please. Wow what a find! It turns out that by locking him in this little cage device he went from sometimes disinterested to always and totally attentive. What is the deal here? Some sort of magic? At first she would lock him up for a few hours at a time and the start of the "attention" was the most exciting discovery. Why is this working so well? Always concerned for his welfare, she was often reluctant to make him spend too much time in the cage. "Wouldn't it hurt if I leave him in too long" she would think. How can he take the pinching and the pressure? Don't you want to get out and fill my pussy? Of course the answer lies in the statement that "less is more"! As she experimented with his reactions it turns out the longer she had him in the cage the more intense the attention to her needs. It also turned out the longer in the cage the more explosive his orgasms. During one starting session she asked him if it was ok to keep him in the cage at night? That little question led to the cage being left on for the whole weekend. He endured three days and nights in the cage! He said he was ok at night although his cock tried to escape twice and he had to get up and go to the bathroom to keep the cage from pinching his balls. Poor baby she thought! I am starting to like the results! The upside of the weekend was he was so attentive on Sunday! It seems that after a day or so, he was itching to get out and knew the way out was to pay attention. She didn't want his cock to hurt or get hurt but on the other hand he wanted to sit next to her and hold her hand while watching TV? He suggested they take a nap and even offered to rub lotion all over her? Wow, how fun. In the end she asked that he sit between her open legs and use his fingers to spread her pussy. Closing her eyes she felt it start. The bit of embarrassment of her open legs and the fantasy of a master showing her off to his other masters brought her to the edge. Someday she may share this fantasy but for now she enjoys the time to herself. Tiny little circles and the spread of her lips made her breathe faster. She wanted him to stop but it had started and she could not back away. Her leg muscles started clinching and her pussy started spasms. Waves of pleasure overcame her until she had to push his fingers away. Should she let him out? What a challenging question now that she found the key to getting his attention. Perhaps she should experiment with keeping the key out of sight? I wonder how many days he might survive being locked up? Partner view: All this attention to her pussy and here he is caged and restrained from feeling his cock. One would think this would be a horrible spot for a guy but in reality he could not be happier! Over time he has built up some tongue muscle and his ability to tease and please her has gotten better. At first he was not sure she would like him being caged but it seems that the pressure forced him to try new ways to get her attention and let him out. She started out so nice and she was constantly worried he would be in pain. After awhile she asked him to stay caged longer and longer. Maybe she was realizing that the restriction has an overall pleasurable side effect. The giving of control to her releases him from all worry. No longer does he have to restrain from masturbating as he can't physically do it. If he gets an orgasm it is because she wants him to have one. He can do no wrong! He can focus on her and begging for a release. Although he was sure if he begged she would let him out, he tried to make her comfortable in to keeping him caged 24/7. It worked and she kept him in the cage all weekend. By the end of the weekend he was more excited than when they started. This restraint seems so captivating. This release from determining when and how he would orgasm was so liberating. Each time he would pay attention to her his wand got trapped in the cage and increased the pressure and pleasure. That gift of control is intoxicating! The longer he stays caged the more exciting the journey. What can he do to make her happy and let him out? Sitting between her legs looking down at the cage he was fingering her clit using slow easy circles. Soon he knew she was feeling good. Her legs started to rock in and out just a little bit. Concentrating on soft circles she started to breathe harder. It was subtle as it started but soon she was trying to move away from his finger. He knew this was just a bit of a wish as she loved the attention. Soon his cock was smashing itself in the cage as he pushed two fingers into her pussy and kept circling her clit. Spasm after spasm on his fingers let him know she was in another world. Her view: Slowing down and feeling the relaxation she now knew she needed to explore how long she could keep this attention on her pleasure. She planned to keep the cage on all week and find out what could happen. Maybe she could get a massage or lotion rubbed on her skin. This just might have some benefits she had not planned on. He is going to be surprised. Partner view: Oh my cock is so randy. Watching her come has a pleasure of its own. I am ready now to fill her and get released. I know she wants to finish this weekend with a bang. I think I might bust out of this cage if she doesn't release me. To be