>>4089
Search outside of furfandom

unless you're into super awkward nerdy gay dudes or batshit insane fat chicks you're not going to have much luck finding dates among furries

also it sounds like you have a serious case of Nice Guy syndrome, you might want to work on that

Your best bet with trying to find someone is that you try too hard. When I found love I had given up on trying to search for Mrs. Right. So work on the you being a door mat and stop trying so hard. It will find you.

>>4090 Dat.

>>4090
This and if they can put up with your furriness it's an added bonus <3 I got lucky with my girl and she became a tiger after never hearing of the fandom.

You want someone to be with you for who you are, not just for something in common

>>4089
Hire prostitutes, it's cheaper and they'll not backstab you, you'll assume they already have diseases, so you will not get infected by their dirty

Pick diferent whores that don't know each other.
Take only barely enough money to pay them, hide the rest.

Use only one ID card, driver's licence or identification.
(Dogtag if you're in the army)
Always use condoms.
Keep a hidden blade.


If you want to have sex with someone you can trust.
Buy a dog.

>>4092
I probably do have the nice guy syndrome going on.

Just kind of pissed because I've been told that being in the military and being online pretty much gets you set. Not the case it seems.

don't let your fetish dominate your life, grow your own personality and abilities, be something more than some fetishist on the internet. Find someone that you like for who they are and if they enjoy your fetish/hobby then that's great, otherwise there's no need to share it.

>>4099
>I probably do have the nice guy syndrome going on.

Being a nice guy only leads you to be used.
you _WILL BE USED_ if you are nice.

You'll be used, thrown away and people will talk about how nasty you are for being so nice!
Every tiny little mistake you make, will be a loathsome act of mostruosity!
And after the 100th doing what the other person wants,GOD FORBID you thinking of yourself, you're SELFISH.
"You were nice before! What happened baby?"
You'll only attract parasites by playing nice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=eQH5-7TJSdI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=c6xU_CPE310

>>4100
I completely agree.

>>4103

I hate how true your post is...

>>4095
Not gonna happen.
People will "like" you for:
* What you can do for them;
* What you own;
* Sex;
* Climb the social ladders.

They'll stay around you to:
* Avoid inner fears (to be alone, to be single, to be rejected);
* Family pressure;
* Pregnancy;
* Not be alone;
* Share rent / household;
* Easy living;

>>4112
Most people do, this is why there are so many religious people in the world.
And there are people who do drugs too, in case they're not religious.

>>4135
You make it sound like all there is around to be with is fucking charity cases. I've been through too much to deal with children and deadbeats.

Not everyone is so superficial.

>>4137
That's true.

There are exceptions.
I don't expect the exceptions to be the rule.

>Not everyone is so superficial.
No, not everyone.

>I've been through too much to deal with children and deadbeats.

The best way to avoid them is to be aware of their existence.
In case you're telling me I'm a charity case, child or deadbeat.
It's ok too. I take responsibility for it.

The only solution I have came across was tit for tat.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tit_for_tat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=48EWLj3gIJ8

Real life is slightly more complicated.
Superficial people wear non superficial masks to attract people to exploit.
Non superficial people wear superficial masks to not hurt too much.

We live in a highly competitive environment. (Sometimes predatory and hostile)
In a highly competitive environment with low resources, people tend to be act in a predatory way instead of a cooperative way.

http://vimeo.com/9657824

Honestly I doubt that I'll ever find someone worth it.
If I ... I haven't even thought of what I'm gonna do but I'll value the person.

>>4139

Your post amuses me really, but the way you talk about this information, it makes me feel like you are a paranoid conspirator.

Now obviously there really is a survival of the fittest motive that has been around since the dawn of existence. It's just the goal that people compete for now is superficial. I-phones, over-sized houses, brand new cars, the list goes on; all pointless except to show status. All of which I could less about.

I choose not to be in this ratrace, but enjoy the fruits that it benefits to me when I receive them. If you let it consume you then that it fine, more power to you.

>>4140
*sighs*
Maybe I'm too cynical.
Maybe I'm just trying to find people in the wrong place or the wrong way.

Anyway...
Most furries I have dated were single for a reason.
The only two exceptions ended up breaking up with me because they didn't want a homosexual relationship.

The only advice I can offer without "sounding paranoid or a conspirator" was already offered.

>>4092
>>4090
>>4093


Sorry if I offended or were misunderstood.

>The only two exceptions ended up breaking up with me because they didn't want a homosexual relationship.

This confuses me very deeply. Were they the opposite gender of you before you broke up, and then broke up because you suggested they get a sex change to become the same gender as you?

Else, how could you have been in a relationship that wasn't already homosexual at the onset. A relationship cannot BECOME homosexual, it either is or it isn't.

>>4148
The don't become gay, they just decided to live it or not...
Most decide not to...

"Oh I love you but I don't want to be seen as _____"
"My family wants grand kids"
"It's against my religion"
"You kno' it's a sin right?"
"mom and dad will be disappointed"
"mom and dad already hate you"
"what will people think about us"
(Some are at least honest)
"We're never gonna be accepted"
"I can't stand people staring all the time"
"I'm risking my job if they find out"

I can't blame them...
Life will be easier for them...

>>4148
and I almost forgot my "favorite"!

Blaming the victim for the crime!
That's a fantastic argument!

"You wouldn't be discriminated/hated/bullied/beat if you weren't gay to begin with!"

I am happy being single, but I do have my eyes on someone that is new to the fandom. I can definitely say I am more hardcore of a furry than she is, but she is new to the fandom... Its a typical case of "I always liked to draw anthro, I just had no clue that there was like a subculture for it!!!"

So yeah. Pic realated, its me and her in advance drawing.

>>4177
> I am happy being single
If both of you are happy being single, you can be happy together!

>>4177
>happy being single

You poor soul, how can you live with yourself? D:> i hate being single, it's made me so depressed and lonely and sometimes i even cry :(

and the feeling of it all is just so heartwrenching ;-;