7 comments/ 12451 views/ 8 favorites Ruth's Rules By: CaringAndDemanding The philosophy of rules My expectations are not easy to fulfil. I seek to achieve the best I can in all I do. These rules will help My servant to become the best I can make of her. If she does not treat these rules as important and meaningful, then I will not accept her as Mine. I expect My servant to follow these rules to the best of her ability, they exist so that she may feel comforted and loved under My guidance. Always she must remember that the goal of these rules is to show her how she can please Me. She should ingrain them into her mind so she can follow them without thinking, so that her whole heart may be set on pleasing and obeying Me. As we both live in a larger society that pressures us in a variety of ways it is only common sense that these rules have some flexibility and will not remain invariant. The content of the rules is less important than what they represent. She is expected to be flexible and inventive in obeying the rules. All of My servant's actions are instrumental in shaping her into something I can be proud of as her Master, whether they be correct or not. Self-discipline is vital in meeting My expectations and is at the basis of all she will learn from Me. The picture of submission My submission is a natural inborn feeling, and at times a surging and powerful force inside me that only a respectable and knowledgeable Master can recognize, control and manage, for He understands how my nature influences my behavior. He, too, manages and controls His own natural state, sharing with me through an exchange between us, binding me tightly to Him, His needs tangled with mine. My submission to such a Master allows me to feel more aware and alive inside and out, make me feel a feeling I cherish: "at home". * Only through submission can I find my true self, in submission I am made free. * I will serve, obey and please my Master of my own free will. * All my choices shall be based upon whether or not they will please my Master. * The greatest felt satisfaction is realized when I know I have pleased my Master. * I have much to learn in order to become a well-trained and well-behaved servant. * I am my Master's greatest treasure. * To receive pleasure I must earn it. I submit to the will of my Master and I am bound to Him. I accept His authority over me for my purpose is to serve, obey and please my Master. I will work hard to give my Master control and turn my will over to Him. I know this is my duty and I desire to serve and please Him by doing so. My Master knows of my potential, learning more about me in each day I am with Him. He trusts that I will act in accordance with what He perceives of my potential, He knows what is best for me. I am to set a good example through my behavior. I am always in submission to my Master whether He is present or not, ready to please Him at any time, in any place, under any circumstances that He deems appropriate. I trust my Master will keep me safe, protecting His reputation and mine in the presence of others, as He examines my ability to present myself to Him. The needs of my Master must always come first because they offer an opportunity to please Him. The opportunity to please my Master is very important to me and I will take every chance to seek out such opportunities to do so to the best of my abilities and in accordance to how i have been taught or allowed to do so. There can be no greater pain or suffering than knowing that I have displeased my Master in any way. Naturally I will feel depressed, saddened, empty, and lost. I can only hope He will show His mercy upon me and provide to me the guidance I will need to be put back on track so that I will be forgiven. I will treat and obey the rules He has provided for me with respect and shape my life in purpose of following them, because I realize that my Master only means to improve me by imposing restraints on me. Trust Trust is an indispensable necessity in a power based relationship. I have to trust that My servant will follow My commands and guidance, she needs to trust that I will not lead her astray or abuse her. She needs to be secure in knowing that reporting anything she feels is not right will not lead to repercussions. I am a serious person, I don't do BDSM frivolously or lightly. I don't treat it as a game and will not commit to those who do. Trust is slow to build and easy to lose, I will not risk My painstaking efforts with someone who will throw everything away. I trust my Master: His responsibilities, His skills, His hunger and needs, and His concern for my safety, my emotional, psychological, social, sexual, and physical health. I need to know that He will be responsible and that He will take everything into account when He decides on something that will affect both of us. If I know that, then I know that I am safe in His hands and I can freely give my body and mind. Obedience Obedience is the pride and joy of the servant. My servant knows that when she is obedient to My will and does things the way I want them done she makes Me proud to own her. Obedience is something that is not negotiable and the consequences for disobedience are My displeasure and being removed from My presence and love. Coming back to the center of our relationship can only be achieved if correction and discipline have been doled out and forgiveness has been given. Hesitance in obedience to Me will first be met by an inquiry in the clearness of the instruction. If the instruction was clear, then hesitance will be considered disobedience and discipline will follow. Respect Respect is a result of and a prerequisite for the deep commitment we have made to each other. Both sides should respect the other for the strength that He or she displays in honoring it. She respects Me because I am strong, confident, responsible, consistent, aware of any risks we face when playing, have a plan mapped out and do not back down from something I said I would do. She respects Me because I offer her caring love and harmony. I serve just as much as she does. She respect My decisions, even when I don't take the time to explain them to her. She knows that I have our mutual best interest in mind at all times. I in turn respect her because I know how difficult it can be for her to be selfless and give herself to Me when everything in her being shouts that she doesn't want to do something. I respect the sacrifices she makes in order to become what I want her to be. I respect the fact that she is only happy when in servitude and that she can open herself to give her all to Me. 1)General A)Safety * Verbal safe words will follow the 'traffic light system' (red = stop, orange = caution, green = GO!) * Non-verbal safe words will follow the 'double squeeze' system. * My servant will not hesitate to use her safe word when she feels overwhelmed, there is no shame in this nor is there any acceptance