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to my reasons, despite his confessed inability to parse my explanations together into one that (for him) had made sense.\nOn my end, I had to admit that 'hetero-asexual' isn't the ideal term to describe my orientation proper (on that we both agreed).\n\nSo what is this paradoxical 'hetero-asexual' I ascribe to myself?\n\nWell, first let's get into how and why the conversation began.\n\nThe above friend and I were discussing DeviantArt, specifically in regards to the drama many seem to find there. I understood but couldn't relate as drama tends to avoid me---I've experienced some in my day, but not for many years now.\nThe nearest to drama I've known recently came from a watcher who believed I might be secretly gay because of my art, so I introduced the matter into the call with my friend.\n\nConcisely, the aforementioned watcher noted the only nude characters I draw are male, and though they are often of interest to female characters, the males tend not to reciprocate interest.\n\n...Which is true ...and I've written entire articles explaining why that is (so I'll be sparing explanation here).\n\nPoint being, the watcher doesn't like my 'hetero-asexual' description,\n\n\"I think you can't be asexual and straight at the same time, as (I think) one is the absence of the other\"\n\nWell, I'm a confessed contrarian---it's nothing I'm proud of or chose for myself, it's just the way it is.\n\nAnyway, let's see what is meant by 'asexual' (Webster's),\n\nasexual (adj.) without sexual feelings or associations\n\nWithout 'sexual' feelings... Hm.\n\nWhen I think of 'sexual' I connote action to it (which is fair). But what is 'sexual'?\n\nFrom Webster's,\n\nsexual (adj.) relating to the instincts, physiological processes, and activities connected with physical attraction or intimate physical contact between individuals\n\nThat which may be described as 'sexual' is quite broad and subjective, hence for the sake of specificity, I'll confine the range to the most generic and obvious, ie, to copulation, kissing and other intimate things folks do behind curtains.\n\nHence, 'heterosex' (n.) would mean 'sex with one of one's opposite gender', or ('heterosexual') one who has (this)'.\n\nI don't have or like sex/the action of sex (for myself), hence I am 'asexual' or (perhaps more befitting) 'nonsexual'. 'Hetero-nonsexual', perhaps?\n\nAh, what about that 'hetero' part? After all, if I'm not into sexual things, how can I have a gender preference?\n\nAgain, 'sexual' connotes activity---I don't want sex, but if I did it would be with a woman (and let's not forget I was in a hetero relationship that began as a sexual one).\n\nUsing my art as a reference, I'm only truly comfortable placing (say) Timmy in the eyes of female characters. Let's also be mindful that Timmy is among the OCs whom I use to represent myself in art---Timmy is me/I am Timmy.\n\nSo, a preference exists where there should be none---I want female interest ...but not the sex.\nAdditionally, while I cannot deny ego is involved here, I'm not completely narcissistic---certainly not to the point of orientation (no idea how that'd work, anyway).\nI mean, if I were so, I'd value attention in a general sense, and would respond to and encourage flattery.\nLet me inform the reader that I don't consider myself attractive---I'm old, overweight, and have a double chin. So though I may don myself in Canali shirts and Alberto jeans (presentation, presentation), I would never describe myself as handsome.\n\nWhen I said this to my friend on the phone, he said I like (or say I like) women because of my Christianity, and if it weren't for that, I'd be more open/honest (denying the possibility of asexuality).\n\nWell, my faith certainly doesn't help here, but it's not the determining factor of hetero- vs homo- for me.\n\nOur conversation got a bit tense after this, since my friend thought I might be homophobic, thereby (momentarily) derailing the conversation.\n\nI'll say I'm not at all homophobic---I'm nearing my 40th orbit and never once has another's homosexuality affected my life in any meaningful way. That is, I cannot hate since there's no basis for it.\nEven if an excuse for hate existed, I would (at the very least) like to think I'd direct my displeasure to the individual/s who caused it rather than cast an angry blanket over an entire group or population.\n\nThat said, I know most of my watchers appreciate my honesty, so I'll not withhold it here.\n\nWhere it pertains to me, as an individual person with my own set of likes and dislikes, preferences and prejudices, I will say homo sex is not something I want to be involved in (any more so than a homosexual wants any involvement in heterosexual activity).