your a sick fuck

Added Sunday, July 27, 1997

I got this e-mail on August 3, 1997:

Subject: your a sick fuck

how can you possibly interact with animals? you have to be a really sick
person to do that.did you have a really bad experience with people or
something? do you really get off on animals,and if so what are your
favorites?and tell me why.i really cant understand this and want to know.do
you fuck dead animals and if so ,are they better than live ones?

My response follows:


Hi [snip],

ROTFL! Good thing I have a healthy sense of humor and a calm disposition. :)

>how can you possibly interact with animals?

I can interact with them in the same ways as I would with human beings, and they are free to return the affection as they see fit.

>you have to be a really sick person to do that.

Well, the DSM-IV lists zoophilia as a "miscellaneous paraphilia," so medically it is technically considered an "illness." However, in the miscellaneous category, there is no treatment listed, and most psychiatrists agree that as long as neither partner is hurt, and both partners are free to act as they see fit, and as long as the human partner is comfortable with his feelings toward animals, then no harm is being done from a psychiatrict viewpoint, and no treatment is necessary. To quote the Wiccan Rede, "an it harm none, do as thou wilt."

>did you have a really bad experience with people or something?

No, I've never had an experience with humans at all, but if I had, I would probably still be attracted to animals. It is a common misconception that people who are intimate with animals do so because they either cannot get a human partner, or have been betrayed by a human partner and resort to an animal, which cannot tattle on them. While many people are betrayed by humans, by means of head games, lies, or outright criminal or violent behavior, a person will not likely become an "animal lover" unless he or she were oriented in that direction from the start. We are generally born zoo, not made, in the same way that people who are gay tend to be born that way. Having a bad experience doesn't often make you change your orientation: the experience would probably have to be life-shattering.

>do you really get off on animals,and if so what are your favorites?and tell me why.

Yes, I really am sexually attracted to animals, and I really am sexually intimate with them, if and when the opportunity arises. My favorites are dogs and horses, of either gender. I also am strongly attracted to wolves, deer, and dolphins, but I do not expect I will ever be intimate with any in the near future, if at all. It's pretty much a fantasy at this point. As for why I find these particular species attractive, it's hard to say, though I attempt to answer that question on my FAQ:

Q. "Why are most zoos attracted to dogs and horses, rather than sheep, cows, and other barnyard animals?"

A. "Dogs and horses are closely related to us from a social standpoint, in that they give and receive affection and trust much like humans do. They are also easy to find and keep in most communities, which makes owning a dog or a horse a perfectly natural and normal thing for a person (zoo or otherwise) to do, and thus they don't attract attention like other species might outside of a rural environment. Dogs and horses also have a wild spirit that is largely absent from domesticated mammals, and this can be very appealing. [The same is true of wolves, deer, and dolphins.] Further, canines and equines are very sexually motivated [also true of wolves, deer, and dolphins], and if there is mutual trust and respect between them and their masters, sexual intimacy can follow easily."

>i really cant understand this and want to know.

I am more than welcome to answer any questions you might have, and I will answer them seriously and professionally. It took me years to come to grips with my sexual identity, and if I can make it easier for others to understand how I feel, my struggles will have been worthwhile.

>do you fuck dead animals and if so ,are they better than live ones?

<grin> No, I've never "been" with a dead animal, but I can tell you right now that such an encounter would never compare to being with a live one. A live, willing animal will not only allow you to make love with it, it will make love _back_ to you. To know that an animal has accepted you and trusted you in the most intimate way possible is a marvelous experience, and necrophilia means that the animal cannot consent, and therefore it cannot accept you and trust you. You have no way of knowing whether it would like what you were doing. Non-consensual sex is a very risky business, and I am unaware of any circumstances under which it could ever be considered "love." I want to look into my lover's eyes, and to know that he or she can look into mine. Dead animals don't kiss, they don't hug, and they don't grab a hold of you and screw the living daylights out of you. That's reason enough for me.

P.S. Oh, and if I could make some grammatical suggestions: the anonymity of the 'net is no excuse for sloppy keymanship. Sentences should begin with a capital letter and be separated by a space. All punctuation marks should be followed (and not preceded) by a space. And you might check your contractions: can't, you're, etc. Thanks for your e-mail, and I hope to hear back from you.


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