1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:10,940 So take a deep breath and look over here.. 2 00:00:10,940 --> 00:00:29,940 Hey, hey, what are you doing awake? 3 00:00:29,940 --> 00:00:38,940 What time is it? 4 00:00:38,940 --> 00:00:43,940 Okay, what's wrong? 5 00:00:43,940 --> 00:00:50,940 Is the middle of the night you're awake and usually sleep like the dead? 6 00:00:50,940 --> 00:00:53,940 Don't tell me nothing's wrong. 7 00:00:53,940 --> 00:00:58,940 Hey, hey, sweetheart. 8 00:00:58,940 --> 00:01:06,940 You're covered in sweat, and my god, honey, you're breathing like you just ran a race. 9 00:01:06,940 --> 00:01:11,940 What, what's going on? 10 00:01:11,940 --> 00:01:14,940 No, stop. 11 00:01:14,940 --> 00:01:16,940 You're not okay. 12 00:01:16,940 --> 00:01:18,940 You're not okay. 13 00:01:18,940 --> 00:01:26,940 What's wrong? 14 00:01:26,940 --> 00:01:30,940 Did you have a bad dream or... 15 00:01:30,940 --> 00:01:33,940 You're just not feeling right? 16 00:01:33,940 --> 00:01:39,940 Okay, define that right. 17 00:01:39,940 --> 00:01:44,940 What is it? 18 00:01:44,940 --> 00:01:51,940 Oh, honey, it sounds like your anxiety again. 19 00:01:51,940 --> 00:01:56,940 What's bothering you? What's on your mind? 20 00:01:56,940 --> 00:01:59,940 Okay, okay, alright, hold on. 21 00:01:59,940 --> 00:02:05,940 Okay, first of all, come here. 22 00:02:05,940 --> 00:02:12,940 Come closer to me. 23 00:02:12,940 --> 00:02:17,940 Hey, hey, look at me. 24 00:02:17,940 --> 00:02:20,940 I know, I know you can barely see me. 25 00:02:20,940 --> 00:02:23,940 We're gonna get through this, okay? 26 00:02:23,940 --> 00:02:26,940 Just like we did the last time and the time before that. 27 00:02:26,940 --> 00:02:29,940 It's gonna be fine, right? 28 00:02:29,940 --> 00:02:34,940 Right? 29 00:02:34,940 --> 00:02:37,940 Okay, alright. 30 00:02:37,940 --> 00:02:44,940 Why don't you take some deep breaths with me, okay? 31 00:02:44,940 --> 00:02:50,940 You'll breathe in at one, hold for four, and breathe out at five. 32 00:02:50,940 --> 00:02:54,940 Ready? 33 00:02:54,940 --> 00:03:11,940 One, two, three, four, five, four, three, two. 34 00:03:11,940 --> 00:03:15,940 I know I didn't do it with you. 35 00:03:15,940 --> 00:03:18,940 But I'm gonna do it with you now, okay? 36 00:03:18,940 --> 00:03:20,940 Ready? 37 00:03:20,940 --> 00:03:25,940 One more time. 38 00:03:25,940 --> 00:03:37,940 In. 39 00:03:37,940 --> 00:03:44,940 In. 40 00:03:44,940 --> 00:03:50,940 Out. 41 00:03:50,940 --> 00:03:53,940 Again. 42 00:03:53,940 --> 00:04:00,940 In. 43 00:04:00,940 --> 00:04:08,940 Out. 44 00:04:08,940 --> 00:04:10,940 Good. 45 00:04:10,940 --> 00:04:14,940 Come on, keep breathing slowly, sweetheart. 46 00:04:14,940 --> 00:04:18,940 It's okay, I know, I know. 47 00:04:18,940 --> 00:04:22,940 I get scared when I have anxiety attacks, too. 48 00:04:22,940 --> 00:04:27,940 Panic attacks, it doesn't matter what our logical brain knows. 49 00:04:27,940 --> 00:04:35,940 All you can do is react to how you feel and it's just your body overreacting, right? 50 00:04:35,940 --> 00:04:38,940 Everything is okay. 51 00:04:38,940 --> 00:04:41,940 Yeah, I know. 52 00:04:41,940 --> 00:04:45,940 I know it's hard, honey. 53 00:04:45,940 --> 00:04:50,940 I wish I could take it away. 54 00:04:50,940 --> 00:04:51,940 That's it. 55 00:04:51,940 --> 00:04:57,940 Slow your breathing down again. 56 00:04:57,940 --> 00:05:05,940 Do you remember when we started spending nights with each other and I had panic attacks with you for the first time? 57 00:05:05,940 --> 00:05:10,940 You used to remind me that all those things that were happening to me weren't that scary. 