\n\nThe very concept doesn't appeal to me (and it doesn't need to).\n\nA 'hater' extends their dislikes to the participants themselves. That's where things usually go awry ...therefore, I want no involvement in hate (either).\nThis includes any hate held in secret---there is (again) no basis for hate of any kind (on my end), and hate kept inside would eventually eat its way through (and who wants that?) :3\n\nAt the extreme least, I draw naked cubs---sometimes with adult characters---I couldn't rightly judge another if I tried! XD *shot*\n\n...Anyway.\n\nPoint is, while I may not be 'attracted' to women (as in, say, wanting to study their curves, etc), I like (and want) their attention ...at least for my characters (who, again, represent me).\nAnd, again, this liking for attention isn't properly narcissistic, on the basis of preference and dearth of encouragement conducive to it (that is, I don't 'play' people).\n\n...And if I don't mention this now, others will ...so, yes, I've depicted Timmy with Vacak and Herman (respectively), but those were special draws and (in the case of the latter) I made an effort to point that out.\n\nSo, 'hetero' applies to me, and my 'hetero' derives from my enjoyment of female attention, without negating my disinterest in sex.\n\nWhy do I like such attention?\n\nHell if I know...\n\nIn my cartoon world, the female characters like male characters---the female interest is natural and (by extension) willful.\nThis interest would be reciprocated by my male characters (who like females), albeit by lesser degrees (my female characters do not represent me, hence their feelings are more 'outside' and 'different' from my own).\n\nThat is, it's always the female characters in my world who make the first move, and the males respond to it.\nGene, for example, could be talked into holding paws with Brown Bunnie, but Tasli would have no luck there ...ever. :3\n\nSo, male interest in Gene (me) wouldn't be reciprocated; there's a 'block' in the way.\n\nThat is, my mind registers a difference between female and male signals thrown at me---my mind accepts the former and disregards the latter, by nature (rather than by will or intent).\n\nThis block preexists my personal *faith; it's not a choice or an act of willfulness or discipline---it's simply 'there'.\n\n*on a final note about faith's involvement---one's faith may help one determine or assist in one's discipline pertinent to one's orientation, but will not (and cannot) take it away or exchange it for one preferred.\n\n...Additionally, I acknowledge that to say something 'simply' or 'just' exists reads like an opt-out of examination, but truthfully I view my use of these words as a consequence of the limitation of my vernacular and/or my knowledge of human psychology.\nIn other words, I dunno how to phrase it in (well) other words. ^^\n\nEither way, this block (IRL and fantasy both) extends also to cubs (kids) and furries (animals)---it's just a natural block that has nothing to do with a pre-established morality nor with any social conditioning; it's (sighfully) 'just there'.\n\nYet, in me, no such block extends to women, hence I describe myself as 'hetero-'\n\nTL;DR: I cannot be gay, so I am not. The only thing I could be is hetero, as I've no psychological block for women ...but since I've no interest in sexual activity, I'm (also) asexual. :3\n\nIn conclusion, I wouldn't find (say) Miss America particularly attractive (seen one swimsuit model, you've seen them all, IMHO).\nDespite that, I would likely blush (IRL) if Miss America (or most any woman) told me I was cute ...yet I would turn her down flatly if she asked to sleep with me (and, yes, I've turned down invitations for sex from friends IRL, after my initial relationship ...so I know this to be true).\n\nSo how else to describe my orientation as anything other than,\n\nhetero- (I like female attention; I respond to it/reciprocate ...in small doses that deliberately bars the bedroom door) asexual? :3\n\n...Last, such's why (in my art) Gene only seldom responds in turn to Brown Bunnie's affections ...despite how comfortable the two are together, and why Timmy's friendships are almost always platonic if not one-sided (on the part of the female). Both are true-to-life and I'm cool with that. 8)\n\nIt's contrary, I suppose, but it's also the facts on the matter (as I see them). :3 ","description_bbcode_parsed":"Just had a very long phone conversation with a friend wherein the topic of sexual orientation came up.