continued? What is that? Did you say you like the attention? That is great because I love giving you the attention. Did you say you are not going to unlock me now? Wait, I think it is going to hurt my cock if I don't get out? Did you say you are willing to take that chance? Wait a minute, I thought you would want to end this? What, you like how attentive I have been? Of course I will stay this way if you let me out. You don't believe me? Growing and Learning with Restraint Ch. 02 Her view- I have to wonder why so few women have learned the lessons I have learned. Just yesterday I was getting kind of horny sitting out by the pool. Honey? Could you come rub some lotion on me? Just like that, my lover came over with a bottle of lotion and sat on a chair next to me. I was tanning on the chaise in the back yard by our pool. It was a wonderfully sunny day as it usually is here in the desert. I was lying on my stomach with only my bikini bottoms on. Ahhh; I love the slickness of the warm lotion and the wonderful coconut smell as the cream is applied. My lover is trained to make sure and rub the lotion between his hands before he places his hands on me. I dislike the coldness of the lotion as it comes out of the bottle. I would hate to assign him points for such an easy mistake to avoid. Small infractions are assigned points to be dealt with at the end of the day. Starting the process at the top of my shoulders he smoothes the lotion into my body. His hands rub the skin and muscles of my back. Slowly the knots and the stress start to leave my body. As he gets down to my ass I gently raise my hips as a signal he can take off my bikini bottom. Ohh.. I feel his finger gently circle my asshole and then slide in. He has been trained to touch and tease me a little as he does his work. I know my pussy can't take lotion as most lotions sting me there, but I like the ass tease. Once he makes it down to the toes I ask for a little special attention there. It feels so wonderful to have my feet rubbed. Then I flip over and point to my nipples. Training dictates that this signal means he will softly caress my tits circle the nipples with his index fingers starting a response. Once they get a little attention they do stiffen. He knows next l like him to pull on the nipples just a little bit. It excites me to look down and feel them tugged out. He follows this with alternate sucking until I caress his face letting him know I am ready for some action down south! Spreading my legs over the edges of the chaise I cup my own breasts. Someone has to keep them hard! I know that what comes next is that silky tongue all around my hot little cunt. Years of experience has trained him in multiple methods of getting me off. I don't like any "one method" as routine is so boring! I have learned many different ways to build up my orgasm and I have trained him on them all. Looking down at him I have to smile. You see he is getting frustrated a bit. His cock is trying so very hard to get erect but I have his cock trapped in an expensive steel belt. Although he wants to; he can't really play right now . I am such a tease! He smells my musky scent and sees my nipples get hard and he wants to get out and play as well. Am I in a fantasy? I mean think about it. Here I am in my back yard spread out soft and naked with my hot lover licking me to orgasm. All the while he is under my "cock control" and must perform if he wants any help to get off. He knows if he wants me to touch his cock at all he needs to do is to please his mistress. One would think one orgasm would be enough for him but I am mean and make him stay between my legs until I come three times. Oh such trouble I am! His view- With all the training I have endured since the start I have learned to respond to some cues quickly. Skimming the pool I watch the mistress as she works on her tan. I am paying attention to her actions. I know that I need to be attentive since I have been locked in the steel belt for 10 days now. I need to find some sort of release! With the cage at least I see my cock and wiggle it around a bit. I know it is a bit of self abuse as it gets hard and trapped in the cage but it is worth the trouble. With the belt on, I can neither see nor touch my throbbing member. The mistress is such a tease and even though I think she might let me out of the belt, I know I will not be allowed to come. At least I won't be allowed to come in a satisfying way. The mistress is not the sort of person to let me waste away in the belt. She has learned so much herself and she knows that the best way to mess me up is to alternate getting me hard with being locked away in the cage or belt. She is asking for lotion? Ok, here I go into frustration land. I can feel my cock pushing against the steel cage under my belt already. One would think I am complaining but in reality this has been the best experience of my life. I have not felt so randy since I was in high school hoping to get laid after a date. My mistress has been very attentive and active in making sure I don't get bored. In fact I can say boredom is never an issue. My only price is I pay attention when she signals she needs something. It is a real win-win as far as I can tell. When she tells me to get out of the belt I know I will be