1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:28,000 Hey, hey, what are you doing away from me? 2 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:33,000 What are you doing awake? 3 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:41,000 Well, what time is it? 4 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:46,000 Okay, what's wrong? 5 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:52,000 It's the middle of the night. You're awake and you usually sleep like the dead. 6 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:58,000 Don't tell me nothing's wrong. 7 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:01,000 Hey, hey, sweetheart. 8 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:09,000 You're covered in sweat and, my god, honey, you're breathing like you just ran a race. 9 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:13,000 What? What's going on? 10 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,000 No, stop. 11 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,000 You're not okay. 12 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:19,000 You're not okay. 13 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:27,000 What's wrong? 14 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:34,000 Did you have a bad dream or you're just not feeling right? 15 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:40,000 Okay, define that right. 16 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:45,000 What is it? 17 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:52,000 Oh, honey, it sounds like you're anxiety again. 18 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:57,000 What's bothering you? What's on your mind? 19 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:00,000 Okay, okay, all right, hold on. 20 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:14,000 Okay, first of all, come here. Come closer to me. 21 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:18,000 Hey, look at me. 22 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:21,000 I know, I know you can barely see me. 23 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:24,000 We're gonna get through this, okay? 24 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:27,000 Just like we did the last time and the time before that. 25 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:30,000 It's gonna be fine, right? 26 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:35,000 Right? 27 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,000 Okay, all right. 28 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:45,000 Why don't you take some deep breaths with me, okay? 29 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:51,000 You'll breathe in at one, hold for four, and breathe out at five. 30 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:55,000 Ready? 31 00:02:55,000 --> 00:03:12,000 One, two, three, four, five, four, three, two. 32 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:19,000 I know I didn't do it with you, but I'm gonna do it with you now, okay? 33 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:21,000 Ready? 34 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:26,000 One more time. 35 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:38,000 In. 36 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:45,000 In. 37 00:03:45,000 --> 00:03:51,000 Out. 38 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,000 Again. 39 00:03:54,000 --> 00:04:01,000 In. 40 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:10,000 Out. 41 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:15,000 Good, come on, keep breathing slowly, sweetheart. 42 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:19,000 It's okay, I know, I know. 43 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:23,000 I get scared when I have anxiety attacks, too. 44 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:28,000 Panic attacks, it doesn't matter what our logical brain knows. 45 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:36,000 All you can do is react to how you feel, and it's just your body overreacting, right? 46 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:39,000 Everything is okay. 47 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:41,000 Breathe. 48 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:47,000 Yeah, I know, I know it's hard, honey. 49 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:52,000 I wish I could take it away. 50 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:59,000 That's it, slow your breathing down again. 51 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:07,000 Do you remember when we started spending nights with each other, and I had panic attacks with you for the first time? 52 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:11,000 You told me that all those things that were happening to me weren't that scary. 53 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:20,000 You used to tell me exactly what they were, and why they were happening, and what was causing them. 54 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:24,000 I can do the same thing for you, you know? 55 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:30,000 I know your mind is racing, and it makes you feel confused. 56 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:36,000 It's a little bit hard to land on something, hard to focus. 57 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:40,000 Your heart's probably still pounding. 58 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:43,000 Yeah, I can feel it. 59 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:46,000 It's just the adrenaline, baby. 60 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:48,000 That's all it is. 61 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:52,000 It's just a chemical reaction. 62 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:56,000 Your body thinks it needs to run, but you don't. 63 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:59,000 You don't need to run. 64 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:02,000 You're safe. 65 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:07,000 I know, I know it makes it hard, just slow your breathing down. 66 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:30,000 Just keep trying. 67 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:37,000 Did you think of something that set you off, or was it something you just woke up with? 68 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:46,000 Oh, honey, you've been really stressed lately, and I'm not happy it's happening, but I'm not surprised it's happening. 69 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:55,000 You work so many late nights, and we really haven't been eating the best, and our weekends have been so busy. 70 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:59,000 We really haven't had any downtime. 71 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:06,000 I know, I know. 72 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:09,000 No, oh God, no. 73 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,000 No, stop. 74 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:15,000 Hey, this is not silly. 