hi guys so I wanted to ramble a bit about a concept a subreddit because I
have a lot of different feelings on it and I'm very curious as to what you guys
think and I could have easily written this out as a text post but I feel like
I convey my thoughts better on this kind of topic by using my voice so I want to
give it a shot so bear in mind I'm a little tired today because I was very
productive and got a lot done so I'm kind of beat so my thoughts may not be
the most coherent and I might have to reiterate things I say in a more clear
concise manner so if I repeat things I'm sorry in advance but here goes nothing
so I don't know how many of you are familiar with the subreddit or the
concept of nofap so for those of you that don't know because I'm sure there's
some of you out there who aren't aware of what it is I only became aware of it
like a little while ago so I'm still kind of new to the whole thing myself
nofap the concept it's pretty much what it says on the tin you abstain from
masturbation for however long is kind of up to you but they recommend 30 or 90
days which is a little bit too much I don't think I could do that personally
but uh it's something I want to try and I'll explain in a minute but the thing
about nofap not only do you abstain from masturbation a lot of the people on
there also try to abstain from porn or orgasms so some of them choose to
masturbate but they just don't do it to orgasm they stop they deny themselves or
they look at porn but they don't masturbate or they totally abstain from
anything sexually related which is totally fine too it's their choice but
I'm having very conflicted feelings about the idea of me doing a week of
nofap so I wanted to try to do a week of nofap because I'm a very compulsive
masturbator it is my way of dealing with stress frustration depression you name
it it's my way of dealing with it scared as fuck before doing something really
important I will force a super fast quickie and then it's like I'm on to
take the world if I'm depressed and empty I orgasm just to feel things if
I'm happy I orgasm to celebrate if I'm angry I do it to let off steam you know
masturbation is very important to me but I don't like to believe in the idea of
sex addiction or masturbation addiction but I'm a very compulsive masturbator
and lately it's kind of to the point where time I could be spending with
friends and family has been taken up by me making myself get off over and over
and over again and it can be fun for a while but I've been doing stuff like this
my whole life and understandably and like you know in the puberty years it's
understandable because it's like you know hormones are going crazy all that fun
stuff and hell you know I hear apparently you develop well into your
20s or until you're 21 or something like that can some of you clarify what that
whole deal is because I kind of forgot the fact off the top of my head that I
know the thing so I'm still going through development as I speak which is
pretty spooky well not really spooky but it's like I'm going through puberty
level 2 in a weird way you know so maybe hormones are just still going crazy I
don't know but regardless my compulsive tendency of masturbation it's making me
very upset lately like it it doesn't even feel that fun for me anymore it's
like it's almost like a contest with myself how many times can I come to
night instead of doing it because it genuinely feels good you know it's pretty
frustrating and I thought maybe a week of nofap might be a good idea but you
know yes you know yesterday night I was doing poking around on the nofap subreddit
to kind of get a feel for what to expect from nofap the different terminologies
in the community things like that I was looking into nofap because I was very
curious about it you know it kind of scares me I mean I commend the concept
but the community behind it seems very scary you know masturbation and self
love is a very natural human tendency you know and like anything you can do a
little bit too much of it you know you can eat a little bit too much exercise a
little bit too much you know there's always a too much but of course that too
much will vary widely depending on the individual at the heart of it when you
live in a society which you know American society it's getting better
about being accepting of alternative lifestyles and sexualities and things
like that it still has a long way to go there's still a lot to deal with in the
garbage heap and you know the thought of there being a concept like sex addiction
masturbation addiction you know to make people feel guilt and shame for something
that is totally natural and is part of the human experience for some for most I
shouldn't say some but I know that there's people that don't want sex or
don't desire it and that's totally okay too you know for a lot of humans sex is
very important or not very important but it is a part of their life experience so
you know the thought that there's a community that you know not even a
community but the fact that sex addiction masturbation addiction you know
addiction is a very negative connotation you know and I feel like if you put that
kind of negativity on an activity or a concept that already has kind of a
negative stigma it only serves to worsen that stigma not only that but the
community of no fappers in general seems like a very unhealthy community
regardless of how commendable their concept is you know the fact that when I
read all these different posts from all these no fappers the fact that they feel
such guilt and shame for what they're doing despite it being totally natural
you know I hate to be blunt but that's pretty fucked up at least in my opinion
you know I feel like people shouldn't necessarily feel guilty for their
pleasure might they want to cut back on how much they masturbate or consume porn
sure but a lot of the attitudes the people have in no fap scare me a bit
excuse me for a sec here okay excuse me again but like I was saying the attitude
of no fap is very concerning because if you know the person is to relapse or
whatever of course they understandably get very upset but it's like they show
a level of guilt and shame that it's very uncomfortable to see and even then
when I see the goals of people that are beginning no fap like it's very
concerning to see that they're coming in very much compulsive masturbators very
habitual porn watchers and then next thing you know they want to eradicate it
totally from their lives to where they don't even do it anymore and it's just
like you know if that's the choice they want to make that's okay and I'm not