of disobedience here at any time. She should know that whenever she safewords or was unable to do so, there will be space for her to come down from the experience and that I will be there to care for her. * My servant will make sure that she has the following safety precautions in sensible locations at her residence: a first aid kit, emergency tools such as emergency scissors, contraceptives as needed and also decent water based lubricants. She will read up on this besides reading the materials I provide her and she will be held responsible for providing all that is necessary for her safety in her own residence. B)Protocol a)Forms of Address * In public, in company or during free time My servant will address Me by My given name. * In private, My servant will address Me as Sir. * In public and during free time My servant will use whatever form of address seems most appropriate and she may speak freely but with respect. b)Rules of conversation * My servant is responsible for all the words that she speaks. * My servant will not use disrespectful or hurtful words in conversation. * My servant must never show disrespect towards Me in any way - no matter if I am in her presence or not. * My servant will keep her tone calm and collected when in a crisis situation. * Whenever I speak, even when interrupting her, My servant is to listen and to immediately become silent. She must never interrupt Me unless we are in free time or she has an urgent message, at all other times she will speak when spoken to. * In normal circumstances My servant must first ask for My permission to speak and whether or not she may be allowed to speak freely. * At play parties and other scene events My servant is allowed to mingle with the crowd unless I require her to stay by My side. Whenever a conversation turns to an intimate or personal subject, she is to tell the person she is speaking with that she needs My permission to speak of such a subject and should come find Me. * She is expected to be able to converse freely. I strongly urge her to polish her conversational skills and make sure that she has something to talk about. * She must always give thanks to Me for all I give her immediately after receiving it. c)Levels of protocol * The different levels of protocol are low or public protocol, private protocol and high or submission protocol. * Low protocol is in effect during free time and in public. * Private protocol is in effect at our private residences, when we are by ourselves or with trusted individuals. My servant should be wearing one of the uniforms I have specified or clothing that is suited to the occasion we will be attending. * Transitioning between low and private protocol should be fluent. * High protocol will be planned beforehand. * In public, when I enter the room she is in, she is to come physically greet Me. Otherwise, when I enter the room she is in she is to kneel correctly and ask Me "How may I serve you, Sir?", while maintaining eye contact. * In public, when leaving the room I am in, she must come notify Me and tell Me where she is going. Otherwise, she needs to ask My permission in a respectful manner. * My servant must ask Me permission to satisfy whatever need she has before acting on it. This includes getting food or drink, going to the toilet, getting a tissue, etc. In public she should not ask permission, but instead should inform Me of what she plans to do; for example: "I'm just going to get a drink, would You like anything?", thus giving Me the opportunity to reply "Actually could you do this first...?". * If I detect a fault in My servant's behavior in public I will always address her with one of her pet names. I will tell her that she has behaved inappropriately and that her discipline will be postponed to a more suitable time if she fails to change her behavior. Otherwise, the reaction to her disobedience will be either swift or at My convenience. * Whenever a problem arises in public My servant will inconspicuously tug My sleeve or get My attention in a similar manner and say: "Sir, there is a problem. Could you spare me some of Your attention?" in a soft voice. * When I return home later than My servant, she must be in the hall to greet Me as I enter. She should kneel in the correct position in a spot visible from the doorway and wait for a touch or verbal acknowledgement, then verbally welcome Me home. * During private protocol her place is sitting at My right side on the floor, unless given permission to do otherwise. * High protocol is reserved for play time, scene activities and other special occasions where I deem it appropriate (e.g. during discipline). My servant must be dressed in the appropriate dress for what I have planned, she will be informed of what this is or will be expected to know. Her place during these times is on her knees before Me, for it is a privilege and an honour to serve Me. She is to remain in a kneeling position at the right side of the door until I enter the room and then crawl on hands and knees to where I position Myself and then kneel before Me. She will not leave the room unless I tell her to do so as long as high protocol remains in effect. Her head must be bowed down in My presence unless given permission to do otherwise or when spoken to. In this way she honours My position and shuts out distractions that would disturb her submission to Me. This will help her focus on her behavior, waiting to act appropriately and without hesitation when directed to do so. When speaking to me during high protocol, she will not break eye contact. * In high protocol, My servant will not use the words "I", "me", "my" or "mine". Instead she will use "Your servant" and "Your servant's" when speaking to Me. She will use "the Master's servant" and "the Master's servant's" when talking to others. C)Communication a)In general * Do not hesitate when responding to Me. * If I contact My servant, she must respond. I do not like to be kept waiting. If she senses that I require a full and time-consuming response when she doesn't have time to give one, she should reply to Me in brief beforehand so I am not left waiting. * Be both specific and explicit when speaking. * My servant is required to always be honest, even if it means she will be in trouble. * If My servant has to give a negative answer to one of My questions I will expect her to have arguments prepared to defend her answer. I will then judge as I see fit. * If I find she has ever lied to me, I will judge her accordingly. Dissolution of the contract is not out of bonds here. * My servant should always respond fully both physically and verbally to whatever I do with her. Her emotional expressions and physical responses are important to Me, she should never hold back any part of their display, regardless of how intense they may be, unless told not to. * My servant is not allowed any secrets from Me, she must tell Me all there is to know about her in due