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hi guys so I wanted to ramble a bit about a concept a subreddit because I

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have a lot of different feelings on it and I'm very curious as to what you guys

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think and I could have easily written this out as a text post but I feel like

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I convey my thoughts better on this kind of topic by using my voice so I want to

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give it a shot so bear in mind I'm a little tired today because I was very

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productive and got a lot done so I'm kind of beat so my thoughts may not be

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the most coherent and I might have to reiterate things I say in a more clear

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concise manner so if I repeat things I'm sorry in advance but here goes nothing

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so I don't know how many of you are familiar with the subreddit or the

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concept of nofap so for those of you that don't know because I'm sure there's

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some of you out there who aren't aware of what it is I only became aware of it

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like a little while ago so I'm still kind of new to the whole thing myself

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nofap the concept it's pretty much what it says on the tin you abstain from

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masturbation for however long is kind of up to you but they recommend 30 or 90

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days which is a little bit too much I don't think I could do that personally

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but uh it's something I want to try and I'll explain in a minute but the thing

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about nofap not only do you abstain from masturbation a lot of the people on

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there also try to abstain from porn or orgasms so some of them choose to

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masturbate but they just don't do it to orgasm they stop they deny themselves or

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they look at porn but they don't masturbate or they totally abstain from

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anything sexually related which is totally fine too it's their choice but

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I'm having very conflicted feelings about the idea of me doing a week of

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nofap so I wanted to try to do a week of nofap because I'm a very compulsive

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masturbator it is my way of dealing with stress frustration depression you name

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it it's my way of dealing with it scared as fuck before doing something really

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important I will force a super fast quickie and then it's like I'm on to

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take the world if I'm depressed and empty I orgasm just to feel things if

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I'm happy I orgasm to celebrate if I'm angry I do it to let off steam you know

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masturbation is very important to me but I don't like to believe in the idea of

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sex addiction or masturbation addiction but I'm a very compulsive masturbator

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and lately it's kind of to the point where time I could be spending with

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friends and family has been taken up by me making myself get off over and over

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and over again and it can be fun for a while but I've been doing stuff like this

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my whole life and understandably and like you know in the puberty years it's

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understandable because it's like you know hormones are going crazy all that fun

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stuff and hell you know I hear apparently you develop well into your

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20s or until you're 21 or something like that can some of you clarify what that

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whole deal is because I kind of forgot the fact off the top of my head that I

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know the thing so I'm still going through development as I speak which is

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pretty spooky well not really spooky but it's like I'm going through puberty

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level 2 in a weird way you know so maybe hormones are just still going crazy I

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don't know but regardless my compulsive tendency of masturbation it's making me

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very upset lately like it it doesn't even feel that fun for me anymore it's

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like it's almost like a contest with myself how many times can I come to

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night instead of doing it because it genuinely feels good you know it's pretty

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frustrating and I thought maybe a week of nofap might be a good idea but you

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know yes you know yesterday night I was doing poking around on the nofap subreddit

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to kind of get a feel for what to expect from nofap the different terminologies

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in the community things like that I was looking into nofap because I was very

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curious about it you know it kind of scares me I mean I commend the concept

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but the community behind it seems very scary you know masturbation and self

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love is a very natural human tendency you know and like anything you can do a

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little bit too much of it you know you can eat a little bit too much exercise a

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little bit too much you know there's always a too much but of course that too

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much will vary widely depending on the individual at the heart of it when you

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live in a society which you know American society it's getting better

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about being accepting of alternative lifestyles and sexualities and things

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like that it still has a long way to go there's still a lot to deal with in the

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garbage heap and you know the thought of there being a concept like sex addiction

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masturbation addiction you know to make people feel guilt and shame for something

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that is totally natural and is part of the human experience for some for most I

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shouldn't say some but I know that there's people that don't want sex or

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don't desire it and that's totally okay too you know for a lot of humans sex is

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very important or not very important but it is a part of their life experience so

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you know the thought that there's a community that you know not even a

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community but the fact that sex addiction masturbation addiction you know

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addiction is a very negative connotation you know and I feel like if you put that

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kind of negativity on an activity or a concept that already has kind of a

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negative stigma it only serves to worsen that stigma not only that but the

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community of no fappers in general seems like a very unhealthy community

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regardless of how commendable their concept is you know the fact that when I

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read all these different posts from all these no fappers the fact that they feel

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such guilt and shame for what they're doing despite it being totally natural

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you know I hate to be blunt but that's pretty fucked up at least in my opinion

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you know I feel like people shouldn't necessarily feel guilty for their

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pleasure might they want to cut back on how much they masturbate or consume porn

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sure but a lot of the attitudes the people have in no fap scare me a bit

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excuse me for a sec here okay excuse me again but like I was saying the attitude

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of no fap is very concerning because if you know the person is to relapse or

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whatever of course they understandably get very upset but it's like they show

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a level of guilt and shame that it's very uncomfortable to see and even then

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when I see the goals of people that are beginning no fap like it's very

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concerning to see that they're coming in very much compulsive masturbators very

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habitual porn watchers and then next thing you know they want to eradicate it

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totally from their lives to where they don't even do it anymore and it's just

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like you know if that's the choice they want to make that's okay and I'm not