58 00:05:10,940 --> 00:05:19,940 You used to tell me exactly what they were and why they were happening and what was causing them. 59 00:05:19,940 --> 00:05:23,940 I can do the same thing for you, you know? 60 00:05:23,940 --> 00:05:28,940 I know your mind is racing and it makes you feel confused. 61 00:05:28,940 --> 00:05:34,940 It's a little bit hard to land on something, hard to focus. 62 00:05:34,940 --> 00:05:38,940 And your heart's probably still pounding. 63 00:05:38,940 --> 00:05:41,940 Yeah, I can feel it. 64 00:05:41,940 --> 00:05:44,940 It's just the adrenaline, baby. 65 00:05:44,940 --> 00:05:46,940 That's all it is. 66 00:05:46,940 --> 00:05:50,940 It's just a chemical reaction. 67 00:05:50,940 --> 00:05:54,940 Your body thinks it needs to run, but you don't. 68 00:05:54,940 --> 00:05:57,940 You don't need to run. 69 00:05:57,940 --> 00:06:00,940 You're safe. 70 00:06:00,940 --> 00:06:06,940 I know. I know it makes it hard to slow your breathing down. 71 00:06:06,940 --> 00:06:10,940 Just keep trying. 72 00:06:10,940 --> 00:06:35,940 Did you think of something that set you off or was it something you just woke up with? 73 00:06:35,940 --> 00:06:45,940 Oh honey, you've been really stressed lately and I'm not happy it's happening, but I'm not surprised it's happening. 74 00:06:45,940 --> 00:06:53,940 You work so many late nights and we really haven't been eating the best and our weekends have been so busy. 75 00:06:53,940 --> 00:06:57,940 We really haven't had any downtime. 76 00:06:57,940 --> 00:07:05,940 I know. I know. 77 00:07:05,940 --> 00:07:08,940 No. Oh God, no. 78 00:07:08,940 --> 00:07:10,940 No, stop. 79 00:07:10,940 --> 00:07:14,940 Hey, this is not silly. 80 00:07:14,940 --> 00:07:19,940 You are not silly. 81 00:07:19,940 --> 00:07:21,940 This isn't something I put up with. 82 00:07:21,940 --> 00:07:24,940 It's something I'm here to help you with. 83 00:07:24,940 --> 00:07:26,940 Something you're going through. 84 00:07:26,940 --> 00:07:29,940 It's something I want to help you deal with. 85 00:07:29,940 --> 00:07:31,940 Just like you helped me. 86 00:07:31,940 --> 00:07:34,940 It's okay. It's okay. 87 00:07:34,940 --> 00:07:37,940 Of course I don't mind. 88 00:07:37,940 --> 00:07:41,940 Oh my goodness, of course not. 89 00:07:41,940 --> 00:07:42,940 No. 90 00:07:42,940 --> 00:07:44,940 Okay, stop. 91 00:07:44,940 --> 00:07:46,940 Listen to me, okay? 92 00:07:46,940 --> 00:07:50,940 This does not make you any kind of burden. 93 00:07:50,940 --> 00:07:52,940 I'm not angry with you. 94 00:07:52,940 --> 00:07:55,940 I'm not upset with you. 95 00:07:55,940 --> 00:07:58,940 None of those things. 96 00:07:58,940 --> 00:08:01,940 None of those things. 97 00:08:01,940 --> 00:08:10,940 All I want is to help you feel better. 98 00:08:10,940 --> 00:08:14,940 And if it means that I need to be up the entire night with you, 99 00:08:14,940 --> 00:08:20,940 talking to you, listening to you, letting you vent, just letting your breathing with you, 100 00:08:20,940 --> 00:08:26,940 then that's what I'll do. 101 00:08:26,940 --> 00:08:30,940 You're important to me. 102 00:08:30,940 --> 00:08:37,940 It's important that, you know, just come here. 103 00:08:37,940 --> 00:08:47,940 Put your back to my chest. 104 00:08:47,940 --> 00:09:00,940 Okay, I'm just gonna run my fingers up and down your arm. 105 00:09:00,940 --> 00:09:05,940 Just focus on how that feels. 106 00:09:05,940 --> 00:09:11,940 Focus on my words. 