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Hello everybody. Welcome to Getting Ready with Gatsby. So don't mind me as I'm getting

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dressed. I have to go for a hair appointment today. So normally Saturdays I do like a whole

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lot of nothing really. So yeah, I'm kind of excited. I'm thinking about changing the color

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completely. Not that you guys care at all. Currently blonde, thinking of moving more

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towards like coppers and reds. Realistically those are the two colors that I go back and

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forth between all the time. Okay, so regardless, that's not what I wanted to talk about. That

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just explains why there's weird noises, why my voice might go in and out. Apologies in

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advance. So what I really wanted to talk about is just my little bit of life advice, I guess.

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Not that I'm an expert at it. I definitely have screwed up my life in ways. So whatever.

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But I just want to take the time to say that if you are currently miserable and unhappy,

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if you just keep every time you go to work, you think this might be the day that I quit,

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that I just walk out. You should really do it. You should find somewhere else because

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somewhere someone's going to appreciate you for what you do. I had been working at a place

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for about four years and they really heavily relied on me.

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They knew it. They openly talked about it. They knew I was their go-to person. I always stayed

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late. It got to a point where I was staying about minimum 10 extra hours a week. But on several

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paychecks it was definitely closer to 15. I didn't even realize I was staying that much.

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It was like I had one paycheck where I didn't have a bunch of overtime on it.

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And I looked and I was like, why is my paycheck so small? What the hell did they do? And then I was

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like, oh, it's just because all of my other paychecks, I've had insane amounts of overtime

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and didn't even realize it. And I knew I was unhappy there. And what they were doing and

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everything. I wasn't okay with a lot of their business practices, but it was a job and I was

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comfortable. And I knew what I was doing. And I have a hang up where I really like being needed.

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Um, there's something about people being like, oh yeah, you can go, you can go to her and she'll

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fix it no matter what it is. That just, I enjoy and I really wish I didn't because my life would

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be a lot easier if I didn't have that insane need. But I do have that insane need. Um, yeah, so

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even though I hated it, and things were ridiculous, I wasn't very actively looking for a new job.

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I think when I realized that I was working 15 hours extra a week, is when I started to look.

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And I didn't look very intensely. I think I applied to like two places. And I know that's not the case

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for everybody that this works out. And I had applied to other places in the past and things

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hadn't gone anywhere there. Um, but I was hired at a new place. And one of the things that had

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bothered me for a long time is that they were underpaying me. And I understand people who've

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been in pharmacy, because that's, um, I'm a technician. People who've been in that job for

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years and years, um, can make a substantial amount of money because they have a lot of experience,

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you know, and I just don't have that experience. So it doesn't matter that I'm very good at my job.

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Whereas they just have experience and aren't necessarily great at it.

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So I've always understood that. But at the same time, new people were coming in

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making much more than I was making. Um, when I started there, I was making $11 an hour.

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And when I left, after getting a promotion and working there for four years, I was up to, uh,

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what was it, like 1436, I think. And again, like I realize, that's a lot of pay increases to get in

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a short amount of time, whatever. But I don't know, does it ever bother you guys when stuff like that

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happens? Like, I don't know, because they relied on me so much and they openly admitted it, it was

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like a real slap in the face that they didn't care. And I didn't ever try to make what I was making

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match what other people were making. Um, the other people, they were making about $16 an hour,

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$20 an hour, but not doing nearly as much work as me. So that's where my whole hang up really came

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from. Um, so anyways, I went to this new place, they are paying me above what I asked for. Um,

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like, I'm not good at negotiating, not good at being like, I have good skills, and you're going

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to pay me $20 an hour and then negotiating down or whatever to compromise. No, I start low.

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I'm like, yeah, 50 cents more an hour than what I'm currently making, I'll take it. Um, so I didn't

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ask for a lot when I applied there. I asked for like 1550, I think. And they offered me

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1850. Um, and I had to reread the offer several times, and was ecstatic about the whole thing.

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Um, and then they finally realized that they didn't want to lose me at my old job and offered me

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the, um, the $16 that they had refused to give me up until that point. So that was

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not hard to turn down. And I'm thankful for that. Because as soon as I left there and I started this

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new job, my world changed. Um, not my world, me. I hadn't realized how negatively that place had

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affected me. Um, it was bad. Um, I was always in a bad mood there. And like, I knew that I was being

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that I was being a real grouch and that things were not great. But um, I didn't realize that it just

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had impacted my soul so much, I guess. That sounds dramatic. That sounds very dramatic.

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But I don't know how else to phrase it. Because when I didn't have to go back to that job,

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it was like this huge weight had been lifted. Um, and that sounds so cliche. And I wish that

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there was a way of like, expressing it without using a bunch of cliches. But really, it was.

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And I didn't know how bad I had felt until I didn't feel bad anymore. And

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so that's really my point. And I'm sorry it was long winded and that I'm moving around and all

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that crap. Um, but my point is, if you think you feel shitty where you are now, and you're not

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appreciated, find someone who does. I guarantee they're out there. I have the same feelings about

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relationships, but that's neither here nor there. And I'm not going to be able to do that. I'm

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saying feelings about relationships, but that's neither here nor there. If you are not being

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valued, find someone who will. Life is too short to feel like that all the time. Especially when

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you don't even realize that what you're feeling is so negative. You deserve better. And that's

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just my little... I don't know. I just want you guys to realize that you're better than having

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to put up with that. All right. I hope you have a good weekend. Thank you for putting up with my

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ridiculous ramble. Um, hopefully I will talk to you guys later. Bye.