going to say that it's fucked up if that's what makes them happy but I mean
to eradicate masturbation completely from one's life sounds pretty
unrealistic and quite impossible to me and maybe that's just to me and the
reason I always end my sentences with to me or I feel or I think or whatever is
because I understand that a lot of you are probably gonna think a little
differently but I wanted to share my view on this I want to do a week of no
fap because not because I want to get involved with the community or anything
like that the people in the community scare the fuck out of me I'm gonna be
totally honest the overall overwhelming attitude of sex negativity is very
toxic and unhealthy and it's very hard as somebody who is relatively sex
positive it's a very scary place to be for me you know I'm all about that
positivity ain't nothing wrong with sex and masturbation and all that and you
know I'm still learning my way around things but you know I generally consider
myself very sex positive so being in an environment where it's such a guilty
shamey place about you know you know about the detriments of having too much
sex or masturbating too much I understand what they're trying to
achieve but I can't help but feel like there could be a better way to execute
it you know and of course you know on the subreddit they don't claim that they
believe that porn or masturbation is the devil or anything which is very
comforting that you know to keep in mind but it still doesn't help to swayed me
from feeling positively towards the community itself because even if nofap
itself might not believe that porn or masturbation are bad things the overall
sex negativity within the community is very concerning to me that said I feel
like my compulsive masturbation is also very negative and very not good either
with how often I do it you know these past couple nights I've been very lonely
and instead of like hopping into the team speak to talk to people instead of
going on and talking with close friends in real life instead I've been locked
up in my room masturbating over and over and over compulsively and it's not even
because I want to or it feels good it's just a very natural thing like sometimes
I'm just sitting listening to music and next thing I know my hand is in my pants
it's not a big deal like oh baby I'm gonna masturbate no normally I don't
even think about it it's just kind of happening it's like a reflex you know
it's like a reflex to stress to any negative feeling I'm like masturbating
you know and you know that's it's not it's not the most unhealthy way to cope
I will say that like I'm very proud that I haven't had to like turn to drugs or
anything to cope with my bad feelings it's always been masturbation for me
but the fact that it is so compulsive and so ingrained in me I can't help but
feel a bit of guilt and shame myself you know because it's like I understand
masturbation is totally healthy and natural and all that stuff but like I
can't help but feel guilty and bad because it's like all this time that I
spend orgasming and working myself up into a sweat could be used to call a
friend on the phone to head out for a bit and just kind of get some fresh air
you know but no one said I'm just busy you know fapping my ass off literally
and figuratively but like you know I'm curious what will happen if I decide not
to masturbate for this whole week you know will it be torture will it be good
I don't know and that's why I kind of want to find out I want to try it and
see what happens try to cut back on my compulsive tendency to masturbate but I
don't know what do you guys think about the general concept of nofap what do you
think for those of you that have actually looked around on the subreddit
and the different sites for it and whatnot what what what do you have to
say about the community to you like what what what do you think of it you know
I'm very curious because though I feel all these negative things towards nofap
I still feel like it's a pretty helpful concept for people that might need it
but I can't help but feel like it needs to be executed a bit differently but I'm
not sure you know and you know another question I'll throw out there for you to
answer or not answer this can be rhetorical if you want I don't care you
know if you are not a compulsive masturbator you know feel free to not
answer this but you know try to try to imagine yourself as a compulsive
masturbator if need be if you want to try and answer this one but to other
compulsive masturbators out there because I'm sure it's not just me I'm
sure there's others too let me ask you this how do you deal with all that
excess energy within your system how besides masturbating what are other
things that you do to kind of try to not masturbate as much do you how do you
manage it if it gets to feel like it's too much actually that's not even a
question for compulsive masturbators is it I guess that's a question for
everyone I fucked up I'm sorry no but yeah everybody yeah how do you manage
your masturbation habits and and what what's a good way to kind of lessen the
frequency without going totally dead you know because I don't want to omit
masturbation and porn from my life I can't do that because that's a lot of
like how I'm coming to feel more confident within myself no pun intended
you know you know masturbation and self-love it's a very therapeutic thing
for me it's very important to me but at the same time I don't like doing it as
frequently as I do and I don't know what to do I don't want to stop dead turkey
but you know for me usually one orgasm isn't enough and I find that I just keep
going after one and I don't know it's very frustrating you know I just you
know and I know none of you are like you know none of you are like allowed to
give like medical advice and I'm not asking for medical advice or anything
like that if I were to be looking for that I would be talking to a doctor but
I'm just looking for advice like just practical advice you know so yeah I
don't know I just needed to get this out there because it's it's really tough you
know and I'm kind of tired of feeling alone you know I just I want to reach
out to you guys you know so thank you for listening and I can't wait to see
what you have to say you know I look forward to your responses and you know
let's get a little discussion going I wanna I want to see what can spiral out
from this I'm very curious because this topic is very fascinating to me and
human sexuality is really fascinating to me and it's it's just it's something
that I love to look into so let's chat let's see what happens you know so yeah
thank you for listening and discuss away