107 00:09:11,940 --> 00:09:25,940 Feel my chest rise and fall against your back as I breathe deep and slow. 108 00:09:25,940 --> 00:09:37,940 Everything is gonna be okay. 109 00:09:37,940 --> 00:09:47,940 All those thoughts, everything you're worried about, everything that's scaring you, 110 00:09:47,940 --> 00:09:53,940 I know it all, it all seems so much bigger, so much scarier at night. 111 00:09:53,940 --> 00:09:55,940 It doesn't feel like there are solutions. 112 00:09:55,940 --> 00:10:01,940 It feels like those things are just so big, but they're not. 113 00:10:01,940 --> 00:10:04,940 We can get through this together. 114 00:10:04,940 --> 00:10:09,940 Right now, the racing thoughts, your heartbeat, your breath, 115 00:10:09,940 --> 00:10:12,940 we're gonna take care of those things right now. 116 00:10:12,940 --> 00:10:19,940 Everything else, everything else can wait until tomorrow, 117 00:10:19,940 --> 00:10:36,940 when the sun is up and everything feels right-sized again, right? 118 00:10:36,940 --> 00:10:40,940 Are you feeling a little better? 119 00:10:40,940 --> 00:10:44,940 Yeah, it feels like your heart rate has slowed down a bit. 120 00:10:44,940 --> 00:10:47,940 It's okay, honey, it's okay. 121 00:10:47,940 --> 00:10:51,940 Shh, it's gonna be fine. 122 00:10:51,940 --> 00:10:54,940 Everything will be fine. 123 00:10:54,940 --> 00:10:59,940 I'm here, and you're safe. 124 00:10:59,940 --> 00:11:04,940 Come here. 125 00:11:04,940 --> 00:11:11,940 Yeah, you don't have to thank me, sweetheart. 126 00:11:11,940 --> 00:11:14,940 It's part of taking care of you. 127 00:11:14,940 --> 00:11:17,940 We're here for each other, right? 128 00:11:17,940 --> 00:11:22,940 Yeah, you're feeling a little sleepy. 129 00:11:22,940 --> 00:11:26,940 Good, just close your eyes. 130 00:11:26,940 --> 00:11:29,940 I'm not going anywhere. 131 00:11:29,940 --> 00:11:36,940 I won't fall asleep again until you're asleep, until I know that you're okay. 132 00:11:36,940 --> 00:11:38,940 What? 133 00:11:38,940 --> 00:11:42,940 If it happens again, then we'll do this again. 134 00:11:42,940 --> 00:11:48,940 Just tonight or tomorrow night or every night from here on out, 135 00:11:48,940 --> 00:11:53,940 I'll always do that for you. 136 00:11:53,940 --> 00:11:58,940 But don't worry about that now. 137 00:11:58,940 --> 00:12:01,940 Shh, it's okay. 138 00:12:01,940 --> 00:12:04,940 I just want you to relax. 139 00:12:04,940 --> 00:12:11,940 Fall back to sleep. 140 00:12:11,940 --> 00:12:15,940 Relax your neck. 141 00:12:15,940 --> 00:12:19,940 All of those muscles right here. 142 00:12:19,940 --> 00:12:21,940 They're so tight. 143 00:12:21,940 --> 00:12:26,940 Relax, relax. 144 00:12:26,940 --> 00:12:29,940 Relax your shoulders. 145 00:12:29,940 --> 00:12:31,940 Good. 146 00:12:31,940 --> 00:12:34,940 Your arms. 147 00:12:34,940 --> 00:12:39,940 Your back. 148 00:12:39,940 --> 00:12:41,940 Take a deep breath. 149 00:12:41,940 --> 00:12:43,940 Deep breath. 150 00:12:43,940 --> 00:12:45,940 Good. 151 00:12:45,940 --> 00:12:48,940 Relax your hips. 152 00:12:48,940 --> 00:12:51,940 Your thighs. 153 00:12:51,940 --> 00:12:55,940 Your calves. 154 00:12:55,940 --> 00:12:57,940 Your feet. 155 00:12:57,940 --> 00:13:00,940 And your toes. 156 00:13:00,940 --> 00:13:05,940 And now, hear your hands. 157 00:13:05,940 --> 00:13:07,940 Unclench your hands, baby. 158 00:13:07,940 --> 00:13:11,940 Good, good. 159 00:13:11,940 --> 00:13:13,940 You're safe. 160 00:13:13,940 --> 00:13:16,940 You're safe with me. 161 00:13:16,940 --> 00:13:19,940 I'm here for you. 162 00:13:19,940 --> 00:13:33,940 It's okay to slip off to sleep. 163 00:13:33,940 --> 00:13:48,940 Good night, sweetheart.