taken to the wondrous edge of orgasm. I know also that I don't want to release unless she allows it. Lack of control on my part can lead to a training session or longer time in the belt without a tease. This is the "ying and yang" of my existence. It is the restraint and control of my sexual pleasure. It is the constant desire to be erect, to fill her, or to feel her hands on my cock. These feelings are then balanced by the control of the belt and her decision not to let me touch or come unless she desires it. This is a roller coaster I have chosen to take a ride on and I have not regretted one minute. Her view: Now we are going to have a whole lot of fun. His attention to my wishes today has been delicious. In the first days of our training together I really felt the best thing for him after attending my needs was to let him out of his belt and let him come like he has been begging me to do. But do you know what I found out? He didn't really want that at all!! My training as a woman is to please my partner and I would have thought that allowing him to fill me and bang away until he shot his load would be the pinnacle of pleasure for him. But after letting him perform this way in the beginning, I found he would become really moody? Not the response I was expecting! With a little prying I was able to figure out that what is fun for him is the loss of control over his release. I read online once that what he "wants" is to come but what he "CRAVES" is my control. Sure enough, I started learning that he needs to come but not nearly as often as he begs for it. He "craves" for me to tease and torment him which has taken a bit of time for me to learn. In opposition to the guys who think "no means yes" when bedding a woman, I have found that when training with a partner like this, "yes means no!". When asked if he is ready to come he says "yes" and I say "no"! So here is how I have fun with him. Honey, you can get out of your belt as long as you do it right her on the patio! Of course he is ready. He has long gotten over being shy outside. I allow him to take the key to his belt from my hand and watch as he unlocks the steel lock and pulls the belt to the side. As usual he doesn't need much in the way of encouragement to be standing hard and at attention. I take some cuffs from the table and have him turn around. I make him put his hands behind his back and the cuffs snap in place to make sure he cannot touch his randy cock. For whatever reason, I found he much prefers me to restrain him rather than just telling him to hold his hands behind his back. Perhaps is it just his personal choice but I am happy to accommodate him. I then take some lotion and "tell him" to stand next to me. I was taught to "ask kindly" as a girl but I have learned as a woman he "needs" to be told. It is part of my role that I accept gladly! I let him know that he is not to come as I perform this next action. If he does come for any reason he will face a strict spanking with my little heart shaped crop. His last spanking lasted until 75 when he used our safe word. I tell him that 80 will be my minimum in case of his loss of control. He is allowed (and encouraged) to let me know he is close to coming but that in no way dictates my actions. You see some days I really want to spank him and other days I like to keep him very close to the edge of an orgasm. The first allows him to release his load under very challenging circumstances as he knows the price he pays for this satisfying release. The second way makes him incredibly frustrated as he snaps on his belt after a long tease! With either ending he really gets what he craves and I get to have some wonderful fun. After many tries I have learned that his mind spins in delicious circles pondering what he should choose. He loves this conundrum and he will be so attentive in the next few days that I may have to dream up some diversionary tasks so I can get some rest. With a handful of lotion I lather up his member and get it slick to my touch. Then I start the game. I start with one long stroke and he has to count to one. I pause then I wrap both my hands around his shaft and squeeze and stroke up and down twice. He is doing ok and counts two. Then comes three times up and down and I can sense a bit of excitement. His last record was 12 before he was begging for me to stop. I know that today is going to be lucky 13!! At the end of ten he says he is getting close. I can tell by the dribble of pre-come forming at the tip. I have also noticed a twitch and changes in his breathing. I decide to slow down on trip 11 to keep him on the edge. Twice I have to let go as his cock starts to jump around. Looking in his eyes I can see he is trying so hard not to come. How fun to watch! The pleasure is so close yet his competitive nature makes him want to "WIN" this little game. He wants to try and control his body even if I am trying to make him spin out of control. My pleasure comes from knowing I have total control of this game. I can keep him on the edge or with a little faster rubbing and a bit more pressure there is no way he will be able to hang on. I feel his legs straining to keep control. Should I frustrate him or should I send him to training? How fun to be able to choose. To be continued...