I am strongly opposed to adults punishing children out of children's own interest. But given the bleak outlook of my vision, I want parents to consider at least three things. First, what you demand of your child may not be necessary. For example, it is not necessary for your child to study from time to time each day to reach a certain length of total hours of study over several years of your child's life. Again, for example, attending school is not necessary to be accepted into college, and the correlation or causality of the two in the broader population may not apply to the causality in your child's specific situation. The waste of freedom by micromanagement is another example of a complex issue. In the case of reprimands, emphasizing your child's failure to follow rules and discipline is not justified, considering that you can instead emphasize the end goal of the matter. In terms of punishment, micromanaging waste freedom, but punishment for a longer term purpose may be harsher than punishment for micro matters, and the two need to be weighed. Consider the following two examples: if the goal is stated in terms of a 5-year deadline, then it would take a horrific punishment to threaten a person with completing the task within that 5-year period; if the goal is stated in terms of a 1-day deadline, then there is the problem of "I'm in a bad mood today, and I could have done it two days later, so why do I have to do it today". At the same severity and effectiveness of one time of punishment, a more macro management should always be pursued. Second, reprimands and punishments may not be the least amount of reprimands and punishments that will achieve the results you want to achieve or can be replaced by remedial behaviors. For example, you may think that the threat of punishment of copying a sentence 100 times will get the child 80% of the points, but in fact only 12.5 times may be needed, and other forms of punishment besides copying may be more in line with the child's wishes and equally effective. In fact, copying is always completely unjustified because it has no advantage over remedial learning. Third, it is possible for the child himself to tell you what kind of punishment he wants and how he wants to be reprimanded. He is the only one who knows the way to force himself to do something in a way that minimizes the cost of freedom. When your entire reprimand and punishment of him is strictly in accordance with what he actively and enthusiastically asks of you in a state of mind which is entirely free from the pressure of other people, and when he can withdraw such a request at any time (cf. the practice of safe word), he is actually completely free. However, I say all these because my vision has a bleak outlook. I am adamantly opposed to adults punishing children out of children's own interest.

I left those schools and am now free. In recent years, I've often chosen to spend time writing these things instead of doing something I need to do, but I haven't screwed anything up. I can't imagine how invasive and ruinous it would be to my life and psyche if someone controlled and reprimanded me for the distraction of the time I spend writing these things from the other things I need to be doing. That's rhetorical; I can certainly imagine it.

我坚决反对成年人出于孩子自身利益而给孩子的惩罚。但是考虑到我的愿景前景黯淡，我希望各位家长至少考虑下面三件事。一，你对孩子的要求未必有必要。例如，孩子每天从几点到几点学习不是孩子数年来学习总时长达到一定长度的必要条件。再如，上学不是被大学录取的必要条件，并且两者在更广泛人群中的相关性或因果性未必适用于你的孩子的具体情况中的因果性。微观管理对自由的浪费是另一个例子，这是一个复杂的问题。就训斥而言，强调孩子没有遵循规则和纪律是没有道理的，考虑到你可以转而强调事情的最终目的。就惩罚而言，微观管理浪费自由，但是针对更长期目的的惩罚这可能比针对微观事项的惩罚更严厉，两者需要权衡。考虑下面两个例子：若是以5年的期限提出目标，那么就需要极其恐怖的惩罚来威胁人在这5年内完成任务；若是以1天的期限提出目标，那么就会出现“我今天心情不好，我本来可以过两天在做的，为什么非要让我今天做”的问题。在每次惩罚的严厉程度和效果一定的情况下，总是应当追求更宏观的管理。二，训斥和惩罚未必是达成你想达成的效果的最少的训斥和惩罚，并且可以由弥补性的行为替代。例如，你可能认为，抄写100遍某句话的惩罚的威胁才能使孩子得到80%的分数，但是事实上可能只需要12.5遍，并且除了抄写以外其他形式的惩罚可能更符合孩子的意愿并且同等有效。事实上，抄写完全没有道理，因为它和弥补性的学习内容相比毫无优势。三，由孩子自己告诉你他想要什么样的惩罚、希望被如何训斥的可能。他是唯一知道以自由的代价最小的方式逼迫他自己做某事的方法的人。当你对他的全部训斥和惩罚都是严格按照他在一个完全无其他人的压力的心态中主动和热情的向你提出的要求，并且他可以随时撤回这种要求的时候（参照安全词的实践），他实际上是完全自由的。然而，我说这些是因为我的愿景前景黯淡。我坚决反对成年人出于孩子自身利益而给孩子的惩罚。

我离开了那些学校，现在是自由的。近几年来，我经常选择花时间写这些东西而不是干一些我需要干的事，但是没搞砸什么事。我想象不到，如果有人因为我花在写这些东西上的时间对别的事的干扰约束和训斥我，他的做法对我的生活和心理将是一个多么大的侵犯和毁坏。这是修辞；我当然能想象到。