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going to say that it's fucked up if that's what makes them happy but I mean

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to eradicate masturbation completely from one's life sounds pretty

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unrealistic and quite impossible to me and maybe that's just to me and the

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reason I always end my sentences with to me or I feel or I think or whatever is

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because I understand that a lot of you are probably gonna think a little

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differently but I wanted to share my view on this I want to do a week of no

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fap because not because I want to get involved with the community or anything

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like that the people in the community scare the fuck out of me I'm gonna be

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totally honest the overall overwhelming attitude of sex negativity is very

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toxic and unhealthy and it's very hard as somebody who is relatively sex

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positive it's a very scary place to be for me you know I'm all about that

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positivity ain't nothing wrong with sex and masturbation and all that and you

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know I'm still learning my way around things but you know I generally consider

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myself very sex positive so being in an environment where it's such a guilty

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shamey place about you know you know about the detriments of having too much

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sex or masturbating too much I understand what they're trying to

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achieve but I can't help but feel like there could be a better way to execute

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it you know and of course you know on the subreddit they don't claim that they

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believe that porn or masturbation is the devil or anything which is very

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comforting that you know to keep in mind but it still doesn't help to swayed me

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from feeling positively towards the community itself because even if nofap

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itself might not believe that porn or masturbation are bad things the overall

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sex negativity within the community is very concerning to me that said I feel

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like my compulsive masturbation is also very negative and very not good either

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with how often I do it you know these past couple nights I've been very lonely

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and instead of like hopping into the team speak to talk to people instead of

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going on and talking with close friends in real life instead I've been locked

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up in my room masturbating over and over and over compulsively and it's not even

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because I want to or it feels good it's just a very natural thing like sometimes

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I'm just sitting listening to music and next thing I know my hand is in my pants

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it's not a big deal like oh baby I'm gonna masturbate no normally I don't

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even think about it it's just kind of happening it's like a reflex you know

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it's like a reflex to stress to any negative feeling I'm like masturbating

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you know and you know that's it's not it's not the most unhealthy way to cope

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I will say that like I'm very proud that I haven't had to like turn to drugs or

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anything to cope with my bad feelings it's always been masturbation for me

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but the fact that it is so compulsive and so ingrained in me I can't help but

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feel a bit of guilt and shame myself you know because it's like I understand

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masturbation is totally healthy and natural and all that stuff but like I

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can't help but feel guilty and bad because it's like all this time that I

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spend orgasming and working myself up into a sweat could be used to call a

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friend on the phone to head out for a bit and just kind of get some fresh air

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you know but no one said I'm just busy you know fapping my ass off literally

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and figuratively but like you know I'm curious what will happen if I decide not

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to masturbate for this whole week you know will it be torture will it be good

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I don't know and that's why I kind of want to find out I want to try it and

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see what happens try to cut back on my compulsive tendency to masturbate but I

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don't know what do you guys think about the general concept of nofap what do you

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think for those of you that have actually looked around on the subreddit

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and the different sites for it and whatnot what what what do you have to

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say about the community to you like what what what do you think of it you know

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I'm very curious because though I feel all these negative things towards nofap

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I still feel like it's a pretty helpful concept for people that might need it

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but I can't help but feel like it needs to be executed a bit differently but I'm

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not sure you know and you know another question I'll throw out there for you to

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answer or not answer this can be rhetorical if you want I don't care you

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know if you are not a compulsive masturbator you know feel free to not

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answer this but you know try to try to imagine yourself as a compulsive

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masturbator if need be if you want to try and answer this one but to other

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compulsive masturbators out there because I'm sure it's not just me I'm

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sure there's others too let me ask you this how do you deal with all that

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excess energy within your system how besides masturbating what are other

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things that you do to kind of try to not masturbate as much do you how do you

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manage it if it gets to feel like it's too much actually that's not even a

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question for compulsive masturbators is it I guess that's a question for

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everyone I fucked up I'm sorry no but yeah everybody yeah how do you manage

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your masturbation habits and and what what's a good way to kind of lessen the

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frequency without going totally dead you know because I don't want to omit

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masturbation and porn from my life I can't do that because that's a lot of

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like how I'm coming to feel more confident within myself no pun intended

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you know you know masturbation and self-love it's a very therapeutic thing

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for me it's very important to me but at the same time I don't like doing it as

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frequently as I do and I don't know what to do I don't want to stop dead turkey

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but you know for me usually one orgasm isn't enough and I find that I just keep

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going after one and I don't know it's very frustrating you know I just you

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know and I know none of you are like you know none of you are like allowed to

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give like medical advice and I'm not asking for medical advice or anything

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like that if I were to be looking for that I would be talking to a doctor but

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I'm just looking for advice like just practical advice you know so yeah I

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don't know I just needed to get this out there because it's it's really tough you

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know and I'm kind of tired of feeling alone you know I just I want to reach

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out to you guys you know so thank you for listening and I can't wait to see

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what you have to say you know I look forward to your responses and you know

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let's get a little discussion going I wanna I want to see what can spiral out

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from this I'm very curious because this topic is very fascinating to me and

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human sexuality is really fascinating to me and it's it's just it's something

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that I love to look into so let's chat let's see what happens you know so yeah

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thank you for listening and discuss away