I referred to myself as 'hetero-asexual', to which my friend (who is homosexual) said,
"That is impossible as one cancels the other out"
Challenge accepted. :3
Sparing many details specific to our conversation, my friend bowed to my reasons, despite his confessed inability to parse my explanations together into one that (for him) had made sense.
On my end, I had to admit that 'hetero-asexual' isn't the ideal term to describe my orientation proper (on that we both agreed).
So what is this paradoxical 'hetero-asexual' I ascribe to myself?
Well, first let's get into how and why the conversation began.
The above friend and I were discussing DeviantArt, specifically in regards to the drama many seem to find there. I understood but couldn't relate as drama tends to avoid me---I've experienced some in my day, but not for many years now.
The nearest to drama I've known recently came from a watcher who believed I might be secretly gay because of my art, so I introduced the matter into the call with my friend.
Concisely, the aforementioned watcher noted the only nude characters I draw are male, and though they are often of interest to female characters, the males tend not to reciprocate interest.
...Which is true ...and I've written entire articles explaining why that is (so I'll be sparing explanation here).
Point being, the watcher doesn't like my 'hetero-asexual' description,
"I think you can't be asexual and straight at the same time, as (I think) one is the absence of the other"
Well, I'm a confessed contrarian---it's nothing I'm proud of or chose for myself, it's just the way it is.
Anyway, let's see what is meant by 'asexual' (Webster's),
asexual (adj.) without sexual feelings or associations
Without 'sexual' feelings... Hm.
When I think of 'sexual' I connote action to it (which is fair). But what is 'sexual'?
From Webster's,
sexual (adj.) relating to the instincts, physiological processes, and activities connected with physical attraction or intimate physical contact between individuals
That which may be described as 'sexual' is quite broad and subjective, hence for the sake of specificity, I'll confine the range to the most generic and obvious, ie, to copulation, kissing and other intimate things folks do behind curtains.
Hence, 'heterosex' (n.) would mean 'sex with one of one's opposite gender', or ('heterosexual') one who has (this)'.
I don't have or like sex/the action of sex (for myself), hence I am 'asexual' or (perhaps more befitting) 'nonsexual'. 'Hetero-nonsexual', perhaps?
Ah, what about that 'hetero' part? After all, if I'm not into sexual things, how can I have a gender preference?
Again, 'sexual' connotes activity---I don't want sex, but if I did it would be with a woman (and let's not forget I was in a hetero relationship that began as a sexual one).
Using my art as a reference, I'm only truly comfortable placing (say) Timmy in the eyes of female characters. Let's also be mindful that Timmy is among the OCs whom I use to represent myself in art---Timmy is me/I am Timmy.
So, a preference exists where there should be none---I want female interest ...but not the sex.
Additionally, while I cannot deny ego is involved here, I'm not completely narcissistic---certainly not to the point of orientation (no idea how that'd work, anyway).
I mean, if I were so, I'd value attention in a general sense, and would respond to and encourage flattery.
Let me inform the reader that I don't consider myself attractive---I'm old, overweight, and have a double chin. So though I may don myself in Canali shirts and Alberto jeans (presentation, presentation), I would never describe myself as handsome.
When I said this to my friend on the phone, he said I like (or say I like) women because of my Christianity, and if it weren't for that, I'd be more open/honest (denying the possibility of asexuality).
Well, my faith certainly doesn't help here, but it's not the determining factor of hetero- vs homo- for me.
Our conversation got a bit tense after this, since my friend thought I might be homophobic, thereby (momentarily) derailing the conversation.
I'll say I'm not at all homophobic---I'm nearing my 40th orbit and never once has another's homosexuality affected my life in any meaningful way. That is, I cannot hate since there's no basis for it.
Even if an excuse for hate existed, I would (at the very least) like to think I'd direct my displeasure to the individual/s who caused it rather than cast an angry blanket over an entire group or population.
That said, I know most of my watchers appreciate my honesty, so I'll not withhold it here.
Where it pertains to me, as an individual person with my own set of likes and dislikes, preferences and prejudices, I will say homo sex is not something I want to be involved in (any more so than a homosexual wants any involvement in heterosexual activity).
The very concept doesn't appeal to me (and it doesn't need to).
A 'hater' extends their dislikes to the participants themselves. That's where things usually go awry ...therefore, I want no involvement in hate (either).