time so I can learn what I need to know. She will have to work hard to achieve this openness of body, mind and soul. * When My servant serves Me in any way, I in turn will tell her exactly how I experienced it. She should receive these comments on her service with a grateful heart as they are instrumental to her growth as My servant. She needs to learn all she can from Me in order to understand more about Me, about herself, about the form of our relationship and the community it is part of. * I expect My servant to bring to My attention any problems or issues she has with our relationship. Any feelings of anger, fear or other counter-productive emotions will be expressed to Me in order that I may find a way to correct these feelings. It is her duty to do so. * She should be specific at all times about her needs. I can't promise to meet them all but I do expect to be told them. I will get very impatient if I sense her holding back. * Being honest about disobedience means that she is asking Me for a way to move forward through the mechanism of discipline, forgiveness and forgetting about it. We go through this and then it is over for all time. We do not dwell on things that are past. We do not dig up old hurts and events to hurt each other again. * I will not allow guilt over displeasing Me to eat away at her well-being and at her sense of peace and contentment. If she feels she has displeased Me and I have not reacted to it in the way she feels is right, she may bring this to My attention. Any reaction to her petition is fully to My discretion. b)Journal * I am free to read My servant's journal at any time. * The main function of the journal is for her to write down her feelings, current events, interests and worries. I am also curious as to what her devious little mind cooks up and so any fantasies she has must be noted down in her journal with as much detail as she can manage. Some of these might show up in what I do with her. * My servant is allowed to spend her own money on whatever she wishes to, although she is required to consult Me when she wishes to make a large purchase. Items that fall under My rules are to be purchased with them in mind, I also expect them to mentioned in her journal. * She will maintain a written list of the things that make her the most uncomfortable, self-conscious, or embarrassed. Once an item is on the list, I am free to make her perform it and expect her to perform well. She is allowed to request that an item is scrapped from the list after trying it at least once. * She will also maintain a list of projects that she would like to see completed. I will discuss some of them with her and set time lines around them. Once this step has been taken, achieving these goals timely will be seen as part of her training. The following are possible areas of interest: Domestic, Health and beauty, Leisure, Networking and friends, Family, Sexual, BDSM experiences, Knowledge and skills, Fun, Adventure. For an example list, see: http://libbysub.blogspot.be/2010/04/101-list_06.html * My servant is allowed to suggest ways to further her training or the use of her either verbally or through her journal. If I am interested in taking up her suggestion I will speak to her about it, but this is not necessary. Anything that is written in the journal or verbally requested will be considered to have the green light. * My servant will also report her perception of her progress in training so that I can appropriately further her guidance. * She will periodically examine her whole life and look for how it has changed as a result of My investment in her. She will note down her thought process and conclusions. She will then come to Me with the journal and speak to Me about those areas where there have been improvements and those areas where she feels uncomfortable, insecure, or unsure of what direction she should take, how she should behave, or how she can behave in a manner that is different than how she has been behaving in the past. c)Privacy * Our privacy as a couple is important. None of the tasks that I will give My servant will have an unreasonable risk of endangering our privacy. * At My residence there is a separate room available for My servant. This room is considered a 'free zone', she can use her own funds beyond what I have provided to adapt it to her liking. I will not interfere with its design. Any time I require entrance in this room, I will not be denied. This room is not meant for her to hide anything from Me, it is a personal space for her to express herself, to deal with her inner feelings and to calm down. D)Organization a)Decision making This document is meant to guide My servant when I am not around. I do recognize that there will probably be situations when these rules and orders will not suffice. I am aiming for a framework for life, not an instruction manual on how to live it. In situations where she feels conflicted, My servant will do her best to decide as I would and to act as I would have her act if I were there. It is her own duty to learn what she needs to know to be able to do this. I expect her to learn by observing Me and by asking Me about My choices. Each time she has to make a decision like this, I expect her to tell Me about it as soon as she can so I can review it and make any necessary corrections for the future. Small mistakes will be tolerated, but blatant errors will not. b)Scheduling * My schedule will be maintained on-line, if it is not found there, it does not exist. * My servant will keep a record of what she does and for how long. This includes all work activities, chores at home, leisure activities etc. Knowing at all times when she is available and what she has done is important in order for Me to plan out her training. * If My servant is unable to complete her chores for any reason, such as illness or other circumstances, she must explain this to Me. Over-exertion is not acceptable as a result of trying to fulfil her duties. If there is a real reason, I will be understanding. Ruth's Rules c)Free time * 'Free time' is a period of time where there is space for talking out things, openness and support. It is also a time during which we can rest. Our commitment can be draining at times and a break could be what is best for the both of us. Free time allows us to interact with each other as a normal couple would. Respect is still important here, but playfulness, enjoyment and relaxation are just as important. * My servant may request free time at any time if she feels there is an important need for it. Such requests will usually be granted, although not necessarily straight away. * I can inform her that I want free time, as I desire to step outside the bounds for a bit from time to time. * Following play time, there will always be free time. This will allow us to recuperate from the experience and better share our experiences. * Following the use of a safe word or any other significant