# "Actaeon Seeks a Mate"

## Oregon SWM zoo, 30-ish, seeks like-minded female for childless LTR

Greetings....

For each person on Earth, there is one perfect counterpart, without whose presence life is incomplete. Most people live out their days without ever meeting that special someone: they settle for second best, and forever wonder what might have been. I am not content to simply wonder: I want to _know_. My only real regret in life is that I have no one with whom to really share it, and it is for that reason I now seek a soulmate.

The basics: I'm a single white male zoophile ("zoo"), about 30 years old, living alone (but with my two dogs for company) in Oregon, USA. I am mildly bi-curious, and with the right man I might be able to be intimate, but I consider myself primarily straight with humans. I'm seeking a woman who's interested in a long-term relationship based on mutual respect and caring, for each other and for our animal partner(s). Like most zoos I've met, I conceal my orientation and behave myself very well: I'm not "out" to the public, and I won't embarrass you with stray comments or unusual behavior in front of friends or family. Yes, that's right, you _can_ take me home to Mother. :)

There are two major stumbling blocks I've faced in dating via traditional means:

First, my future Significant Other must accept my zoophilia: it's too important a part of my life to push aside. I came out to my parents in October 1997, and I have been pleased by their reaction: they're not thrilled, but it hasn't changed our relationship. I haven't told any other non-zoos (except for the therapist my parents initially sent me to) about my sexual attraction to animals, but I'd want my SO to know up front, and _I_ would want to know that she was comfortable with it. Ideally, she would be a zoo herself, for I would be most at ease if I knew I could be completely honest without offending her. I know there are many women who are zoo-friendly without being zoos themselves, but much of the joy of sharing a common interest is the sharing itself: I would feel guilty having an essentially "extramarital" affair my partner could not appreciate as well. Besides, if I happen to see an attractive animal, I don't want my partner to feel insulted if I stare. I'd like it best, in fact, if she were staring right alongside me. :)

Second - and this is almost as limiting - is that children are simply not in the picture for me. I do not wish to start a family, nor inherit one, of any age group: I'm just not interested in having kids. For one thing, should my zooness ever be discovered, the teasing my children would take would be unbearable, and I will not subject them to that. So if you're looking for a father to your children, or if having a family is very important to you, I must be honest with you and say, with regret, that I am not your man.

My main interests include dogs, horses, wildlife, outdoor activities (including hunting, as ironic as that may seem for a zoo), Star Trek, and Macintosh computers. In private e-mail, I can tell you much more.

I am honest and fair in all things, and I expect the same in return; I don't play head games or lead people on. I'm not looking for a one-night stand or someone to "experiment with," nor am I simply a wanker looking for a photo op and a quick thrill. My goal is a long-term relationship: for life, if she'll have me. I will treat my soulmate like an adult, give her the freedom to live as she chooses, and support her in all that she does. When she needs me, I will be there. When she needs privacy, I'll not intrude. If she wants time alone with her four-legged lover(s) (if any), I will smile knowingly and give her all the time she needs. We will communicate openly about all things: there will be no secrets, no supressed emotions, and no hidden agendas. I won't park my butt on the couch and ignore my household duties. I won't sacrifice a quiet conversation for a basketball game. I won't eat a meal from behind a newspaper. And I won't interrupt her favorite TV shows (hopefully, she'll return the favor during Deep Space Nine :).

I consider myself a 90's man, and always treat people with respect. I have an even temper and can't recall yelling at anyone in anger since my school days. I have no bigotries or prejudices against race, creed, color, gender, sexual orientation, etc. Politically, I am moderate in most things; I avoid emotional discussions, preferring instead to debate quietly and with reason, when I bother to do so at all. Marital counselors say most healthy relationships have arguments, but I've never been comfortable with that philosophy: I'd rather discuss things rationally, whether I win or not. Life is too short to try to make everyone agree with me.

I have many friends (all respectable), am well-regarded in my community, and have kept out of trouble. I am gainfully employed, with a good credit rating, no debts, no criminal record, no enemies that I know of, and no emotional baggage. I am well-mannered and clean of body, mind, and mouth (although I do swear at my computer sometimes :). I neither smoke nor use drugs, and very rarely drink: only on social occasions (seldom even then), and never to excess.

I don't wear jewelry, cologne or expensive clothes: I prefer function over fashion. My hair is of reasonable length, I have no tattoos, and nothing is pierced or ever will be. I'm just over six feet tall and just over 200 lbs, and would like to find an athletic woman who can inspire (or help) me shed some of the latter.

As for my sensual side, I will refrain from cheap details. I am still a virgin with humans (though no longer so with dogs), and am saving myself for a "special someone." I consider myself a romantic: creative, inventive, and original; I believe the most important part of a woman's body is her mind. I can honestly say that if a buxom blonde were to stroll by in a sheer bikini, I would barely notice, and I would certainly _not_ stare. (If she's walking a dog, however, all bets are off. :) I am gentle and loving, believe in taking my time, and do not enjoy giving or receiving pain or degradation of any kind. The kinky garments, gadgets, and porn flicks many men consider arousing barely turn my head. Nose rings and other bodily mutilation are turn-offs as well.

I know I face some hurdles: while it isn't difficult to find intellectual women who love animals and the great outdoors, the number of zoo or zoo-friendly women who don't want children and who don't mind that I hunt are rare indeed.

I welcome polite conversation from all corners of the world, but I especially desire local correspondence (Oregon, Washington, Northern California, etc.). As I say, I don't lead people on, and it would be unfair of me to enter into a lengthy e-mail exchange with a woman thousands of miles away, only to dash her hopes when we can't afford to meet in person. Alaska is an exception, though: I wouldn't mind visiting there again. :)

Many thanks for the time you took to read this ad, which grew longer each time I tried to shorten it. :)

I hope to hear from you soon.

> Love,
> Actaeon

### Questions and Answers:

Since I put this ad on the 'net, people have been sending me more questions than offers. :) I decided to answer a few of them here. Apologies if some of them are offensive, but I want to be honest with people.

Q. What would you do if you came home and found your human partner having sex with her dog?
A. I would ask if she needed another pillow. :)

Q. Suppose she were having sex with _your_ dog?
A. Depends on how close we are in a relationship. If we're close enough to share each others' homes and lives, then sharing my animals with her is a small hurdle. However, if I bring her home for the first time, and as soon as (or even before) I leave the room, she flings off her clothes and gets it on with my animal(s) without even asking first, well, we have a problem. Trust is essential.

Q. How would you feel if your partner told you that having sex with an animal was better than sex with you?
A. I have no ego to bruise, and I have heard from enough zoos that sex with animals is so wonderful that such a revelation from my partner would not offend me. I don't mind playing second fiddle to her four-legged lover(s), as long as I'm allowed to be part of the orchestra. :)

Q. If you're looking for a human partner, how do you know you're really zoo? You could be fooling yourself.
A. I knew from the age of 13 I was "different" when it came to animals; long before I had feelings for humans, I was turned on by dogs, horses, etc. If I've been fooling myself, I'm doing a great job of it. :)

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