75 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:20,000 You are not silly. 76 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:22,000 This isn't something I put up with. 77 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:27,000 It's something I'm here to help you with, something you're going through. 78 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:32,000 It's something I want to help you deal with, just like you helped me. 79 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:35,000 It's okay, it's okay. 80 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:38,000 Of course I don't mind. 81 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:42,000 Oh my goodness, of course not. 82 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:43,000 No. 83 00:07:43,000 --> 00:07:45,000 Okay, stop. 84 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:47,000 Listen to me, okay? 85 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:51,000 This does not make you any kind of burden. 86 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:53,000 I'm not angry with you. 87 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:56,000 I'm not upset with you. 88 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:59,000 None of those things. 89 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:02,000 None of those things. 90 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:11,000 All I want is to help you feel better. 91 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:15,000 And if it means that I need to be up the entire night with you, 92 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:21,000 talking to you, listening to you, letting you vent, just letting your breathing with you, 93 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:27,000 then that's what I'll do. 94 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:31,000 You're important to me. 95 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:38,000 It's important that, you know, just come, come here. 96 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:48,000 Put your back to my chest. 97 00:08:48,000 --> 00:09:01,000 Okay, I'm just gonna run my fingers up and down your arm. 98 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:06,000 Just focus on how that feels. 99 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:12,000 Focus on my words. 100 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:26,000 Feel my chest rise and fall against your back as I breathe deep and slow. 101 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:38,000 Everything is gonna be okay. 102 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:48,000 All those thoughts, everything you're worried about, everything that's scaring you, 103 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:54,000 I know it all, it all seems so much bigger, so much scarier at night. 104 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:56,000 It doesn't feel like there are solutions. 105 00:09:56,000 --> 00:10:02,000 It feels like those things are just so big, but they're not. 106 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:05,000 We can get through this together. 107 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:10,000 Right now, the racing thoughts, your heartbeat, your breath, 108 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:13,000 we're gonna take care of those things right now. 109 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:20,000 Everything else, everything else can wait until tomorrow, 110 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:37,000 when the sun is up and everything feels right-sized again, right? 111 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:41,000 Are you feeling a little better? 112 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:45,000 Yeah, it feels like your heart rate has slowed down a bit. 113 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,000 It's okay, honey, it's okay. 114 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:52,000 Shh, it's gonna be fine. 115 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:55,000 Everything will be fine. 116 00:10:55,000 --> 00:11:00,000 I'm here, and you're safe. 117 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:05,000 Come here. 118 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:12,000 Yeah, you don't have to thank me, sweetheart. 119 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:15,000 It's part of taking care of you. 120 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:18,000 We're here for each other, right? 121 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:23,000 Yeah, you're feeling a little sleepy. 122 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:27,000 Good, just close your eyes. 123 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:30,000 I'm not going anywhere. 124 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:37,000 I won't fall asleep again until you're asleep, until I know that you're okay. 125 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:39,000 What? 126 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:43,000 If it happens again, then we'll do this again, 127 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:49,000 tonight or tomorrow night or every night from here on out. 128 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:54,000 I'll always do that for you. 129 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:59,000 But don't worry about that now. 130 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:02,000 Shh, it's okay. 131 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:12,000 I just want you to relax, fall back to sleep. 132 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:20,000 Relax your neck, all of those muscles right here. 133 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:22,000 They're so tight. 134 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:27,000 Relax, relax. 135 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:32,000 Relax your shoulders, good. 136 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:40,000 Your arms, your back. 137 00:12:40,000 --> 00:12:46,000 Take a deep breath, deep breath, good. 138 00:12:46,000 --> 00:13:01,000 Relax your hips, your thighs, your calves, your feet, and your toes. 139 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:06,000 And now, here, your hands. 140 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:08,000 Unclench your hands, baby. 141 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:12,000 Good, good. 142 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:14,000 You're safe. 143 00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:17,000 You're safe with me. 144 00:13:17,000 --> 00:13:20,000 I'm here for you. 145 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:34,000 It's okay to slip off to sleep. 146 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:50,000 Good night, sweetheart.