emotional event, there will always be free time. * Sometimes My servant will wish to relax in a warm bath, during her own time. Sometimes I will tell her to take a bath, so that she can unwind. No restrictions are put on bathing besides that the duration of the bath shouldn't interfere with other duties she might have. It is important to relax from time to time, I will not intrude on this. d)Leisure * I encourage My servant to remain in contact with her family, friends and work colleagues, through phone calls, emails, letters, having them visit, visiting them and going out with them. She should inform Me of any visits or arrangements in good time, so her training and other duties can be rearranged if necessary. Also she should schedule around anything that I had already planned, she can ask permission to cancel one of our activities together. * Entertaining herself in any way should not interfere with duties or requirements that remain in place. * Under an assumed name, My servant is allowed to communicate about our relationship on message boards and chat rooms. She should not disclose any information that could identify us to untrusted individuals or on publicly accessible pages. * Providing service on-line is allowed, each experience should be noted down in her journal though. She is also required to notify them of her restrictions and limitations before play. E)Personal growth a)Physical goals My servant is expected to shape her body into a versatile tool through long term effort. To this effect she will do the following: * Stretching: Every morning. This will increase the flexibility of her limbs and decrease the chance that she will get injured during any physical exercise or play. * Tai chi: Every morning. This will increase her physical as well as her emotional balance. It is also an invigorating exercise that will give her more energy to achieve the goals I set for her. * Aikido: Twice weekly, one private class with a sensei and one group class. This will strengthen her body and also increase the control she has over it. Apart from that it will also increase her emotional stability and confidence. The most important reason is personal safety, she is a beautiful creature and when she follows My rules she will be even more desirable. This can attract the wrong kind of attention and I will not allow this to lead to unwanted consequences, if it can be avoided. * Belly dancing: Once weekly, private class with an experienced teacher. This will teach her more elegant, seductive movements as well as increase her overall grace and confidence in her femininity. Apart from that, dancing beautifully tones the female body and accentuates a lot of its natural appeal. * SM: No set time schedule. She will work on enduring and enjoying sensations that are out of the ordinary such as pain. I will slowly and carefully expand on her limits. When practising any of these disciplines, she will wear as little clothing as she may possibly need and practice in front of a tall mirror. This will confront her with the effort she is putting in to become what I want her to be. b)Intellectual goals * My servant will be required to read at least two books every month, of which at least one non-fiction. * I will provide My servant with a subscription to a respectable news site so she can quickly be acquainted with the daily news through morning and evening updates. * My servant will grant Me insight into her daily work routine, so I can study what it is she does and suggest ways in which she can increase her work efficiency. c)Personal goals * My servant is not allowed to think badly of herself for the following reasons: - I do not accept a weak woman into My service. - It takes a strong woman to commit to the drive inside her, to serve, to obey and to please a Master. Deepening her submission will require her to be even stronger. - My guidance will make her an example for other women around her, when she leaves My sight I expect her to be a kind, successful professional. * I find it of importance that My servant learns to handle money wisely so, if needed, she can reach the goals I set for her without My help or she can be ready for any emergency where finances may be required for resolution. 2)Appearance A)In general * I expect My servant to dress in the following manner when in public: * The color scheme of her outfit works and accentuates her features. * The clothes that she wears don't hide her figure but instead accentuate its most captivating features. * Her clothes show skin in a sensual, enticing but not a vulgar way. If I wanted a slut I wouldn't put in this effort. * Any make-up she wears should be subtle, the purpose of make-up is to accentuate the natural beauty of her face. * Accessories will be chosen to not clash with the combination of the outfit, her eye color, her hair color nor her skin tone. * She must always remember that it pleases Me when others delight in her beauty and she should dress in a way that would force other women to respect her appearance and acknowledge it. How she presents her body to Me (and by extension to others) is more important than her discomfort and insecurities. I want her to stand out and she will do just that or be taught that she must. * In private there are several uniforms I will keep at hand for her to wear. These can change over time but will have one common feature: simplicity. It is My firm belief that a beautiful woman is even more beautiful in simple clothing that do her justice. B)Clothing * These rules and My responses to the clothes she wears and owns are important sources of information for her to learn My tastes. * Sometimes I will ask her to surprise Me with an outfit, she should be mindful of the setting in which she will be wearing that clothing and is allowed to be more bold when that setting is private. * It is perfectly reasonable for Me to ask her to wear something outside My general specification because I want to see her reactions and enjoy Myself. * Her undergarments are considered part of her outfit. They should match the rest of her clothes and be appealing. If she does not possess anything fitting she will not wear any undergarments with that particular outfit until she notifies me of the problem or buys a suitable piece herself. * She will not wear panty hose, instead she will wear stockings. These can be self-suspending or not, it does not matter. * When assembling an outfit, she may ask Me if it is to My liking. I can refuse any of the garments she has picked and she will have to either get another piece of clothing or go without it, as I see fit. I will not spend My time in picking out an outfit, unless there is one I have in mind for her. * I will not permit any silly, self-conscious worrying over clothes and appearance. If she follows My rules then she will look stunning. The only thing My servant has to worry about is whether or not I like it. C)Jewelry * My servant will