This includes any hate held in secret---there is (again) no basis for hate of any kind (on my end), and hate kept inside would eventually eat its way through (and who wants that?) :3
At the extreme least, I draw naked cubs---sometimes with adult characters---I couldn't rightly judge another if I tried! XD *shot*
...Anyway.
Point is, while I may not be 'attracted' to women (as in, say, wanting to study their curves, etc), I like (and want) their attention ...at least for my characters (who, again, represent me).
And, again, this liking for attention isn't properly narcissistic, on the basis of preference and dearth of encouragement conducive to it (that is, I don't 'play' people).
...And if I don't mention this now, others will ...so, yes, I've depicted Timmy with Vacak and Herman (respectively), but those were special draws and (in the case of the latter) I made an effort to point that out.
So, 'hetero' applies to me, and my 'hetero' derives from my enjoyment of female attention, without negating my disinterest in sex.
Why do I like such attention?
Hell if I know...
In my cartoon world, the female characters like male characters---the female interest is natural and (by extension) willful.
This interest would be reciprocated by my male characters (who like females), albeit by lesser degrees (my female characters do not represent me, hence their feelings are more 'outside' and 'different' from my own).
That is, it's always the female characters in my world who make the first move, and the males respond to it.
Gene, for example, could be talked into holding paws with Brown Bunnie, but Tasli would have no luck there ...ever. :3
So, male interest in Gene (me) wouldn't be reciprocated; there's a 'block' in the way.
That is, my mind registers a difference between female and male signals thrown at me---my mind accepts the former and disregards the latter, by nature (rather than by will or intent).
This block preexists my personal *faith; it's not a choice or an act of willfulness or discipline---it's simply 'there'.
*on a final note about faith's involvement---one's faith may help one determine or assist in one's discipline pertinent to one's orientation, but will not (and cannot) take it away or exchange it for one preferred.
...Additionally, I acknowledge that to say something 'simply' or 'just' exists reads like an opt-out of examination, but truthfully I view my use of these words as a consequence of the limitation of my vernacular and/or my knowledge of human psychology.
In other words, I dunno how to phrase it in (well) other words. ^^
Either way, this block (IRL and fantasy both) extends also to cubs (kids) and furries (animals)---it's just a natural block that has nothing to do with a pre-established morality nor with any social conditioning; it's (sighfully) 'just there'.
Yet, in me, no such block extends to women, hence I describe myself as 'hetero-'
TL;DR: I cannot be gay, so I am not. The only thing I could be is hetero, as I've no psychological block for women ...but since I've no interest in sexual activity, I'm (also) asexual. :3
In conclusion, I wouldn't find (say) Miss America particularly attractive (seen one swimsuit model, you've seen them all, IMHO).
Despite that, I would likely blush (IRL) if Miss America (or most any woman) told me I was cute ...yet I would turn her down flatly if she asked to sleep with me (and, yes, I've turned down invitations for sex from friends IRL, after my initial relationship ...so I know this to be true).
So how else to describe my orientation as anything other than,
hetero- (I like female attention; I respond to it/reciprocate ...in small doses that deliberately bars the bedroom door) asexual? :3
...Last, such's why (in my art) Gene only seldom responds in turn to Brown Bunnie's affections ...despite how comfortable the two are together, and why Timmy's friendships are almost always platonic if not one-sided (on the part of the female). Both are true-to-life and I'm cool with that. 8)
It's contrary, I suppose, but it's also the facts on the matter (as I see them). :3 ","writing":"","writing_bbcode_parsed":"","pools_count":0,"title":"Hetero-Asexual: What is?","deleted":"f","public":"t","mimetype":"image/jpeg","pagecount":"1","rating_id":"1","rating_name":"Mature","ratings":[{"content_tag_id":"2","name":"Nudity","description":"Nonsexual nudity exposing breasts or genitals (must not show arousal)","rating_id":"1"}],"submission_type_id":"1","type_name":"Picture/Pinup","guest_block":"t","friends_only":"f","comments_count":"11","views":"80","sales_description":null,"forsale":"f","digitalsales":"f","printsales":"f","digital_price":""}