wear the jewelry I give her with gratitude and taste. * The Collar is a sign that she has served Me well and I require her to keep doing so in the future, she should be proud that her devotion to Me has made Me willing to keep her in servitude. * Once collared, she shall wear the Collar every day. * When we are together, she may ask of Me to put on her Collar and to take it off for her. * My servant should do well to remember at all times that when I collar her, this does not mean that I am gifting her the Collar. It remains My property and she merely cares for it and wears it as a symbol. If she displeases Me, I can take away this symbol as a strong sign that she has fallen out of grace. * When the relationship is ended, she will return the Collar to Me. D)Hair and make-up * My servant's hair will never reach short of the lower edge of her shoulder blades, long hair pleases Me in a woman. * My servant is required to keep her hair in a feminine and attractive style at all times. I leave this up to her preference, unless I request a particular style of her. * I will not allow any coloring of hair of any sort. * There are exceptions where practicality reigns over appearance, such as during physical exercise. Practical measures such as a pony tail shall suffice in these situations. * Unless I clearly ask for it, I will not allow any form of garish make-up. * Lipstick should be matched to the outfit being worn, if used at all. My servant should mind the effect that lipstick can have on certain men. * I don't require nails to be painted, I only require that they are kept clean and short. E)Health and grooming * Showering shall happen in the morning, when by herself My servant is expected to do this in an efficient manner. First wet the hair, so it can be washed and the suds can work in on the hair, while this is happening she should wash herself. In one rinse she will be clean and proceed to dry herself. This process should not take longer than twenty minutes, this is including drying and styling of hair and applying make-up. * My servant will use the soap I have put together with her in mind. In order not to disturb the delicate fragrance I aspired to create she will use scentless deodorants and the like. * If she takes too long in the bathroom, I will have My servant take a cold shower. She will not be allowed to cover herself up and will make sure that every part of her has felt the cold spray. * When I am with her in the morning, I will inspect her after she finishes up in the bathroom. If I am not pleased she will fix whatever has displeased Me and be disciplined at the first practical occasion. * After playtime that involved flagellation, spanking etc. My servant will apply a vitamin E cream to the affected areas. This will speed up her recovery and reduce markings. If I wish her to remain marked, she will not be given this privilege. * Legs, armpits and pussy must be kept completely shaved smooth and clean at all times, nothing will be hidden from My view. * Before serving Me, her pussy and ass must be thoroughly washed and of a good aroma at all times. * It is important for My servant to eat a balanced diet. I will draw up a schedule for her as to what she is supposed to eat and require her to keep a log of what she eats. If she cannot comply to the schedule due to circumstances, I will prepare meals beforehand so she can eat healthy foods. I enjoy cooking, making larger portions is not a problem for Me. * Unhealthy treats are at My discretion and My servant may not buy them for herself unless she asks My permission beforehand. * Smoking or drugs are prohibited. Good quality alcohols are not, but they are meant to be enjoyed and are thus taken in moderation. 3)Form When My servant walks, runs, sits, stands, kneels, reaches out, speaks, or listens - she will do so in a sensual manner, however subtle, and with confidence and pride. She is to set the best possible example of proper female behavior - at all times. Over time, her femininity is to become an openly expressed and natural part of her. A)In public settings * In public My servant is to set an example through her posture as well as through her behavior. Her shoulders and back will be straight, her chest pushed slightly forward and her head held high. When walking she should have a firm stride, setting her feet in one line and swaying her hips in a feminine way. She should be entirely confident in her shoes so she doesn't trip and make a fool of herself, this will not be tolerated. * She should at all times be aware of herself and her environment, this is a sign of intelligence. * She should be aware of her capabilities and at the same time realize that she is not alone in possessing them. She should strive to fulfil her potential to the best of her abilities and remain humble while doing so. Success does not survive complacency, only hard work leads to success and is needed to sustain it. B)In private settings * In private My servant is freed from the burdens her public life brings her. She can focus her attention on submitting to Me and pleasing Me. She will more overtly display herself. If needed, she will strive to be inconspicuous but appealing when noticed. Yet, even in private settings, she must be aware of her environment and her capabilities. C)Positions * Positions are only assumed in private settings or in scene friendly company. In public, My servant will show her respect to Me in more subtle ways that are in no way less profound. * I will personally teach My servant the positions that can be found in the positions appendix and see to it that she performs them to the standard that I wish to see. I expect her to accept this training and apply herself to the best of her abilities. She will take such positions whenever I require it of her or when the rules dictate her to do so. All these positions are meant to display her in a vulnerable, enticing way. * When in one position, she is to remain in that position until given another instruction or the interaction calls for a change of position, based on the rules. * Moving into and between positions will happen in a controlled, graceful manner, being aware of how she looks to Me. This will be part of her position training. * I may add positions as I see fit. * She is to assume a submissive position whenever possible, including when I enter a room she was already in. * When in My presence, but not in use, she will go to the place I have selected until I have need of her. This will usually be at the right side of My seat. * When she is confused or asking a question she is to tilt her head to one side and look up at Me. * When on her period, she is to close her legs during all positions, to indicate that her pussy is unavailable at that time. * When going commando under a dress or skirt she must sit on her bare skin, she will achieve this by gracefully and subtly flipping up her skirt before sitting down. 4)Service * My servant will not be passive in serving Me, I expect pro-active participation in her submission to Me. She will find ways to serve Me and demonstrate her worth, beyond what I have specifically instructed. She will learn My preferences and habits through careful observation and attention, so she can anticipate and provide for My needs and improve her service to Me. * The first and the last words she speaks are "I am Yours, Sir", every day. Even if I am not there to hear the words. * Every day she is to describe in her journal her outfit and undergarments or lack thereof. This description should be detailed enough that I am capable of judging whether it accords to My prescriptions. * When undressing, My servant must remove all of her clothes in the following manner: from outer to inner layers and from bottom to top. She is to neatly fold and stack every piece of clothing. Throughout the process she should keep in mind that she has to look appealing in everything she does and thus make her undressing sensual, but not overly long. No more than two minutes will be acceptable. This rule applies whenever she has to undress. * She will always undress when told to, she will trust My judgment that it is safe to do so. * My servant will write My given name on some part of her body every day. She should mention in her journal where she has written My name. Areas with some small risk of detection are preferred. * If I am present in the morning, I will write My name on her body and judge her outfit Myself. * When staying over, if we are on the same morning clock, I expect to be woken up in a fun way. This is an opportunity for My servant to be creative, playful or show off her training. * When staying over, if we are on the same morning clock, she will wash Me in the shower using her body in the manner that I will instruct her in. * When we eat together, I will cook as I enjoy doing so. She will be responsible for putting the dishes in the dishwasher and hand washing any delicate glassware. * When we have a private meal she is to present herself to Me besides the table, kneeling until I instruct her to sit on her own chair and await permission to eat. In public or company this permission to sit and to eat will take the form of a subtle nod and she should not kneel. * My servant must perform any tasks I have given her either the night prior or throughout the day. She should be flexible in performing these tasks and notify Me of any conditions (e.g. menstruation) that make it impossible for her to comply. * My servant will wash, fold, put away and iron My clothes once every other week. The week after she has done laundry, she will tidy up the place. The reverse of this schedule will be performed by a cleaning lady. * All shopping will be done by both of us, except for 'top-up' shopping which can be done by either of us as convenient. She will report all purchases she makes by herself in her journal on the day they are made. * My servant will learn Japanese tea service and serve Me My tea in the correct fashion. There is much to learn about skill and elegance in this art. Before each play time she will brew Ma'cha for Me, this will focus Me and allow her to descend into subspace at the same time. * She will learn how to shave using a single edged razor. She will practice on her own legs first and when she considers herself proficient, she will approach Me and offer to shave me. I will be lenient during the first five times, after that any cuts or forgotten areas will be duly noted. * My servant will be taught by a beautician how to work her hair in a variety of styles. She will also learn how to apply minimal amounts of make-up to a maximal effect. * My servant is expected to provide the same non-sexual services as she does for Me for any visitors I invite, to the best of her ability. She will adapt the form of her service to the level of protocol that is in effect. * Being tired is not an excuse for failing to perform her duties. * In order to know My servant's bed time, she needs to tell Me how much hours of sleep are necessary for her to function properly. That amount of hours before her waking time is her bed time. * As this time can be earlier than when I go to sleep she should present herself to Me in the correct sleepwear and ask permission to go to bed. I may join her and entertain Myself with her, it is up to Me. When she is not staying over, she must contact Me in some other way five minutes before her bed time at the latest. * Once a week My servant will go commando on her own accord. Not applicable during time of the month. * Sometimes there be special events such as e.g. "Theme night": She will serve dinner in an outfit of My choosing or I will grant her the opportunity to surprise Me. Dinner will be followed by either play time or an outing. During these events she will be allowed more freedom in approaching and pleasing Me. Ruth's Rules 5)Sexual use A)Sexual attitude I consider My servant a sexual and sensual being. As such she should be eager to sexually perform at the best of her abilities for Me. Her desire must be such that without My allowing her satisfaction, her need can never be fully satiated. She will be available and prepared for sexual service whenever I wish, her entire sexual being belongs to Me. She will work hard to convince Me to fulfil My needs through her. She may offer herself to Me, to this effect she could ask, "Sir, do you have any needs that Your servant may serve?" She does need to realize that all sexual contact will be initiated because I want it. It is an opportunity for her to serve Me and that should be a reward in and of itself. My servant should not expect Me to return her service, although I do enjoy giving pleasure as well as receiving it. B)Orgasms * An orgasm must be seen as a privilege, a treat. As such it is under My control to grant or to withhold such pleasure. * My servant must never reach orgasm without explicit permission or instruction to do so from Me. Failure to obey will warrant discipline. She must also tell Me honestly when she has cum without permission, this will not ease her discipline but it is a sign that she can be trusted. * When she is nearing orgasm in My presence she must notify Me of this by clearly saying "edge", if still capable she should ask for permission to come. She will obey the above rule for as long as I want. * I will gradually train My servant to orgasm in response to My command. C)Masturbation * My servant will be required to study female masturbation and will demonstrate her proficiency to Me when I ask it of her. She needs to be proficient at playing with herself, there is little meaning in restricting something that she can't even do properly. * My servant needs permission or specific instructions in order to be allowed to masturbate. She should always put her utmost effort in following whatever instructions I give her. * Permission to masturbate does not mean that she has permission to come, I might require of her to keep herself on edge for a period of time. * Whenever I tell her to masturbate, My servant should trust Me that it is safe to do so and she should not hesitate in obeying. * Whenever I tell her to masturbate in My presence, she should perform as sensually as she possibly can, even when I am not watching her. Noises should not be suppressed until told do so, then I want to hear nothing at all. D)Use of and care for toys and tools * My servant is responsible for cleaning and caring for any toys and tools that are used during any type of play or masturbation. Unsanitary and poorly cared for toys are unpleasant and can even be dangerous or infectious. She will be inspected on the cleanliness of toys before each use. * When using remote controlled or wireless toys such as vibrating eggs or Ben Wa balls, she is required to be kneeling when they are being inserted, even if she is inserting them herself. The fact that I am granting her this pleasure should make her grateful to Me and she should express this after inserting the toy. * When using toys while in public, people should not be able to notice that something is off about My servant. It does not matter how intense the stimulation might be, she should not be found out or she will be disciplined for lack of self-control. She would do well not to forget the odor an aroused woman emits and the blush that will come to her face. These and other factors will make it so that anyone who really takes the time to study her should be able to deduce what is going on. She will need to divert that attention away from her situation by engaging others and distracting them this way. If she feels a certain type of stimulation is too strong for her to endure in public, she can ask for extra training with that type of stimulation. E)Sexual service * My servant should realize that I am not keeping her as a sex pet. I have other expectations of her besides serving Me sexually, that being said I do have a healthy appetite for sex and I will allow her to sate that need to the best of her ability whenever I want her to. * I will school My servant in how to provide oral service, there is much to learn but the basic lesson is this: she is to focus on what she is doing as much as possible, she needs to want to please Me by varying what she is doing and building up to the climax. She should be happy that she may serve Me like this, it is a very personal and vulnerable way for her to show Me that she is devoted to Me. Her efforts when performing this task are easily evaluated. * I expect My servant's pussy to always be available to Me and to lubricate quickly when I mention that I want to use her. * The only exception to this is when she is on her period, then she will notify Me of this either verbally, through her posture and positions or by marking it off in her journal. * She should bear her breasts or completely undress whenever I ask it of her and trust Me that it is safe to do so. I am always allowed access to every part of her body. * Whenever we have anal sex, this will be done with the necessary preparation. The same level of availability is expected for her ass as for the rest of her body. * During any sexual service she performs for Me, she should put in the maximal effort that she is capable of. It is much more pleasurable for Me to have sex with a willing and enthusiastic woman. * Sexual service will never be expected to exceed My servant's limits. * Sexual service that is out of the ordinary will be approached with common sense and will not be denied by My servant, she has set her limits and anything inside them is free for Me to play with. * If she does discover that something new is not working for her, she should never hesitate to speak of this to Me. Safe wording is not necessary in these situations but it is if it becomes too overwhelming or uncomfortable. F)Playtime a)Preparation * Playtime will usually be planned ahead; it might come up spontaneously but then I will see how I want things as we go along. * My servant is not allowed to masturbate to completion on days when there will be a scene in the evening. She is allowed to touch herself though and might be ordered to do so. * She will make sure that her grooming is impeccable, this will be inspected. * On My request, one to four hours prior to meeting, she will prepare herself for anal sex through the use of an enema and then a shower. This does not mean that I will necessarily have anal sex with her, but I like to have all My options available. * She will always join Me one hour before the start of playtime at the latest and prepare tea for Me. She is expected to follow the serving rules meticulously and I will carefully watch her while I relax and enjoy My tea. b)During and before sessions * High protocol is in effect. * All positions must be respected here and used at the correct time, with good execution. If she fails to do this she will be disciplined. * During playtime she must always ask permission before she does or says anything. This might not be ideal depending on the dynamic of the scene and I will notify her if I think it isn't. * I will not change My course of action during playtime because My servant says "No". No is not a safe word and will be considered part of the scene. This means that no matter how uncomfortable or embarrassed she may feel, she must always do what I tell her to do. * Crying and the shedding of tears at any time is good and accepted behavior. * My servant will never tighten her body during any kind of spanking or flagellation. I like the way her flesh jiggles and tightening her body might cause her to experience more pain than I intended. * I will do mindfucks when I see occasion to do so, My servant should trust Me when I say that afterwards she will have My support in processing the experience. * If I see that she is unable to perform some task or action, I will notify her when she can stop. G)Rules concerning promiscuity * My servant is allowed to request playtime with another Dominant, however no penetration will be allowed. This is the maximum of what I will allow outside of our relationship. I do not wish to share what is Mine more than I would like to. Exceptions can be made if I judge that experiencing things outside the safety of our relationship might further My servant's growth. * What I want with My servant is a stable, open relationship that is adventurous, fun and caring. In case My servant cannot meet one of My needs, I will actively search for another servant to fulfil it, so I can focus more fully on the part of My needs that is relevant to My servant when I am with her. I do not wish for a second full time responsibility. As such, My time spent with the other servant will not intrude on My guidance of My own servant. * It is My intention to get to know this servant for a period of time, judge whether she is compatible with My servant as a person and then introduce her. Anything that is within limits concerning a second female party is on the table then. * Any jealousy that My servant feels must be noted down in her journal or even verbally reported to Me. It is childish behavior, especially if My care for her has not deteriorated in the slightest. She will be disciplined and reminded that she agreed with the very words written here. 6)Discipline and reward * I will endure whatever discipline or reward my Master gives me so I can better serve Him. * Through discipline and reward I shall learn to behave, it will strengthen me and allow me to grow. * There can be no greater pain or suffering than when my Master is not pleased with me. * There can be no greater joy than when my Master is pleased with me. Failing to respect all the rules on a daily basis can happen for many reasons. Some are acceptable and will be met with understanding. It is even possible for Me to grant lenience if I am told about difficult circumstances ahead of time. The first reaction to failure will be an inquiry into whether there is confusion about the rules or instructions and also into whether the servant is actually capable of complying. If needed, additional guidance will be provided. The worst failing is just to forget. Forgetting is a breakdown in the commitment and trust between Master and servant and should be avoided at all costs. When forgetting takes place, discipline must be the result, to again remind the servant, who controls who, and that the Dominant holds love and pride in the servant even through a failing. Completing the punishment should better the servant and help enforce the rules once again. Honesty is paramount in achieving the intended goal of discipline. She must confess when her behavior has been lacking so that I may decide if such violations require her to be disciplined. She will thank Me for whatever decision I make and then accept the consequences. I will always specify why I have decided to discipline her. She must then focus upon how much she regrets not behaving. Bringing Me displeasure is not something I accept, I will make sure the same mistake is not made twice. Conversely, it is only fair that her progression and adherence to the rules is rewarded. Reward can take many shapes or forms and it is possible for Me to ask her to suggest a reward. * Discipline will be tailored to her growth as a servant. * Discipline will always be dealt for each infraction separately. I might leave off disciplining for a while, in order for the servant to think over her mistakes. * When the servant has been notified that she is to be disciplined, she will not touch herself in any way until she has shown that she has repented. I will not allow this rule to be broken. * She will always be naked when being disciplined. * While being disciplined, the servant will count strikes and thank Me for each of them. At the end of her discipline she will sincerely thank Me for My guidance and she will be forgiven her transgression. * If the servant safe words during discipline, the discipline will be interrupted and will be resumed at a later time of her choosing, the discipline will be the same as the original one. The servant is strongly advised to choose an interval large enough so she can endure her correction. * Discipline can be harsh but it is paramount that the servant overcome her mistakes, no forgiveness can be given if the appropriate discipline has not yet been doled out. * Repeated infractions will result in escalating discipline * After discipline I will either reward her for her endurance or leave her by herself for some silent contemplation, depending on the scale of the misbehavior and the impact of the discipline. * Details of all discipline will be kept in the back of her journal. * Intentionally invoking a session of discipline will not yield the wanted result. There are many ways to discipline, I prefer a good spanking Myself but I can just as well make her copy the phone book on a big piece of paper, have her make it into a big paper hat and have her wear it all day. If she wants a certain type of stimulation, she can request it and I may see to her need. That is the best she can hope for success, manipulation will not end well. 7)Positions Appendix * Standing: feet and legs together, hands held behind the back and head bowed down, back and shoulders straightened. * Sitting: sit up straight with legs together and palms down on the top of thighs, head up and eyes down. * Present: kneeling with thighs wide apart, heels together, ass sitting back on heels, back straight, head up, eyes down, hands resting on top of thighs palm-up. (without the command): kneeling or standing with legs together, back straight, head bowed, eyes down, hands behind the back with wrists crossed * Display: kneeling with thighs wide apart, heels together, ass sitting back on heels, back straight, head up, eyes down, hands behind the head with fingers interlaced, elbows out * Inspection: if not already, move into 'present' position then offer: - breasts - by cupping fingers under breasts and pushing them upwards, shoulders back - vagina - by laying on the back, legs apart, knees bent and brought up to the chest, heels resting on the thighs near buttocks, hands grasping the ankles - ass- by facing away from the Master, legs parted wide, ass pushed up, head and shoulder resting on the floor, hands placed forward of the head with wrists crossed - mouth - by resuming the 'present' position with mouth opened wide. * Kneel up: kneeling with thighs wide apart, heels together, ass lifted off the heels, back straight, head up, eyes down, hands behind the back with wrists crossed * Surrender: laying on the front, legs crossed at the ankles, arms above the head and crossed at the wrists, forehead on the floor * Rest position: sitting on the assigned cushion next to the Master's chair, in a comfortable position which allows the Master an unrestricted view * Spank position: laying on the front over the Master's lap, ass pushed up, hands and toes on the floor * Whip position: kneeling with legs a little apart, ass pushed up, head and shoulders on the floor, arms crossed under the breasts * Follow: walking behind and to the left of the Master, 3 paces back * Heel: walking behind and to the left of the Master, 1 pace back * Open: using fingers to pull and hold open a body part specified by the Master, usually pussy or ass * Down: from a kneeling position place hands onto floor a little way in front of knees, thumbs and forefingers forming a triangle shape, leaning forward to place forehead into the triangle, ass pushed up, legs shoulder-width apart * Kneel back: from a kneeling position spread ankles out, lower buttocks to the floor and lean back to laying position with legs bent up to sides, hands palm-down next to calves * Supine: laying on the back, legs together, hands by sides palm-down